How Do I say NO to a disruptive step child moving BACK into my house

Jobaz - posted on 07/31/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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please help I will try to make this as brief as possible but it's a very long story. Short version is I allowed a 16 year old to move into my house after he refused to go back to his mothers house. I spent thousands of dollars and half of a year trying to get him back on track with school. He is disruptive disrespectful he's ran away he doesn't want to try he's just very lazy and it's just very bad vibe for my household when he is here. His father wants him to come back and live with us for this school year and I think that it's not a good idea. We do not have the time his mom has we both work. I pay more than 50% of the bills in the house and unfortunately his father actually works a little bit more than I do so the responsibility of him falls on my shoulders. The mother never speaks to me about him and I'm not consulted on any decisions that have to do with him but I feel like this is one thing I can say no to. I honestly AM ready to put my relationship on the line because I do not want to live the next 2-3 years feeling like I'm in prison because of the teenager. What should I do and how do I deal with my spouse. My spouse is very good when it comes to verbal arguments. I really need some help and some good ammunition for this fight.I apologize if I sound like a horrible person but at the end of the day I do think that the child will benefit from having someone around more often than not. Being left alone causes nothing but problems and that has been proven.

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Jobaz - posted on 08/09/2015

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That's the other great thing. The mother has full phy/leg . custody. On top of that her child child support for this child has continued to come out of my husband's check. While we have been taking care of the 17yr.old.

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