won't poop on the potty

Ashley - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I have a 3.5 year old little girl and for the life of me I can not get her to poop on the potty... She will go pee on there all the time and has for sometime now... HELP!!! I am out of ideas


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Taren - posted on 02/18/2009




Ok, so I have probably the silliest reply. But it worked for my daughter. Same problem. Well I told her that the potty eats poopy (we don't eat poopy that's gross) But if we don't feed the potty it gets hungry. Then the next time she went poop I moved the lids of the toliet seat up and down and said "thank you so much, I was so hungry" and she laughed and since then she's gone poop in the toliet. Sometimes I catch her talking to the toliet...really funny!

Megan - posted on 02/18/2009




My daughter did the same thing when she was being potty trained. It is so stressful, but be patient. It will come in time. We tried not to push her b/c she was scared to go poop, but would pee no problem. So we let her poop in a diaper while still trying to encourage her to go on the potty. Over a few weeks time, she tried it and we rewarded her greatly with praise and stickers. Bribery does work wonders! We then started a sticker board for everytime she went on the potty. Potty training has been the worst stage so far and I hate that I have to do it again soon. Just don't push too much and she will get it....

Harmony - posted on 02/18/2009




Have you tried putting a "target" in the toilet?  You can make a fun game by challenging them to pee or poop on the target.  Good targets are fruit loops or a small piece of colored paper. 


Ashley - posted on 02/17/2009




thanks ladies will have to give this a try....My daughter won't even ask for a pull up.. She just goes in her panties. And says change me when shes done hmmm. Thanks again so glad I am not alone :)

Paula - posted on 02/17/2009




Although my girsl are much older...I have a friend whose son would not go poo on the toilket and kept going the pull ups. I would suggest not using the pull ups at all, if you can and just use training underwear. The pull ups make it comfortable for them to wet in.When they get tired of the icky wet/soiled feeling maybe they will go in the potty. Also, I used sticker charts eveyr time they went potty & got 2 for poo!

Jeanne - posted on 02/17/2009




Hi, this worked for my nephew, he also had to have a pullup on to poop. So they started cutting a hole in the pull up or diaper and then he would sit on the toilet with it on and it would go into the potty. They did not let him know that there was a hole in it so he was surprised when he didn't feel it in his pants. It worked right away. Good luck

Heather - posted on 02/17/2009




Usually they go poop in the same area of the house all the time. So, with my daughter it was her closet. I just stuck her little potty in the closet until she felt comfortable to go in the bathroom.

Claudia - posted on 02/17/2009




I am in the same boat with my 3.5yr old son.  He will wear his underwear all day long and will go pee in the toilet at home, at restaurants, stores, etc.  But when it's time for poo, he will go get a pull-up and put it on, then ask for me to change him.  It's become "normal" for him to do this.  I've tried treats, tried to bribe him with favorite toys, let him go naked for up to 2.5 days and he simply held it in. So I posted a rather similar request for HELP and got some great tips.  Here is what we are working on now.

He used to put his pull-up on and go stand up on his indoor slide thingy we have and go poo in the corner of that. 

#1 Now the rule is you put on your pull-up and you go to the bathroom (without any toys) and you poo in your pull-up IN THE BATHROOM and call me when you're done.

#2  We take the pull-up off in the bathroom and let the poo go in the toilet (unless it's too soft, you know what I mean) lol  and he gets to flush.  We use wipes to clean off and immediately put on the underwear/pants back on in the bathroom.  (No more changing table, he is way to heavy for that!!)

We've been doing this for about 1 month now.

The next step in this training is for him to go poo in his pull ups but he must sit on the toilet seat.  This is supposed to be the transitional phase to get him used to actually sitting down while he is pooping.

The lady that gave me this advice said once he's used to this part, you try to make a hole in his pull-ups so the next time he sits down in his pull-up on the toilet it actually goes right into the toilet!    and VOILA

She said she told her son  "WOW look at that, you're so strong your poopy just burst a whole in your diaper - that means your too big to wear diapers anymore, no more diapers for you!"

I'm hoping this works!

Best wishes and know that you are NOT alone, lol!


Erin - posted on 02/17/2009




I had to take a whole week off to get my son potty trained. I didn't put any clothes on him and he ran around the house naked for week but it worked. He hasn't had an accident since.

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