How many of you stepmothers feel your stepdaughter genuinely loves you?

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I want to drop a positive note on step-parenting. I feel so blessed! My stepdaughter's mother gave my husband and I a very hard time in the beginning, but my stepdaughter has always shown genuine love and admiration for me. Now, we have issues with her attitude sometimes, and she can be manipulative (i.e. "you're being the evil stepmom right now"). But I have no doubt in my mind that my stepdaughter genuinely loves and respects me. She is six years old, and I hope things will always be this way! Maybe this is wishful thinking, but nothing is wrong with that!


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Lisa - posted on 04/30/2013




I met my stepdaughter when she was about 14, right about the time I married her father. She is 22 now, married with a baby of her own. Her father and I split 5 years ago. She and her family have recently moved in with me and my 7 year old son (they came from his parents' home in another state) and we are getting along great! Her mother and I have been friends for a long time now and she has no problem sharing mother and grandmother status with me. My son loves having his sister in the house and plays video games with his brother-in-law. I basically took her father's place in her life as he was never there for her.

Teri - posted on 02/17/2013




I feel the same way about my stepdaughter! The biggest problem we had after we got custody of her was her mom getting upset over the child calling me mom. At the time she was too young to understand why her half siblings called me mom but her dad called me by my name when he refered to me around her. We have let her know that she can call me mom or by my name as she sees fit.

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Allison, that is so great for the both of you. Clearly you are a good role model for her, and I'm sure your husband is so proud!

Allison - posted on 02/13/2013




My step daughters mom is absent. So she took to me no problem. She's 8 and we are the best of friends. Talk about everything. I do get attitude but she apologizes after and we talk about it. I hope things never change either :)

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