wondering if there are any adoptive moms with rad kids out there???

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User - posted on 08/21/2012

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My husband and I have adopted three older children with RAD. They were 8, 10 and 10 when they came to live with us. One of them was so severe that he tried to kill our dog several times. He told his tutor that he wanted to watch someone die. I used to make sure there was a chime on his door and would lock my bedroom door every night before going to bed. All three of my kids have come a long way. Still extremely exhausting, but there is hope! It helps to have a good therapist who understands RAD.

Missy - posted on 02/12/2009

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RAD is very closely related to ADHD an ODD...they tend to all go together...I gathered up all info I could find and then met with our family doctor. She then referred us on after reading the info I took her. Unfortunately, RAD is not widely known and I have very much been the educator to doctors and the school..I will do what it takes but it is not easy! Good Luck!

Kat - posted on 02/12/2009

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My kids aren't adopted, but they were abused by their biological father, and after I became aware of it we struggled with homelessness [bouncing around for several months]. My oldest, who's 6, just started therapy because of his separation anxiety and anger problems. After seeing this post, I looked up rad out of curiosity, and it sounds exactly like my 3yr old! Any advice on how to bring it up to a doc?

Natalie - posted on 02/12/2009

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Just know that you aren't alone and don't take it personally- I know it is easier said than done...  I try to look at the positive, like he isn't in jail yet!  He still makes it to school most days... He has friends.  I think that having a teenager who has reactive attachment disorder is even more difficult, so sometimes I just pretend he is a typical teenager and that someday he will outgrow it- I know that's not the case, it just makes me feel a little better.

Missy - posted on 02/12/2009

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We have been trying to work on the "brain wrinkles" but do not have any centers nearby...we live in rural Iowa! I go back and forth between wanting to keep them out of jail and actually sending myself to jail...lol Life is certainly never dull with a RAD kid!

Natalie - posted on 02/12/2009

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My family thought I was so mean.. blah blah... until they spent more than a couple of days with him... now they know how sneaky he is.  If you can get them in a therapy center that can try to "remap" their brains, they will have a better chance at life.  My son's psychologist fired us... said there are kids that will work with him who are on a waiting list and was wasting his time on my son (who wouldn't work with him).  My son's psychiatrist said that our biggest goal in life will be keeping my son out of jail.  I was told that if a child goes to a special therapist who has training in remapping their brains before they are 8 years old, the child has a chance of changing his/her attachments in life.

Missy - posted on 02/12/2009

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We have three adopted children as well as four biological...My little "rad-lets" are 9 and 7 and have been with us since they were 4 and 2 1/2...we have been in and out of therapy and just continue to struggle with their ability to trust me as their mom...it is soooo frustrating!!! Oh and we live in a small town and everyone has an opinion.....

Natalie - posted on 02/12/2009

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I have adopted 5 children and my oldest (17 y/o) has been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder.  Do you have 1 or more with this disorder?  How old are they?  We adopted Em when he was 9 and have had many experiences with this disorder in the past 8 years.  Mostly negative experiences...

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