Energy

Mary - posted on 12/26/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Yes, I feel like I take such good care of my 30 first graders and then come home exhausted and feel guilty for not having energy or patience to deal with my own kids, one with special needs. Life sure does have its challenges!!!!! :-(

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Rebecca (Becky) - posted on 12/31/2009

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To help with the reading, what if you let your older children take turns reading to eachother during the week? Then you could have a special reading night where you read to them on the weekends. That way they are still being read to and reading nightly themselves, but it is taking some of the pressure off of you. It may also give them some pride in reading to their sibling.

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Lisa - posted on 01/04/2010

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Thank you all for sharing . . . I don't feel so alone. I teach high school English and have many of the same feelings that you mentioned above. Energy level is the hardest for me when I finally get home with my 4 year old daughter after a draining day of teaching 80+ students. I like the people who mention we are doing our best and being good role models for our kids. But, I still need advice for more energy when I get home so I can spend more quality time with my daughter. Then, there's my husband when he gets home from work. I feel like I have no energy whatsoever for him and am feeling pretty distant from him. I feel like he (and the dog) come last. Any suggestions to help with these issues????

Ashley - posted on 01/02/2010

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I find myself needing lots of energy myself! I feel like I put so much energy into my students throughout the day that I often feel guilty when I come home and I am too tired to play or even do normal routines like feeding and bath. My husband works at night, but when he is at home he always helps. And boy do I look forward to those nights! It is good to know that people feel the same way as I do! I know that I am showing my son a good work ethic (he may not see it now...) and I am also able to build my teaching skills (which enables me to teach him). I will say a prayer for us that we can muster up energy for career, family, and whatever life throws our way!

Corrie - posted on 01/02/2010

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Glad to know I'm not alone! I teach Science to 1-5th graders at a private school. Some days I teach 3 preps and 150+ students. And my husband's job has him traveling a LOT lately. It's harder that I ever imagined it would be and tough to balance all the roles. I think the thing I hate most is that I feel like each day I choose a role to be bad at...because there is no way to be great at teacher, mom, wife, home-maker all simultaneously...or at least I can't seem to do it. I think it's double hard on us in Elem. School because the kids take all the energy we bring to work each day. I just try to take 3 deep breaths and remind myself of what's really important when I get snappy with the kids.

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Yes, I know completely what you both mean! I have a 2 and a half year old, and for the past two years I have taught preschool special ed/integrated w/ESL students, and it has been very challenging to come home and try to take care of him, as I was completely exausted! I didn't want to play, barely had enough energy to make him dinner and give him a bath, and although a lot of times I made myself read him some books, I didn't want to that either, since my voice was shot and I was tired of reading kids' books! It did not help that my husband took night classes 5 nights a week and was gone from the moment I got home, until almost 11:30 every night! He doesn't talk too much yet,and I blame myself for that partly, but I always try to remind myself that I can't do everything, I'm doing the best I can...at least I'd like to think I am - hope I am!

Christine - posted on 01/01/2010

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I feel the same way, although I only have 21 2nd graders I also have MS. Lack of energy is the biggest symptom that I struggle with. I can push myself all day to have the energy to give at school, but as soon as I get home it is gone. My own children are 8 & 10 and if it is an evening when I don't have to drive them somewhere right away I'll take a quick 30 minute nap. This often helps me get through the rest of the evening.

Kimberly - posted on 01/01/2010

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We turn off the tv, computer, etc at 7:00pm. It is most difficult for my husband to turn off the tv but the kids don't mind. It is quiet time and we encourage the kids to read, do homework, do puzzles, draw, etc. My 5 year old is into the workbooks that I buy for her at Sam's. She does that during this time and I am able to help her if needed while putting away dinner, dishes, etc. At 7:30 she gets into bath, then has a snack, and is in bed by 8. My three older kids start showers after that, eat a snack, cuddle on the couch, and 2 are in bed at 8:30, the 11 yr. old is in bed at 9:00. Then if I have work to do, I start it at 9:00.

Christine - posted on 12/30/2009

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I am with you on this one. I teach kindergarten. I feel so bad because me patience is gone by the time I get home with my 7, 8 and 1 year old. I wish I could figure this one out! You are not alone that is for sure!

Pny - posted on 12/29/2009

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I returned to work after being home with my babies for seven years. I am still adjusting. I find myself getting home with kids in tow by 6:00 each night. Last year I did not put them in anything extra. This year I made up my mind to let them do sports after school. It is a struggle but I want my children to have the same opportunities that I see my students having. I also teach Kindergarten and my third grade daughter is very jealous of my students. The funny thing is my five and six year old could care less. My biggest challenge is reading with them every night. I feel like I have been doing it all day and am just exhausted. My oldest does her own reading. Got any suggestions to put me on a routine so my own children will love reading. Thanks.

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Lachelle - posted on 12/29/2009

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Even with children who do not have special needs it's hard to ballance the job & mom deal. I know what you meen I have a 6 year old with a.d.h.d. & jealousy issues over having to share mommy with the still pretty new little sister & a 15 month old . It wasn't so hard with one but now, working 6:30-6:00 then home, dinner, home work, baths, & quality time. IT'S HARD. caffine lots of caffine & vitamine C help a little. Mostly it just takes a lot of patients and a strict time schedule & routine at home.Good luck.

Mary - posted on 12/28/2009

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When you find a way....let me know. I've heard eat a big breakfast, drink more water, eat a nut snack about 2:00pm and then more water!!! I would add caffine to the mix actually. Vitamins help too, a-e!!!

Rebecca (Becky) - posted on 12/27/2009

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I feel the same way! I teach kindergarten and am giving all of my energy to them. Then, I come home and feel as though I am ready for bed! I am continuously pushing away feelings of inadequacy as I try to have time, energy, and patience for my active fourteen month-old. I know that this is such an important age for brain development for her, and wish I had more energy to put into stimulating her enough. Then on top of that I have to find time to do my school work as I am getting my master's degree. Any time I am with my daughter I am stressing about how much school work I have, and then when I am doing school work I am feeling guilty about not spending time with my daughter. I need a button that creates more time in the day. Any tips for gaining more energy? I am already taking a multi-vitamin, Vitamin C (I definitely don't have time to get sick), and Vitamin B which is supposed to provide energy and speed up your metabolism. I am trying to stay away from caffeine. Does anyone have any other tricks?

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