Will not be a sahm for next 6 mths!

Venessa - posted on 11/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

96

10

4

I have 3 kids, 12, 6 and 16 mths and have been childminding for the last few years for some extra cash. Well I've been very unsettled recently and felt that i needed to do something different for myself (for a change) so on Tuesday morning I am starting a fulltime course (business through computers). I've had to get a childminder (my cousin) and sort out all the school runs etc and I'm very excited but very, very nervous! I have been in the house fulltime for the last 4 years and it's great that I am doing something just for me but I'm also scared about how we will cope without the stability of me been at home and taking care of everything and making sure it all works out. DH has to take DS to the dentist on Tuesday as I can't be taking off on my 1st day. Dh has never brought the kids to the dentist on his own as that's my job and I'm actually feeling quite guilty about leaving them. Help please, someone tell me it'll all be ok!

6 Comments

View replies by

Jane - posted on 12/02/2009

1,488

32

227

glad it's going well! you've laid good ground work and now you can do something for you and get worshipped in a few days when you come thru the door. ;)

Venessa - posted on 12/02/2009

96

10

4

Thanks for asking Jane. It was very good. Lovely bunch of people. Can see myself making some really good friends and of course reconnecting with some old ones. one person I haven't seen since I left secondary school and we just picked up where we left off, it's lovely. Coping very well with the work too so far. Children doing perfectly ok without me (surprise surprise). DD sick this evening but thankfully DH off tomorrow so he can look after her. So funny having to worry about childcare, definitely not used to that. It'll be very funny going out tomorrow and leaving him at home with them, few more days of that and I'd say he'll appreciate the role of the housewife.

Jane - posted on 12/02/2009

1,488

32

227

i hate handing over kid responsibilities. i'm very bad at it. i feel very deeply that, "they're MY babies!"
how was your first day?

Venessa - posted on 11/30/2009

96

10

4

Am getting very nervous right now! I have to go in an hour and register and getting all the info about the course. Starting tomorrow morning. Nerves shot, stomach in bits.

Venessa - posted on 11/28/2009

96

10

4

Thanks Jane. A full lunch, now that sounds like a treat. I had to do an exam last week to get in to the course and I met a few people who I was friends with in school who were also trying to get into the course. These are people I haven't seen in years and it was lovely to see them and I'm really hoping that they get on well and I'll be able to reconnect with them!

I know they'll be ok, I know it's just me been a bit selfish about handing over responsibility of my job to anyone else even DH, how could anyone possibly do things as well as I can?

Jane - posted on 11/28/2009

1,488

32

227

it will all be okay. you've cared for them this long and you'll see just how well. i'm sure they can deal with things as well as you've taught them to. and as i'm learning, dad's don't do things the way we do, but as long as the goal is met and everyone is there to kiss good night at the end of the day, it's all okay.

i worked for six months when our first was 6 mos old and all i did all day was worry about her even though she was home w/my husband and his mom. but i did enjoy eating full lunches and having adult conversations while i was at work.

it will all be okay!

p.s. i'm sure the dentist is savvy at handling dad's in the office. :)

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms