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Kenyetta - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I just read a conversation an it shocked me I was wondering......Is it fare to say that as a wife an mom that you have the entire responsibility of keeping your household together without the help of your husband after a hard day of work? If so why And How would/does that make you feel?


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Claire - posted on 03/29/2010




i feel that it doesn't hurt to share responsibilities . yes i keep the house clean do the washing ect. but my partner gets up at 6 with the baby every morning changes him feeds him then goes off to work, i look after the baby and the house through the day.. my partner comes home he baths baby feeds baby while im making tea he puts baby to bed then we eat and he washes up... im happy with that i feel he does enough. he goes out and earns and still helps me cant ask for better really however some people's partners/husbands are different its all about finding a balance that suits you ..x

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This is the way I see it:

My job is dealing with the children's needs. That includes feeding, bathing, school, carpooling, and entertaining.

My husband's job is his work outside the home.

I cook because it makes sense - I'm home and able to spend more time doing it. I also clean most of the house, but he pitches in in some ways (and does extra when I ask for help). Mostly his home-related "jobs" involve the house itself, such as maintenance. Much of that is outside - yard work, taking out the trash, etc.

Our division of labor seems to work pretty well. If your husband refuses to pitch in and you can manage it, try a house keeper. The money you'll spend is less than marriage counseling!

Grace - posted on 03/29/2010




It is my responsibility to at least keep the house in some working order. First and foremost it is most important for me to raise our baby. But as my husband put it the other day when I told him that he didn't have to help me with house work he said 'But honey, we're a team, and as a team no one person has to do it all alone. The other team half of the team can help out too' I just about cried with joy when he said that.

I do take being a SAHM a real job. I have the minimum amount of things that I make sure I get done each day, mainly dishes and general picking up of the house. But if I'm having a crazy day with the baby or anything like that my husband is more than willing to help out a bit. His only real task that he has to take care of on a regular basis at home is taking out the trash.

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