New Group - "Positives of Being a Stepparent"

Tee - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )




Positives of Stepparenting has been created so that we can share the joys together of being a stepparent.

I noticed there were some complaints about this site being a place where people came to complain about the BM of their stepchildren.

Well here is a place where we can just enjoy talking about parenthood and sharing advice when it comes to stepparenting!!



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Tina - posted on 07/23/2009




How refreshing! It's not easy at times being a step mom of a 15 year old teenager, but from talking to friends who are the biological parent of a 15 year old, they aren't having it any easier. We have to find the positive approach to our role and acknowledge our position for what it is. Count me in on this kind of dialogue!

Heather - posted on 07/22/2009




my ss tells me he loves me all the time,, he makes me feel so special.... i couldnt love him anymore if he was my own son..

Girlio - posted on 07/21/2009




We get the kids for 2 whole weeks this month (BIG SMILES all around!!) We have had them for 4 days now. In these 4 days, I have been asked if it would be alright to be called "mom" while they are with us. I have heard how delicious the meals are (EVERY meal). We haven't spent a penny on doing "fun stuff" and had an amazing weekend down beside the river and beside the lake and going to the park. Both kids grab a hand each and we skip along the paths or sidewalks, we go rollerblading/biking (kids bikes dad and I rollerblade). We get morning snuggles every morning, and bed time stories every night. My daughter has begged me to marry her dad. And she changed the "desktop" picture on the computer to a picture of the four of us and said this is the BEST picture in the whole world! Its our family! I have had the best 4 days ever and it just seems to be getting better and better! I love my family!

Katherine - posted on 06/20/2009




Being call mom is heart warming, even the little things, like coming to me before her Bio mom, the cards she makes. When as asks ever day if i'll leave a note in her lunch box. When she brings friends home and introduces me as if she is proud of me. The "MOM you cleaned my room!!"like its a gift to her... after i have spent half the day in an angered rage throwing everything i get my hands on out, because its broken, shredded into "new clothes" and i'm tired of stepping on all the little pieces. I love the way she hangs over me in awe, when ever i'm doing something she is interested in. I love being the one that she runs to after her ball games, and all the important milestones. Every day there is always something that makes me thankful i'm here to enjoy this life with her and baffled by how i could ever think that little angel could do anything wrong...

Girlio - posted on 06/18/2009




My favorite part of being a step mom is that when dad picks them up and they come in the house, or are already in the house and I come in and the race over to me for hugs and kisses, I love yous, I missed you, and chatter on, both at the same time, about their week away from us. And when they show me the "art work" or whatever they smuggled for daddy and I to see (a stuffy or a t-shirt or a card they made). Then they run over to their plants and thank us for looking after them for the week. I love my Little Ones to bits and peices!! My least favorite is dropping them off again at moms house, cuz I miss the little monsters all week long!

Susan - posted on 05/21/2009




Being a step mom is great. I have 4 step kids, 3 grown boys ( 24, 23, and 21) and one 16 yr old girl. I always have said I'm just Sue to them. I love them all the same. My biggest surprise is on Mother's Day when they all called to wish me a Happy Day. That makes me feel great. They all have great respect for me and their "little brother". My 10 year old son. I have never pushed the issue of being a "step-mom" and it has been really good. This topic is really a good one. We all should be lucky to have good relationships with our kids.

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My SD is only 5 but after a few visits with her she asked if she could call me 'step-mom' instead of my name. It meant a lot to me while it lasted!

Debbie - posted on 05/18/2009




Tee, one of my SD's is only 4 years younger than I am and on the weekend I ran into some old friends and introduced her to them, she proceded to tell them that I was not only her mum but her best friend, she said it a few times after that!

Thats when you know you are doing something right!!!

Francesca - posted on 05/18/2009




i love that feelin also, just makes me feel like a mummy!!!(not got my own children yet) my ss's make me proud each time i see them x

Jennifer - posted on 05/18/2009




When you hear "Love you, too" from your SKs. Screw the mother's day cards & superficial stuff, this is the best.

Of course it's just as special coming from your bio-kids, but it can be especially rewarding when you've worked twice as hard (at least) to hear it.

Sorta melts away all the crap.

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