Your parents not approving of you being a stay at home mom

Stephanie - posted on 01/12/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My parents don't really agree with me not working does any one else have this problem? How do you deal with it?


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Stefie - posted on 01/13/2010




I had the same problem with my in-laws. My family actually really disapproves of me working.
It bothered me a lot that my in-laws disapproved of me. They made me feel lazy. So, I started talking about why we made this decision. I would love to work, but my husband is in the Navy and we are moving 4 times in the next 5 years. We decided to have our babies now and then I can work when they are older. I explained how we make more money by me making my diapers and food then me working and paying some one to do that.
You can just tell them about your decision process and the financial benefits that saving money does not cost tax.

Amber - posted on 01/13/2010




I get comments from people every once in a while. I just tell them that I don't want someone else raising my kids for me and my husband makes enough money to take care of all of us so why do I need to get a job right now? I'll get a job when they go to school and I get bored!

Natasha - posted on 01/13/2010




hey there

I'm in the same boat. I am very direct with them. This is my choice.

My baby is only little once and I want to spend time with him, watch him grow and see the first of everything, roll over, crawl, words, steps, etc.

In addition to this no child care centre can provide the love and care that you can as your baby's mum. There are a lot of centres that have 18 babies in a room and they cry wanting a cuddle but there's no time for them.

One centre left an 18 month old on a change table and the baby rolled off and now has brain damage.

Plus taking in the cost of child care, you need to earn at least $20 a day over the cost of the care to make you working worth while.

With the rate of drug abuse, suicide and communication problems between kids and parents, the more time you can spend with them all the better for their development.

If they still get on your case tell them its your child, its your choice. They need to respect your decision. If they can't support you then tell them you wont discuss your decision with them.

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