worked up about having a boy

Beck - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I am not pregnant I'll say that first but I want to have another baby. I want to have a little boy of my own, I already have a step son who I have known since he was six so I never saw him as a baby, and I have 2 little girls aged 2 and almost 1. I remember I expected t have a boy for my second one even though i hadn't found out what I was having and when she was born I had a hit of disappointment when she was a girl and it took me a little while to get used to the fact I didn't have a boy.
I really want to have another child and for it to e a boy but I am so scared I am going to have another girl and resent the fact she wasn't a boy as my husband and I have decided we are going to have one more (most likely) and thats it, no more after that.
I will find out what I'm having so I can get used to it but is it worth the risk? Do I really go for one more at the chance of having 3 girls in the end?

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Ive got three sons and number four due in august, be happy with what you've got and that they are all healthy. Chances are you'll end up with another girl. Cant believe you were disappointed when your daughter was born think you need your head read love. When i found out i was having my boys i was delighted and would have been so no matter what sex they were.

Nikki - posted on 05/11/2010

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I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted a BOY!!!!!!!! but if my first ended up being a girl I don`t think I would have been heartbroken or upset and wished I wasnt pregnant I would have loved her just the same. We plan on starting trying again and Id love another boy, but same if it`s a girl Ill be just as happy. I really don`t think I could think of having another baby as a risk and resent the fact they are not the gender I wanted them to be, they are my child and Id be happy to be blessed with another one , more love to go around!!!!!!

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Beck - posted on 05/19/2010

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no what I expected was support not judgement. You went about your reply the complete wrong way. I have met many a mum in my position so woo hoo for you being the perfect mum able to produce such love and care when you have your babies without any second thoughts

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As a mother i have never had the dramatic feelings you've mentioned when i planned all my pregnancies i planned to have a baby not a boy or a girl. You posted this so expect people to disagree with you or keep your feelings to yourself.

Beck - posted on 05/17/2010

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@Susanne, I don't need to be judged about how I feel. As mothers we all go through dramatic feelings when our kids are born. How dare you say that to me. That disappointment I felt was very breif but there none the less. I now love my daughter with my whole heart and would never change her for all the boys in the world

Alicia - posted on 05/13/2010

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There are ways of increasing the chances of a boy. Male sperm is faster than female but also dies faster. To have a boy you need to try and conceive within 12 hours of ovulating. Having orgasims at the same time helps pull the semen into your uterus, also in a postion that puts the sperm close to your cervix. Also eat alot of bananas and apples, and avoid acidic foods like soda and that will help your body be a better enviroment for the male sperm.

Nothings 100%. My husband and I have a boy and girl and no that we are TTC again we are using those methods to try for another boy.
Hope this helps!

Kate - posted on 05/13/2010

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For each of my 4 pregnancies l wanted a girl, but l have 5 boys. One more pregnancy to try for and at this point l'll be very happy to have another boy. Yet l'd still be thrilled to have a girl. l reallly don't understand 'having another baby to try for the boy/girl we haven't had'. A baby should be had because the parents want another child, not just for the sake of having a boy or girl specifically.

Kelda - posted on 05/13/2010

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But really, I wanted a boy after my girl. I bought a book called how to choose the sex of your baby. After trying the techniques for 8 months with no luck I threw the book away. I PRAYED to GOD to bless us with a healthy child no matter what. He gave us a very healthy boy.

Kelda - posted on 05/13/2010

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Be thankful you can get pregnant, be thankful you have a healthy baby no matter what gender.

Jane - posted on 05/11/2010

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have you tried timing things so you increase your chances of having a boy? get a 7-pack ovulation kit at Target or Walmart, generic brand is fine. count your 14 days after your period and take the test twice a day, once when you wake up and at night before you go to bed. track when you are ovulating for the three days. then the next month, do the same and when you are almost done ovulating or are just done ovulating, have sex. that gives the egg time to be there before the sperm arrives and it increases your chances that the sperm getting to the already present egg will be boy sperm - it moves faster and dies off quicker than the girl sperm. and don't let him have sex before that day, it gives the sperm more of a "go-getter" aspect.

good luck!

Beck - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have been thinking about it and I thought if I had another girl then it really wouldn't be that bad. She has two older sisters to play with and then my husband and my stepson would be free to just have each other as the boys on the family. I suppose it wouldn't be so bad but I just really want my own son you know. Lucy is right tho, I would rather have happy healthy babies than worry about whether it is a boy or a girl.

Lucy - posted on 05/11/2010

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I don't really understand the mentality of being desperate for one sex or the other, I was just happy to have healthy babies. Having said that, I have known lots of women who feel the way you do, Beck, and it must be tough so I wouldn't do you down for it. You feel how you feel!

I think if I were in your shoes I would really think about whether you really want another baby, regardless of it's gender. If you (although you would like a boy) could be content with another girl, then go for it. But if you feel the arrival of another girl would cause you further anguish, I wouldn't have another and would focus on the family I have. I just don't think it's worth the risk of having a child that you may resent and have difficulty bonding with.

Maybe it would be worth thinking about adoption at some point?

Good luck with whatever you decide x

Jenna - posted on 05/11/2010

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We have 1 boy and we were hoping for a girl. But nature intervened and we are having another boy. Unfortuantely, I am done having children. I just don't like being pregnant, having been so for the past 3 years almost. So my husband and I agreed that we will wait and adopt after a few years or find a surrogate if the technology has caught up in picking out a girl or boy.

Louise - posted on 05/11/2010

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I am also the opposite I had two boys and was really upset that I had not had the little girl that I had longed for. My husband did not want any more children and I left it for a long while before I apporoached him again. In fact there is a huge age gap between my teenage sons and toddler. Any way I decided that I wanted one more and I was prepared to have yet another boy. I did however read up on likely hoods and found that girl sperm swims slower than boy sperm so I had sex immediately after a period and not at ovulation time. All I can say is it worked a little girl I have now got. She was worth the 15 year wait! If you can live with the fact that there is a 50/50 chance on having another girl then go for it, but you have to be prepared as it is not the childs fault what sex they are. Good Luck.

Jessica - posted on 05/10/2010

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my sister had that problem...she has two boys and would like a girl they decided that they will try once more to have a girl and if they get another boy then they will try the adoption process

Samantha - posted on 05/10/2010

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I was same way I had two girls and when i found out i was pregnant with my third i was so hoping it would be a boy i even got the gender predictor test and it said boy so i was so worked up over ultrasound time came and the baby would never show like 3 weeks before i had my c-section in february of this year i found out it was another girl at first i was like okay we are done having kids and i never got my boy but looking at her and seeing my three girls together i am so happy i dont think you will resent it i was a little disappointed at the ultrasound but then i thought of all the wonderful things i do with my other two girls like play dress up and stuff and i am glad i get to do it all again!

Marcia - posted on 05/10/2010

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Funny,
I'm the opposite. I have a little boy and I really want a little girl, but I'm afraid to try because I might get another little boy. I think you might have to leave that up to fate, and I highly doubt that you will resent your child should you become pregnant with another little girl. I think you should sort your feelings out first before getting on board on having another child. Good luck to you!

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