She wanted to go against court order/divorce papers

Heather - posted on 03/11/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




So we all know that it's tax season and you can't turn on the TV without hearing about the recession and how everyone is loosing their jobs. I am grateful to have my job and that we are fairly "stable" with our finances. So, long story short, with the divorce papers between my husband and the ex is says that he claims the boy and she claims the girl each year when we file taxes. It hasn't been a problem for the last 5 years. BM calls the other day and asks my DH if she could claim both kids this year on her taxes (she is remarried too and they both work) and goes into this sob story about how they don't have any money and they are behind on bills and blah, blah, blah. He said that he would call me and talk to me about it and then he would let her know. Apparently when he said my name, she went balistic. She started cussing and screaming at him and wanting to know why it was any of my business and what in the hell did it have to do with her kids and that I had no reason getting into her f-ing business, etc. He told her that he needed to talk to me because it involved me and it was our money (mine and his) and that he would get back to her. When he asked me about it, I told him that I didn't think that it was a good idea because if we did it this one time then she would want to probably do it again but that I was leaving the decision totally up to him. He decided that he was going to tell her no. So he calls her and she is still pissy about it and just told him to F-off, to just drop it and that she would just suffer through it. Two days later the SKs come out to the house and they both have NEW CELL PHONES!!!!! I just casually brought up the new phones to the kids and they said that their mom had bought them and that they had also gotten new furniture, new clothes and some other stuff. So here's the question....if she is so hurting for money then why get the new phones (when there was nothing wrong with their old ones), take them out to eat every night (I don't think that she knows their apartment has a kitchen) and just be an all around bitch? OH!! And she asked if we could write her a check for half of what she paid for the new clothes. I told the DH that I wanted to see a receipt and to this day have not been given one. UGH! The whole situation is just frustrating. Thanks for letting me vent. STEP-MOMS UNITE!


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Heather - posted on 03/26/2009




well from experiance dont go against court order cuz she doesnt have her kids in mind 1st off. and 2nd she will throw it in ur face more and more because u went against it once so everytime she wants something she will throw it in ur face good luck hun. ex wifes arent any fun...

Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2009




I agree with you by saying no!  If roles were reversed she would not agree to let you claim both children on your taxes!  I am always trying to be nice to my husbands ex to have her shoot me in the face when ever she has a chance.  my husband always tells me don't do that for her she would not do it for you.  True so True!  I love your last sentense!





Sarah - posted on 03/11/2009




My hubby and I have been "nice" to his ex and done favors like that in the past, with the whole tax year exchange dance. We went back to court for a child support modification and had to show our tax returns for the pre. 3 yrs. When the Judge saw that we had changed this one time, for her benifit mind you, he was pissed. He told us that the court order is in place so problems don't arrise later that end up back in his courtroom. He told us that even though we were doing her a favor and she asked us to do it, we were both in violation and he could hold us in contemt. I was shocked as hell, but we never did it again!! And I told my hubby to ask the Judge what we do if she just decides to go ahead and claim my SS anyway, even if it is not her year to. (sometimes (most times) she gets her taxes filed before us) He said just to go ahead and claim him to and if the IRS has a ? about it they will see that there is a court order and she will be responsible for paying back the Gov. for what she gets. (He also threw in something about her undoubtedly getting audited for like the next 10 years too!!) LMAO!! Sorry but it was just too good seeing her face at that one!! ;-) Just be careful what you (or your husband in this case) let her con you into doing. I don't want to see you get into trouble just because some women can't get their parental shit togeather!!

Cheryl - posted on 03/11/2009




i really think there is something wrong with all the BM's who are not with the BF's. they are so deceitful and don't have their child's best interests in mind. why do we, the SMs have the child's best interests in mind when they are not even our own children???

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