Was the BM nice ever to us SMs?

Hollie - posted on 05/28/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Was your BM very welcoming / best friends, or was she cold hearted down right B****???
The BM here knew me from the local pub here in town and i heard from others that he was going through a hard time thats why he didnt show up at the pub, next thing i went like a month later same pub! Just he showed up we talked forever and ever...couldnt wait 10 minutes to call me again / text and talk about seeing one another again. it was very sweet. I think she is bitter because now WE both go to the same pub and is there from time to time and we dance have a great time.


Jenni - posted on 05/30/2011




She was alright. We talked a bit via email and msn in the beginning of my relationship with my SO. She invited me out a few times but I sort of wanted to keep my distance, I didn't want things getting 'messy'.
We're pretty cool with each other for about 4 years nows. We've shared birthday parties and are always civil.

I 'babysit' for her every now and then. If SO is working. She asked me quite a few times if I could watch my SD for her when she is sick. She's also babysat our son for us. She only lives 5 mins from us so if we can't get either of our parents to watch our son, she has no problem.

She's even invited me to a woman's sex toy party. lol I did not attend mostly because I didn't really know anyone there. ;)

So yeah, for the most part we're civil and respectful of one another. She's not my fav person in the world and I'm sure I'm not hers but we do remain civil and avoid the cattiness. Mostly because I try to remain in the shadows and rise above any attempt on her part to lure me into a pissing match. :)


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Hollie - posted on 05/30/2011




sounds like you get along jennifer! i d never help out the BM here! as if! thats different never heard of it being like that

Brittany - posted on 05/30/2011




Ok so I will admit that I am not up on internet lingo but, I am guessing that BM = Birth Mother and SM= Step Mother....

My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship and she is 11. Her mom is awesome. My husband is 8 years older than me and I believe she is 9 years older than me.

We talk about all sorts of stuff. Especially when it come to the 11 year old. My husband, her daddy, is a down right nerd. He loves his children very much and does anything and everything he can for them but, as far as shopping for a pre-teen girl is concerned....he just lacks that skill.

I tend to do the present hunting for her. We have also sent items to his ex's youngest daughter. The youngest daughter's father abandoned them when she was young.

The ex is cool and we have had some good conversations. I would say we talk once or twice a week. Almost as if we have been best friends our whole lives.

Guess I am lucky.

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