worried about juggling time with my son n new baby

Teri-Lyn - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




i have a 17 month old son and im due again on march 16th, my sons already upset with me since i can't chase him around like i could before, any tips on making sure my son gets a good amount of 'mommy' time while still caring for the newborn and not running myself completely ragged?


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Nikki - posted on 03/01/2010




I have 3 children all two years apart, they are now 9,7 and almost 5. When my second child was born i tried to include my 2 yr old son as much as possible, asking him to fetch things for his new baby sister, holding the bottle etc. But i also got him a small doll to play with, sounds silly but it worked a treat! When i fed my little girl he would sit with his 'baby' and feed it and he would even change the dolls nappy when i changed my daughters. i would even get him a small bowl of water so he could bath the 'baby' while i bathed my little girl! It just makes them feel important and also allows you to spend time with both children at the same time. I also bought him a small present and gave it to him the day my daughter was born, i told him that she had picked it out for him, he realised that she wasnt so bad after that! lol
I did the same things with my daughter when my youngest son was born and i've never had any issues with jealousy or acting up. Hope it helps! Good luck with the new baby!

Tamara - posted on 02/25/2010




My boys are 2yrs apart and it can be hard for alittle while. My son was alittle mad at me when I was preggo. He used to run down the ailses in the grocery store so I'd have to chase him. When the baby came and when I was ready I used to take the baby to grandma's every so often for an hour and take my oldest to lunch or for ice cream. Maybe take him when you need to run the small errands and leave the baby with daddy. Mine always loved that. I still take the oldest to mommy and me outings tomorrow is Disney on Ice. Good luck. I'm sure you'll figure it out.

C - posted on 02/24/2010




First thing to do is take a deep breath and enjoy your children, you'll fit into a groove soon. Just try to sneak in time with him throughout the day. One example from my life- after nursing our youngest I would hand him off to dad to burp so I could then snuggle the older one while they had their evening cup of milk.

Theresa - posted on 02/24/2010




I'm about to be in the same boat. I have a 17 month old daughter and expecting baby March 15. I do have two older boys though. They will be 14 and 11 in March. When the second was born I made sure that I spent the one on one time with #1 when #2 was sleeping. Unfortunately you don't get to catch up on sleep much that way. When Daddy's home make sure one of you is spending as much time with your son as possible. Also try to include him in the baby's day to day needs. He could help get diapers or wipes, put clothes in the dirty clothes, etc. If you're bottle feeding he could help hold the bottle, if you're breast feeding it would be a good time for you and your son to read books together. i know my daughter loves books. When your son is napping, nap too if baby will let you. I know my mom is coming to saty with me for the first week after #4 arrives. I'm quite nervous about the closeness in age of these two. My daughter is not naughty, but she is VERY active, much more than either of my boys were. Good luck.

Tracy - posted on 02/24/2010




I feel your pain I was in the same boat . my son was born in 2001 and my daughter in 2002 . I took my son to all my appointment (prenatal) that I could. We she came home I allowed to help my with some of the care for her. When the baby was a sleep I took time to color or play with my son . there was times between keeping up the house baby bottle and everything thing else that involves a day I just couldnt seem to get enough time. I started having my mom or friend come by once a week and keep my daughter I would take my son to mcdonalds or the park for some mommy and son time.. try hard no get out of your and his special routines at bed time or morning that helps too.. hope this helps a bit i wish you luck

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