Do you find yourself judging other moms? Or vice versa?

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Tell me about what you've seen and heard when it comes to forming opinions about other woman's parenting abilities and what your reaction has been.

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Mimi - posted on 09/15/2009

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i absolutely agree with christina! i will let my son throw a fit, yell, scream...the whole nine yards! and let people look at me and say what they want! my child will NOT be one of those spoiled brats who gets his own way because i am more concerned with making the public comfortable instead of being concerned with raising a decent and respectful human being. i too will say stuff to friends or family about their parenting skills, but that's family and friends. i would never say anything to a stranger unless i thought it was illegal or harmful to the child.

Robin - posted on 09/14/2009

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I think it's pretty normal to observe other mothers/parents and form an opinion about their parenting abilities and style. In a way I think we compare ourselves as sort of a touchpoint to say "am I doing good/bad - is there something I could change or learn?". Of course I don't say anything to those other parents except for compliment them if I learn some new technique for dealing with something or if I see something that's dangerous to their child (only if I know them). On the other hand, I'm also a stepmom and I have formed some very definite opinions about the BM's parenting abilities. Even in this case when we try to address an issue with my SS we try to do so in a way that conveys we should both work with him on the solution. Of course she doesn't see it that way but we have to try.

Christina - posted on 09/13/2009

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I have formed many opinions, but ultimately, I think kids turn out (usually) just fine. I do say something to some people at times, but only people i know and only in the nicest way possible.
I know that I am being judged, because I am the mom who doesn't give in to my kiddo. In the store, when he throws a fit. I let him. He screams and kicks and I just ignore him. I get stared at, even turn bright red, but I do it! He doesn't get his way by throwing fits, no matter how embarrassing it might be for me!!

I do get annoyed sometimes at the moms at the park. I want to smack some sense into them! Our neighborhood might be a little on the safer side, but we still have unsafe drivers. And these kids just run out into the street without looking and the mothers don't even bat an eyelash at it. It makes me so mad because there have been times that had I not been paying attention, these children would have been under my car. It makes me sad too.

Mimi - posted on 09/13/2009

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I have always thought that it's ok to have an opinion about other mom's parenting styles but to keep my opinions to myself! LOL! we all have done things as moms that other people think are bad or that we're making mistakes but we wouldn't want someone to tell us. how we raise our children is our business and we are doing the best we can and i try to give that same respect to people. you raise your kids how you want and i'll raise mine how i want and i will keep my opinion about you to myself as long as you do the same!

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