Worried

Amanda - posted on 09/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am worried that my man is unhappy since my daughter was born . I been with my boyfriend since I was 5 months pregnant . He use to sing to her and talk to her he went to ever appointment with me even tho she's not really his. But since she's been born he kinda with drawn himself from both of us . She is 6.5 months now she says dada all the time an sometimes he will spend time with her . What I scared if us he's cheating he didn't know anyone around he so I told him make friends an he did he will disappear for hours an not answer his phone nothin so as a women first thing pops n my head he's cheating , then today to top it all off he got fired for sexual harassment but he said he never did anything . What do I do I feel like I being pulled cause I love him to death an don't want my daughter to go without a dad but I don't wanna b used wait her any ideas

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Sylvia - posted on 09/07/2013

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a lot of guys feel neglected during the "babyhood" and if you haven't had a strong foundation in your relationship to begin with, the cracks might be starting to appear. There is a lot of jealousy even though the guys would never admit that. A doctor told my friend to be merciful after the baby was born, because as mothers we tend to put our relationship on hold and forget about our men, even though we don't think we do. I couldn't be merciful, because I was too tired, impatient and too selfish to think about sex but I also have been with my husband/boyfriend for 10 years prior to having our first child. We had a strong bond and got through it.
If you are having doubts, your intuition is probably right. I never mistrusted my husband. Try to pay more attention to him and see if it makes a difference. Otherwise, this just might not be meant to be. Good Luck.

Kim - posted on 09/05/2013

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Part of a relationship is trust. If you already don't have that, there isn't much to build on. Take your concerns- worded carefully- to him. Don't accuse, just let him know you are feeling like there is a change in your family dynamic. It could just be part of the evolution of partnership- the honeymoon phase being over.

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