Not sure about this. . .

Jessica - posted on 08/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




My husband had custody of my sd (daughter). The bm called him yesterday and wanted to know if we could switch days. She would pick up my daughter on saturday and bring her back monday instead of friday through sunday. Because she is going to houston with her family because her brother had to do something with his cancer. My husband told her he would think about it meaning he has to talk to me about it. Like 30 minutes later she text saying never mind she would haver a family member there to pick her up. Well also in july bm get my daughter for the whole month and we get one weekend. Well when it came to or weekend to get her nobody was home and they would not answer their phones. My question is us knowing that bm is not going to be with my daughter until saturday night do we have to give my daughter to the family member?


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Anna - posted on 08/16/2010




which family member? and is the child happy to go with that family member? if so, leave it as arranged. if not then she'll have to either have the child saturday night and bring her back sunday (tell her that in writing and get her response in writing just in case she doesnt bring her back as arranged and it goes to court)

or wait until the next pre arranged visit. OR let BM have her saturday-monday.

give her the choice in writing that way you cant be accused of being awkward and keeping the child from her.

Tiffany - posted on 08/14/2010




I agree with Betty and Petra, Sometimes it's better to leave things be rather than cause concern when there really isn't a problem:) best of luck!!

Petra - posted on 08/09/2010




I'm with Betty Jean - if there is no real reason to make things difficult, then don't. I'm sure BM's family loves to spend time with your SD too, so unless there is a real basis to try to stop her, just let her go.

Betty - posted on 08/04/2010




Unless you can think of a good reason that you need to have her Friday and Saturday you should just let it go. Maybe the family member is looking forward to spending time with her.

Amy - posted on 08/04/2010




Honestly theres no clear answer for that. best I can say is follow the court order. If it says Fri 6 pm to sunday 6pm thats how our s was worded at least. Then she could try to make things difficult for you and hubby if you donot let daughter go. However!! I agree with you if she will not be there then why should you release her it is time for her to visit with daughter, you stated also that she is going with "family" to houston so whos going to be picking her up and who she would be staying with would be my issue right now...I say find out who Daughter will be with. It maybe someone you and hubby trust if not then you have a reason not to send her til Saturday. Its not too much longer in the summer if child is old enough for school the sat. to Mon. visits will not be able to happen too much longer. Over the summer we let our Daughter go to BM on Wed-fri instead of Fri- Sun. Our lawyer told us when we got custody of SD when you can work with BM do it. Be "nice" it makes you look better if we have to go back to court. Sorry if my rambling doesn't help I hope it does :)

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