You are not a bad mommy!!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Lately I have seen a lot of threads and comments about how horrible mommy's are if they...
don't breastfeed
don't feed their baby homemade baby food
give their child juice...
It really hurts me to see these kinds of posts, because we are all trying to do what we belive is best for our children.
No, I didn't breastfeed. I couldn't produce enough for my first and last children and with my second child I was going through a divorce, and the fact that my husband who went to prison had stole all my money and if it weren't for my parent's I would have been living on the street, so I didn't even try, because I was already stressed enough.
No, I didn't make all my own baby food. I can my own applesauce every other year and fed my children that, but for the rest of the time, I fed them food from the baby food aisle.
Yes, my children drank juice from a very early age, because they all had constipation issues (and no it wasn't because of formula. My mom's family has all had problems from they day they were born, so has my mom, so had I, ...)
All three of my children are incredibly healthy, happy, and eat very nutritious food every day.
We are all here to encourage each other and help each other out when we need a little advice. We all may not agree with the advice that is given, because what works for one mom doesn't always work for another. That doesn't mean it is wrong! There is no need to put each other down and say hurtful things.


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Being a mom is a hard enough job, as long as you know you love your child/children and do the very best you can, you are doing excellent. All the different ways and ideas about what you should or shouldn't do, how or how not to are all subjective. Moms should just ban together and be supportive of each other! What is good for one is not always the case for another!! GO MOM'S!!!

Michelle - posted on 02/04/2010




Thank you!!! I think a lot of women are under this impression that we have to do everything perfectly or we're horrible moms. It's stupid to think that-- we're still human!!

All kids are different, all moms are different, and all of our situations are different.

Thanks for putting this out there.

Tanya - posted on 02/04/2010




I agree.. We are all moms doing the best we can and as long as you are giving all you got you are doing a great job. You will still lay in bed at night and think you could have done something different or better, don't beat your self up there is another day and as long as you are taking it day by day and learning and trying to be the best mom you can be then you are doing a wonderful job.. Go MOMs!

Natalie - posted on 02/04/2010




You're right! I think as Mom's we just try to be perfect and we will never be. Plus, some things aren't for every family, every mother or child.

I felt so bad when i had problems breastfeeding with my 1st child. I was depressed for a few days and crying, crying, crying because i felt it was the best for him but it hurt so much.... i then came in peace with myself, pumped as long as i could and substituted with formula. He's now 4, as healthy as can be and so smart. I know i did something right :-)

A lot of Mom's also tend o feel bad when other Mom's offer them "advice". They intentionally or unintentionally make them feel bad about what they're doing... that is really sad. Everyone has to make their own decisions and we should support each other. We all want the best for our children.

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