19 year old stepdaughter wants daddy to herself? what do i do??

Rita - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been married for 3 yrs and have a step daughter that is now 19. Ever since I have been married she has spent every weekend with me and my husband and says even when she gets married she will continue to come stay the weekends with her dad. I work every other weekend and don't get time alone with my husband. Right now my step daughter comes usually Friday and stays until my husband goes back to work on Monday. I hate the fact that I have to spend every other weekend with her if I want to be with my husband and she gets every weekend with him. Lately she even has been not wanting her boyfriend to come down because she says she needs time alone but she has been with her dad. I found out through the grapevine that she has made the comment that she wants to move in with her dad and have him all to herself. I know it's because her dad spoils her and still treats her like a child and though she claims she has all these friends she really doesn't. Is it wrong for me to want her to only come down on my weekend to work so that I can have time alone or should I just get over it? Right now she has her Dad to herself when I work and then still has time with him when I'm off. I thought of just going my own way and do my own thing and let them have all the time with each other but I miss my husband. What can I do? Please help me.....

Also, should a 19 year old girl still be spending every other weekend with her dad or just coming and visiting for a little while and then going home? It's not like she is an under age child that needs to see her dad every weekend.


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Ashley - posted on 08/17/2010




I would plan out the week end do somthing with her or her and just your husband then make a date every weekend just the two of u explain that its your only time with him and its date night she can fend for her self for a few hours. Sounds like she needs a job

JAEN - posted on 11/28/2009




Think of it this way,once she gets a steady boyfriend she wont want to come and stay with daddy. This will not last long but if she knows it annoys you it will last longer!!!! Be supportive and welcome her with open arms (hide the gritted teeth) and your husband will love you for it too. Dont forget who sleeps with him- not her! Be generous with your husbands attention and let him think you welcome her with open arms, dont make him choose between you. It wont last long I promise !! Good luck, Jaen x

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