None of my business

Leah - posted on 01/02/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




recently I was told by the bio mom, that "her" kids were none of my business. I have been in the kids life for over 6 years now. I think she is feeling like I am stepping on her toes. I cannot help it that her daughter likes being with me better then her....needless to say we are no longer on speaking terms.....I truely believ that this type of behavior in completely childish. I am just done with her comments and the way she will put down my husband in front of the kids. He is an amazing dad, but if he is happy she goes out of her way to try to bring him back down.... IM DONE WITH IT!


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Lisa - posted on 01/07/2010




Dont take it too personally, she is after all the Ex and will always want to find ways to show that she is 'better' ummm all rather childish behaviour but be the bigger parent raise above it, help her see that you are all on the same level wanting the best for the daughter and the objective is to bring her up having an enjoyable childhood allowing her to grow into a responsible adult. Yep she gave birth to her but she doesnt have the right be be rude/inconsiderate about dad in front of the daughter, that is wrong and teaches the daughter that its ok to disrespect adults...however try and avoid say 'just like you' i find that isnt too helpfull ;-)

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I agree with the others Leah, you must draw a line/ make boundaries with things you will not tolerate. My BM also says things aren't my business- my thoughts are: 1. While she has not worked or meaningfully contributed to anything positive for the last 7yrs, I have; 2. I am married to their father; and 3. when they are here it is MY house they are in not hers; therefore it IS my business. I dont argue this point with her, this is just my standpoint. Besdies, legally, where I live I am considered a family member of the kids so....... basically she can SAY what she likes but tough luck. Good luck xoxoxo

Kelly - posted on 01/04/2010




This is what I did and it worked. Tell BM you all are on the same team. BM did the same to my husband. I told her I would NOT tolerate her speaking to him like that. It took awhile but now things are better. She only makes herself look bad when she disrespects dad around the kids. YOU BE THE BIGGER PERSON! We are all here for you to vent at!!! :)

Debbie - posted on 01/02/2010




Leah, bio mums tend to say and do alot of stuff, we would never see ourselves doing. The trick is to not let it bother you. They win if you let it get to you. Build a wall around you to keep the nastiness out. Keep on doing what you do for the kids b/c its for the kids not the mother and b/c you love their Dad

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