Do I still get a Baby Shower?

Madison - posted on 03/16/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )




I know you only get one baby shower, and its for your first kido. But what about when your husband has a son with another women, but he lives with us full time.


Michelle - posted on 03/30/2009




I personally think people should have showers for every baby!  Not for the gifts, but just to celebrate.  Of course my opinion is probably colored by the fact that my family was unhappy EVERY SINGLE TIME I got pregnant, and I needed support from my friends!  Sadly, I didn't get even that.  I had to throw my own shower the first time (family refused just because I wanted my husband there!) and that was pretty much it.


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Sandy - posted on 04/01/2009




I personally think that any celebration that is to honor a child is worth having!! Go for it

Barb - posted on 03/28/2009




I used to be against having a baby shower for each baby.  I was brought up you just had the one for the first born.  After reading your responses I am all for celebrating each childs new life.  You have changed me!!!  In a good way I might add.

Rene - posted on 03/28/2009




My SS was 4 also when my daughter was born and we had a shower. We did it as an open house (mainly because I was lazy and didn't want to find games or prizes). We made chocolate foot prints, wrapped them up and gave them away as Thank-you gifts when the guests where leaving. (We took a print of my daughter's foot in a mold and used that to make the chocolate foot prints). So everyone got something and it wasn't formal because for my honey this was his second child. Everything we needed (like a crib and stuff) was given to us by friends of ours because we had nothing and didn't have a lot of money.

I know that a lot of people may say that it is rude to have a baby shower for each baby. But I know that when (and if) we were to have another child (which would be three) I do a baby shower as an open house but write on the invitations best wishes only. That would then make the decision up to the individuals that come to the baby shower if they would still like to bring something, or only come to see the baby because it doesn't mean that you are expecting anything but things given will be much appreciated.

So it short yes you should definitely have a baby shower!!!!!!

Danielle - posted on 03/20/2009




It usually goes that the mother gets one baby shower with her first baby. I'm a step Mom and I haven't had any children of my own yet but I know when I do that I'll definitely be having a baby shower of my own. I dont see why you wouldn't be able to...

Sherri - posted on 03/19/2009




I've never heard of only having one baby shower!  Each child is a reason to celebrate!  How awful to deny any woman this right of passage, regardless of how many children she's had or the husband has had.  Silly, really.  It should be about the brand new baby.  you could always ask friends to not bring gifts.

Jamie - posted on 03/19/2009




Are you having a baby or do you want a shower for your hubbys baby? I am a bit confused and think some other people are. And isnt the child 3 or 4, so hes not really a baby. Im confused.

Misty - posted on 03/19/2009




If this is YOUR first baby then you should def get a shower from your family and friends and really since your husband is expecting with someone new (you) his family should give you one as well!

Heather - posted on 03/17/2009




I was a little confused - are you asking about a shower for your stepson, or for your first bio child?

I think you should have a shower for your first bio child - your stepson's mom should have had one for him.

I love the idea of having a celebratory shower for each kid, where the idea is not supplying mom with what she needs, but more to celebrate a new family member, so maybe you could do that to celebrate your stepson's entrance into your world!

Cheers and congrats, I don't think it probably matters as long as the intention is right - celebrating a child and not on the 'getting'

Ashley - posted on 03/17/2009




You should definitely have a baby shower! I hope your girlfriends and family see that! Congratulations!

That said, I believe a baby shower is more about celebrating the new life about to come into this world and less about "getting stuff". The girls in my circle throw showers for EVERY BABY. Its about celebrating life and feeling love and excitement for the baby. That doesn't change whether its the first baby or the 16th. The "stuff" is different. There are creative ways to get around the presents if it isn't needed or appropriate. Charity giving in the name of the new baby is one way... but definitely have the party and celebrate! What a great reason to have a party! Why not?

Jeanine - posted on 03/16/2009




YOU totally get a baby shower!!! You did not get a first baby shower for the other woman's baby!!! I say have your good friends throw you a shower for your FISRT BIO CHILD!!! congratulations by the way!!!

Victoria - posted on 03/16/2009




i didn't get one for my first,however i did for my second (6yrs), but i knoe preople who have 6 kids and got one with every kid. so it just really depends on who is throwing it for you.

Madison - posted on 03/16/2009




My step son is 4.

No, we dont have anything for the baby, his mother actually got rid of everthing, shortly after they didn't need it anymore.

My husband and I would like to have 4 more kids together as well, if that makes any diffrence.

Teresa - posted on 03/16/2009




This is your first biological child, right? How old is your stepson, and do you have everything you need for the new baby? No matter, I think you most certainly should have a shower!

I was a stepmom before I was a biomom, and I got a baby shower. We didn't have ANYTHING for a baby - SS was 3 when I married his dad.

Jamie - posted on 03/16/2009




I dont think you would get a baby shower, your husband maybe, but how old is the baby? Having a baby shower is to get the things you would need for your baby on the way. I think its ricdiulous my friend is having her 3rd baby shower for her 3rd baby, and the worst part is her younger 2 are less then a year apart, and they are both boys! I refused to go to the second and I will not go to this one.

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