cheating

Mickey - posted on 02/12/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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what if you babys daddy cheated on you in front of your eyes would you forgive him?

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User - posted on 02/16/2009

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I think only you can decide whats best for you. I can tell you it would be easier to dump him and start over. His cheating will always haunt you relationship. Cheating is very hard to over come. I was married for 7yrs. my exhusband cheated on me I couldnt tell you how much. First it was 3 now its 6women. How do you really know? They get better at lying the more they do it. I can tell you I have no regrets trying to save my marriage, but I lost alot of me in the process. Know that the cheating has nothing to do with you. You ARE good enough. Hes the one with the problems. Something is not right in him to think that that is okay to do that to someone. And unfortunately the reality of it....He loves himself more than he loves you or he wouldnt have disrespected you in that manner. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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Bria - posted on 07/31/2012

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YES I WOULD.........................AFTER HIS FUNERAL NO LOL. THAT SHOWS A TOTAL LACK OF RESPECT AND DISREGUARD FOR YOUR FEELINGS.

Tina - posted on 02/16/2012

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The good thing is atleast you have proof of what his done And not just a bad feeling like alot of people have and no hard evidence. The fact he's done it in front of you shows he's completely disrespectful. He only cares about himself no matter what he says he's completely selfish and you deserve better. Your child needs a happy mum. You're never going to be happy if you can't trust him

Jessica - posted on 02/15/2012

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Why is this even a question? Theres nothing to talk about the answer is NO!! I hoped you've moved on and are happy now!!

Julie - posted on 06/14/2011

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Forgive him?!?! YES ... trust him - NO.
You deserve better... want a life living a lie all the time WONDERING IF...?
Not worth it - I've been there

Jessica - posted on 06/13/2011

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Hi, I am a young mom (22... though I am not sure if I am too old for this group or not...), and I am going to say. I had the "never" stance until I had my boys. I tried to forgive my husband for cheating once. didn't work. He did it again anyway. Now hes gone and I care for the kids all alone. It isn't forgivable. He gave me an STD. ME. His wife, so he could get his jolly's, his "variety". He got the "urge" to explore his options elsewhere. prick. Back to my old belief, "Once a cheater... always a cheater", though I never stopped believing it... I just hope that this ONE time...

Stephanie - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hell no i couldnt do it, once the trust is lost, itz lost there is no goin back, especially not if he did it in front of ur face, o man, nah i couldnt, my son'sz father was cheatin on me behind ma back & i was in denial until i called it quits cuz i knew my instinctsz wasnt wrong, & well 2 yrsz lata he finally confirmed wat i had been  suspectin, & now we dont even talk cuz it makes no sense @ all not even 4 our childs sake, once a cheater alwayz a cheater

Daniela - posted on 03/25/2009

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WOW! No way would i ever forgive him for doing that. I do believe in giving seconds chances but the fact that he did it right in front of you shows the lack of respect that he has for you and your relationship.

Tina - posted on 03/24/2009

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definately not!! what a pig, expecially since you were pregnant! You obviously deserve someone who will treat you and your baby better then what he ever could!

Tiffany - posted on 03/24/2009

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Cheating is cheating, no matter what.. and there is no guarantee that he's not gonna do it again.. clearly he has zero respect for you, or his child.. get rid of him, there's a real man out there waiting for you to come along and find him..

Amanda - posted on 03/24/2009

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no i don;t forgive my ex for the times he cheated behind my back! he cheated on me with at least 5 girls while i was pregnant. the boyfriend before that cheated on me with three.. i will never be walked on again. and I'm sorry but i believe one strike your out! will i keep my Ex away from our kids? nope. though we live on opposite sides of the country now so it'll be hard for them to see much of him and i doutb he'll try very hard to keep in contact! honestly if i could i would never want to see him again. cheating is disgusting.

Ashley - posted on 03/01/2009

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Well I am having the same problem... My boyfriend cheated on me with my worst enemy and she still texts him and calls him and so I am getting his phone number changed and I will be checking his text messages and phone calls online, just to make sure, but people are telling me that he is cheating on me again but the thing is is that some of the stuff they are saying sounds true and some of it does not, the person told me that this girl was my old friend and that we fought over him and I did not fight with any of my friends over him and I never knew a girl names regina so she had to be lying, and my friend is dating her son and she told me that she tried to ruin their relationship too. By saying that he was cheating on her but he wasn't. So I am not sure if he is lying or if she is lying. I am kinda stuck too. But I love him with every inch of my heart and I know I could never leave him at least not yet I want to catch him in the act first, but he is my world along with our three month old daughter. But some of the stuff these girls are saying is absolutely true, you need to follow your heart, and if your heart says stay with him then make him choose. And if he keeps doing if and you catch him then I think you will know what to do. But to tell you the truth I dont have the guts to break up with my boyfriend because he was the first guy I had ever had sex with and we had a baby together and to just give up without a fight would make me feel like we cheated ourselves out of a potenially good relationship. Me and my boyfriend plan on going through couples councelling. And hopefully that works. But we both have decided that we are not going to have sex anymore until after we get married. But that is off the subject. Do what your heart is telling you...

Janette - posted on 03/01/2009

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No. Please dont. Only you can decide though but keep in mind that you are better than him. He obviously is still lost and not together if he did that to you. You arte better off on your own. You deserve better.

Charlotte - posted on 03/01/2009

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NO NO NO... there are so many decent blokes out there that would be there for you and your baby so remember that and never settle for 2nd best coz its not just u now its ur baby too tht gets messed about. xx

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if i was a mug i'd forgive him.. but im not and i hope your not too. once a cheat always a cheat.. i hope you realise that its not the kind of life you want for baby.. be strong and telll him to get lost

Suzi - posted on 02/27/2009

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I think only you can decide that one but maybe him doing it right in front of your eyes is him telling you he wants out? was he aware you were there and were watching?



you need to respect yourself and decide what is best for you and your family.



If you think he deseves a second chance go for it but you will need to put it behind you and move on or it will never work.



Also it depends what he did, was it a drunken kiss (in which case yes i would forgive him) or something more?



what is he saying about it? is he prepared to talk to you about it and give you the answers you want? is he remorseful?



 

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2009

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no way !! i would seriously be packing hes stuff .. if he wants 2 see hes child then make agreements for him 2 see the little one .. bt just follow your heart hun x



 

Kerry - posted on 02/17/2009

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Not a chance. He obviously does not respect, me or our child together for him to do something like that. If this happened to you I am sorry. The best thing for you and your child to leave him. I know he will still be in your childs life hopefully, but not in yours. He apparently does not care about his family. Do what is best for you and your child, regardless of how hard it may seem.

Carroll - posted on 02/17/2009

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Kick him to the curb, his cheating right in front of you says alot about how he really views you!

Kel - posted on 02/16/2009

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I dont think you should forgive him, cause if they do it once they will do it again!! This happened to me my ex cheated on me and i found out and confronted him and he swore to me if would never happen again then months later i found out that he had still carried on with the same woman and were having a baby together. And yes it was over straight away. Good luck and dont let anyone walk over you if you let him get away with it once he will think he can go do it again. x

Jessika - posted on 02/12/2009

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Absolutely Not! That is unforgivable in my eyes.. if he has the nerve and is so disrespectful as to do that in front of you or behind your back, he is not worth the heartache. I don't believe 'once a cheater, always a cheater', but that kind of stuff wouldn't fly with me at all.

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