My 2 1/2 year old listens to everyone but me, help?

Katelyn - posted on 03/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I understand they are called the terrible two's for a reason, but between being in school part-time, working part-time and then having homework on top of being a mom...I am at my wits end. My son is a big boy and advanced for his age. He is curious about everything and loves learning. My problem is he does not listen or will wait till i start to approach him before he stops doing whatever he happens to be doing (we don't believe in spanking). I needed to go to the store to get groceries last night and he started throwing a tantrum as soon as we got in the store because he wanted to go one way and i said wait a minute we have to go down this way first. Once tantrum mode set in i picked him off the floor told him if he wanted to go shopping he would have to sit in a cart and then we would go. I tried to get him in the cart and he flipped out. So i carried him out to the car said we would not be going shopping if he could not listen and act like a biggy boy. It took me a 1/2 hour of him screaming and flailing out in the parking lot of the store before I could get him in his car seat. He never does this stuff to his dad, gramma, or anyone else but me. He listens to everyone else more than he does me. I am with him more than anyone else is and its like he cooperates for everyone else more....I just get so frustrated I don't know what to do...I am up for any suggestions..


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Nikki - posted on 05/28/2012




I have found the best way to respond to tantrums is to not respond, however this only works at home! In public I have been known to physically restrain my child (for their safety). As calmly as possibly get them into vehicle and leave.

Does your child have a favorite toy, game, video you can use as leverage in these situations? If you threaten to take something away you have to follow through or this technique will not work. Be careful if you can only get a shower while child is watching video don't use that!! Once you have this tool in hand when you are in public you can say if this behavior persists when we get home _______ is gone and they will know you aren't playing.

Now is the time to get the behavior under control as this age is when they are pushing to see how far they can get! As the saying goes give them an inch they will take a mile.

Victoria - posted on 03/23/2012




I am also up for suggestion my son is the same way. I have to tell him things numerous times for him to do it then when he does he goes into temper tantrum mode.

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