WHY IS MY TODDLER ACT OUT IS IT BECAUSE HE TURNING TWO?

Latasha - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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HE IS ACTING OUT ! I TRIED TO GET HIM OUT HIS CAR SEAT THIS MORNIG HE LOCK THE DOOR THEN I OPENED IT HE KICKED AND SCREAM AND I STARED AT HIM I HAVE NEVER SEEN HIM BEHAVE LIKE THIS! SO I FINALLY GOT HIM OUT OF THE CAR SEAT AND PLACED HIM ON THE GROUND ,SO THAT HE COULD WALK IN THE HOUSE WITH ME HE STOPPED AT THE BREEZE WAY AND STOOD THERE. I LAUGH AND CALLED HIS NAME..... HE STILL DIDN'T WALK SO BY THIS TIME HE WAS MAKING ME UPSET SO I TOOK THE BAGS IN THE HOUSE AND RETURN FOR HIM. I GRABBED HIM BY THE HAND AND HE DRAGGED HIS FEET AS IF HE WASN'T GOING TO MOVE. I BEGIN TO WALK HE SNATCHED BACK AND FELL ON THE GROUND SCREAMING AND KICKING AND HOLLERING .(KEEP IN MIND I DO SPANK WHEN NECESSARY) BUT THOUGHT THAT SOMETHING HAD BEEN TERRIBLY WRONG WITH MY SON.I TOLD HIM I HAD TO GO TO SCHOOL AND WORK SO I DIDN'T HAVE TIME FOR HIS NONSENSE AND HE WHIMPERED.IS IT BECAUSE HE TURNING TWO OR IS IT BECAUSE HE IS SUFFERING SPERATION ANXIETY?

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Caryn - posted on 11/05/2009

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First, I think grabbing his arm and dragging him is just plain wrong. He is a baby and doesn't understand why he's being treated that way. I understand your frustration, kids can cause that sometimes but that is no reason to act like a child yourself.

A lot of toddlers do this, its a sign of their indepence and also a testing of your patience. It can also be a cry for attention, positive attention.

Make sure you are spending a lot of one-on-one time playing/laughing/singing/reading with him so that he feels like he's getting the attention he needs. If he throws a fit, ignore it, don't punish him because most of the time he probably didn't do anything wrong and it will just confuse him. Instead, reward him for good behavior. For instance, if you get him out of the car and he nicely walks into the house like you asked him then give him a bit of praise. Little kids LOVE to be praised and the more you praise him the more "good" things he'll do.

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Paula - posted on 11/20/2009

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I my self have a 2 and 1/2 year old and when he feels like it can be very stuborn, I know that he understands what we expect from him, if you ask him to go and get his cup he gets it, tidy up his toys he trys, when he throughs a temper tantrum it is a complet melt down, he bits hits screams ect. when he is finished you ask him if he is allowed to bit mommy he says no. So a 2 and 1/2 he is complety understanding. Don't make a big fuss over your little ones "bad" behavior when there is a melt down let it happen, then talk about and make him/her say sorry, (verbal or a kiss or a hug) just remember paitents is the best. when frustrated remove your little one from the situation and come back in 5 min to look at it again.

Lisa - posted on 11/06/2009

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Up until now, he couldn't do things because he wasn't physically capable of doing them. Now he is discovering that there is a whole world of things he can do that he isn't Allowed to do because you, the Mom, are teaching him how to be a responsible, well-behaved person.

Welcome to the "Terrible Twos."

The best thing to do is be firm, but loving. Don't ever stay mad when they have been terrible because 30 minutes after that tantrum, he barely remembers that it happened. Just remember that he is testing, testing, testing! He thinks, "I wonder what Mom will do if I do this? or that? Will she react that way Every Time?" It takes about a year for them to really grasp that you are the boss and just because he can do something (climb on top of the refrigerator, for example), doesn't mean that you are going to let him.

Yes. The best thing to do for a fit is to put him in his room and ignore it. Then love him up big time when he calms down and starts behaving himself.

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