Back to school after being a stay-at-home mom!

Keri - posted on 08/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I'm having a hard time coping with having to put my year old daughter back in daycare after a joyous summer of being a full time stay-at-home mom with her! I have very little help and have only been away from her once or twice over the last 3 months. At the end of last semester, the babysitter had just got Kailee to where she would cry for less than five minutes before falling asleep in the crib (prior to her being able to pull herself up), but when she's with me, I can only nurse her to sleep and I can just see her screaming for hours when the babysitter goes to put her down. I know that sometimes they just have to cry, and that it's okay as long as all their needs are met, but I just have the hardest time leaving her knowing how attached we are to each other and how upset she's going to be two days a week when I'm gone from her for eight hours. Any suggestions?


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I agree with what whitney says. It's hard not to feel bad when you have to leave them with a sitter, especially when they get upset when ur leaving. However, you are doing the right thing and you know it. Get your school done and keep ur eye on the prize. It will make yours and ur child lives better long-term. And, of course, enjoy every moment that you can with her when ur not in school!

Whitney - posted on 09/12/2009




It hurts you more than it hurts her trust me, and when she gets older you will come to enjoy your school time even more because you will need that break form time to time. As for the sleeping time thing, let me tell you both of my kids have always gone to bed at 9 every night, it helps to feed, then bath, then book, and bed if she crys let her (you can give pump and give her a bottle to make it easier for you) but after a few night maybe a little longer depends on her she will know that she has to go to sleep and she will without crying. TRUST ME!!!!! never have problems with it.

Marlize - posted on 08/27/2009




I have this problem with my little one. She sticks to me like velcro... LOL. I started leaving her for short periods at a time at home with my husband. At first she hated it, but after a few times she got use to the fact that I'm coming back every time that I left. Then I did this for a little longer period. I continued this till she's now a little more used to me being away for a period and then coming back. Give it time - she'll figure it out that you'll come back every time that you left and that she's okay. Also, don't stress yourself out by imagining her crying all the time, suffering without you. I tend to do this, and up to now, I've proven myself wrong every time. She'll be okay - don't worry about her. If you trust your sitter, and the environment is safe, then you should concentrate on your education! You go girl!

Keri - posted on 08/20/2009




Thank you both for your support. Yes, it's the same sitter, and I know she's in a good environment. You're right - she will probably adapt much faster than I anticipate and have a much easier time transitioning than me. I just have to keep reminding myself that finishing my education is worth it in the end. I'm looking forward to the day she gets to watch me walk across the stage to get my diploma!

Krystle - posted on 08/19/2009




It sounds like you are having a harder time than your daughter, just like most of us. Sometimes our children surprise us and adapt rather quickly to a new situation. If it is the same sitter that she had the following semester and you feel that she is in an environment that has her needs in mind it will be okay. I recently started school again and my children are watched by their grandma but I still call and check on them in between classes. If you don't already just give the sitter a call and check in and you can hear for yourself how your daughter is doing. Keep it up because it will get easier for the both of you.

Kristy - posted on 08/19/2009




stick to it, it will be good for both of u. reserach the sitter or daycare center. share ur concerns. try getting her used to a similar rutiane. find confort iteams, have a set for sitter n home.

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