Nicki - posted on 11/18/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 2 1/2 year old throws tantrums over EVERYTHING! When we don't give him his food or drinks the right way, when he wants to watch tv when we think he's had enough, when he wants extra snacks, etc... What are some successful ways to encourage talking about his desires without throwing tantrums? I know I'm supposed to stay firm and consistent, but it's so hard to do anything with him screaming and wailing like we've broken his heart.


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Alisha - posted on 11/20/2009




I know it is hard it is for me too and my boyfriend gets on me about it also. It is better to stand your ground or he will get used to getting everything he wants and will just eget worse the older he gets. Let him throw a tantrum and walk away so you don't start to feel bad. It it is not a necesity don't worry about breaking his heart he will get over it. In the beginning it may take some time for him to understand you will not give him what he wants just because he wants it. Make him say please and thank you when you do let him have something he wants. When he finally does get calm then you can explain that you understand what he wants but give him your reasoning for not letting him in words he understands. A good thing to do is to make him listen that you understands what he is wanting but if you need not give in then explain that reason to him. It will work but it does take some time because he is used to you giving to him eventually. Good luck and if you need to talk or help let me know I am working on this with my son also

Carey - posted on 11/19/2009




Good advice Melissa. yes because of his age to him it all about what he want and his logic skill won't be coming for a while but simple explanations are a must. Time outs and repetition are your best friend at this stage of development. good luck and just remember to breath.

Melissa - posted on 11/18/2009




I know it's hard to do anything with him screaming and it hurts to hear your child like that. But giving into him is not going to get anything solved. When he has a tantrum, do not give him what he wants. Tell him that when he is done screaming, you will talk to him in a calm voice. And wait until he stops. Go on about your day. When he is done screaming, get down to his level, and tell him why he did not get what he wanted. And tell him that they ONLY way to get what he wants is to ask nicely using our manners. And if it's something that he wants and you said NO, and he screams, then I would put him in timeout and if he gets up, don't say anything or look at him, just grab him by the hand and put him back. He will try to get up a number of times, but if you are consistent, he will eventually sit there. And I use his age as far as how many minutes he has to sit there. And when the time is up, same as before, get down to his level and explain things and ask for an apology. Be consistant and persistant and this will all work out for you. Best of luck!!!

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