Had my Son at 19 and now I feel like I am 40.

Amanda - posted on 02/22/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I had my son at 19 which I think is a little young but I wouldn't trade him for anything. He will be 2 the end of March. I don't really talk to any of my friends and most of them are only now starting their lives like just getting prego and everything. I am 21 I have a big house, my 2 year old, married, and my car. So now I feel like i'm 40 because I have all these big things done and all my friends are just starting so I feel old and like I have no friends. And alot of my friends are out partying, shopping, being care free , taking the time to be beautiful. now don't get me wrong I love my life it just feels like I skipped being young. But I mean I work 2 jobs and my husband works . I am providing a great life for myself and my family .But i'm slightly jealous. Am I just being foolish or is it ok to feel this way. I also find this site helpful but unfortunately no one lives near me ( I live in St. John's Newfoundland.)

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I'll be 21 in June, and I've been married for almost 2 years. All of my friends seem to be getting engaged this year and I have a 2 month old baby already. Mind you I know a couple of girls that are pregnant but I still feel way older than them. I guess I am just ahead of the curve. But I definitely miss the days of not being a mom...being young means having fun, but once you have a kid that flies out the window. Don't get me wrong I love my baby girl more than anything, but sometimes I wish I could be out partying with my old friends...

Louise - posted on 02/24/2010

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snappp!!

am 21 but had my son damei n with i was just 17, i used to go out drinking every night and going to parties and alsorts then i found out i was pregnant, it was such a shock but i stuck by it and im bloody glad i did! its soooo hard to adjust to being a full time mummy, as while am doing that all my friends where slowly leaving me behind thinknig coz i have damien tht am suddenly boring!! your sooo lucky to have all them things as id kill for a job as staying in with nearly 3 year old all day every day just gets borring!

its okeee to feel jelous of what they have but just think when our children as older well be able to have that time of fun just a little later in life as just coz well be older doesnt mean we cant have just as much fun as what wed have when we was younger =) plus maybeee your mates are jelous of what you have!!

if you ever need to talk am always here!!

xxx

Renee - posted on 02/24/2010

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I kno how you feel... i had my son 2 weeks b4 my 19th, he will be 7 months old on the 1st, i already feel like im 40, have just brought our house with my fiancee, hes just started working full time n i own my car and im not 20 till August... my mum only recently brouhgt her own house, n shes almost 50. times have changed... as much as i love my life n my family i dont want the same for my son so soon, i want him to habe the chnace too go out n get really drunk with his mates n go do what boys r inevitably goin too do... all the things i feel like i missed out on the chance ov doing. your not the only one hunni, i do envy my girlfriend too, and evn tho Dex (my son) wasnt planned, i like too think that he was coz i wldnt change the time n how things have happened for the world

Brooke - posted on 02/23/2010

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I am 19, I had my daughter just over a yr ago. My partner and I are paying off our own home, we have 2 cars and both work. I love my life and feel as though I havn't missed out on anything! I love the fact that im ahead of people i went to school with etc. I don't want close friends, it is to much time wasted for me. My partner and I are best friends, the only time we have spent away from each other is when I had our little girl and even then he would stay with me from 7am until 12am everyday while I was in hospital.

Lindsey - posted on 02/22/2010

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my mom was born there!!! but was adopted when she was young in the U.S. but i feel the same way, except i am not working, and my husband is. i had my son at 19, and got married at 18. i live with his parents, so that makes me go crazy!!! but on facebook, i hear about all my friends partying and going out having fun. i feel bad for a while, but get over it because i know i didn't want to have kids later on and be like 50 when they are 10, lol. don't feel bad! i think it's great!

Ariel - posted on 02/22/2010

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I completely understand how you fedel. I had my son at 19 as well and had to make serious adjustments to my life. Before I was a mom I was a bit of a party girl and now I haen't been out since i gavbe birth. Most of my friends are still in that wild phase, and the ones who also had kids young arfe too busy so i basically spend all my time at home with the baby, working, or school. As lng as you love your life and are doing the right thing for you and your family, you'll be fine

Rebecca - posted on 02/22/2010

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I know how you feel, and I'm still pregnant with my first. I'll be 19 when the baby is born, and I spend a lot of time thinking about what my friends do now and what I do now. I think it's a blessing to be so young to have my first child, though. I feel like I was put in this world to be a mother. I think it's OK to feel jealous sometimes, just because you have more responsibility than your friends and were forced to 'grow up' a lot faster than them. I see you as much stronger than them if you're able to be a devoted mother and wife at such a young age.

Sunny - posted on 02/22/2010

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I know exactly how u feel, I'm 21 with an almost 3 year old. Most of my friends dont even have boyfriends and most of the time i feel completely out of the loop... like looking at all there photos and hearing all the stories... i think its about trying to find a balance. Like once a month i leave bub at home with dad and i spend the whole w/e fri-sun with my girlfriends, shopping drinking and dancing, and it makes me feel great and gets me through the next month knowing i can plan my next w/e out. For a long time i felt crappy being the 'first' to do everything and having no one in my group to relate to, until one of my friends said that they love knowing that when the time is right for them that they'll have me to come to for advice and encouragement, which made me feel a bit better. Plus i've found this site to be really useful just to have a chat to other mummies, even though i still havent found someone how lives anywhere near me. Good luck feel free to chat anytime :)

Sunny - posted on 02/22/2010

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I know exactly how u feel, I'm 21 with an almost 3 year old. Most of my friends dont even have boyfriends and most of the time i feel completely out of the loop... like looking at all there photos and hearing all the stories... i think its about trying to find a balance. Like once a month i leave bub at home with dad and i spend the whole w/e fri-sun with my girlfriends, shopping drinking and dancing, and it makes me feel great and gets me through the next month knowing i can plan my next w/e out. For a long time i felt crappy being the 'first' to do everything and having no one in my group to relate to, until one of my friends said that they love knowing that when the time is right for them that they'll have me to come to for advice and encouragement, which made me feel a bit better. Plus i've found this site to be really useful just to have a chat to other mummies, even though i still havent found someone how lives anywhere near me. Good luck feel free to chat anytime :)

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