Working mom's jealous of stay at home mom's?

Om - posted on 12/26/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm a stay at home mom of two young boys(nearly 1 and nearly 4), but lately my family, my sister in particular criticizes me because I do not work. Yes, I do not have a paid job where I contribute to my own health insurance, taxes, retirement benefits etc. And she says things to me about how awful my husband's health insurance must be if we have a high deductible(my sister is a teacher, so she is in a union and they pay hardly anything for health insurance) My kids are also on SCHIP insurance because we cannot afford for them to be on my husband's insurance, it would whip out his paycheck! And my sister comments that our kids can't be on SCHIP because they are suppose to be added to my husbands, regardless of whether we can afford it or not. Then she makes comments to me like, these are why people work so they have health insurance? Does anyone else ever experience this? I mean being a stay at home mom isn't always easy and I repeatedly say that to my family that it really isn't a "walk in the park." It's as if she's jealous that I stay home with my kids, but it isn't always easy like she thinks. No paid vacation, no sick days etc and in fact going to the doctor is next to impossible when your a stay at home mom because you are the childcare and I literally have no one in the day time to watch my kids so I can go to the doctor alone! We don't make a lot of money and really do watch our spending. Working for my would be pointless as there is no job that I could do in my local area that would even cover for daycare. Thanks.


Shannon - posted on 12/27/2013




To be human is to want what we can't have. The working mom's are jealous that the SAHM can wears sweats, the SAHM are jealous that their working girlfriends get to go to lunch in nice clothes. It;s just the way the world is. Only show her the happy positive aspects of your life and I agree with Michelle, keep your finances to yourself.

Michelle - posted on 12/27/2013




I would stop telling her all the ins and outs of your finances to start with. She doesn't need to know where the money is coming from where your childrens insurance comes from either.
Tell her to mind her own business and you have every right to live the way you want to.


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Rachel - posted on 12/27/2013




I think there's jealousies that go both ways. I read a great article recently from a HUSBAND about how his stay-at-home wife has it harder than he does: . It helps put things in perspective to hear a working person say it.

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