He cheated AGAIN!!!!

Melanie - posted on 09/23/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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My husband told me today that he has been having an affair for 3 months and i feel very betrayed and hurt. I want to throw him out on his arse but our son has Leukemia in the late stages. We also have a 3 yr old daughter and i am pregnant with b/g twins due in January. I really need some advice on what to do because this is the second time i know of that he has cheated.

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Autumn - posted on 09/27/2010

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First I want to tell you i'm sorry to hear about your son who has lukemia that is very unfortunate and I hope that things improve! As for your situation with your husband it sounds like to me that he is one of those people that will never stop cheating. Unfortunatly, he might be doing this out of the pressure of all that is going on in your lives or just simply cannot contain himself. Either way it is no excuse! If I were you In my opinion I know it will be hard but you deserve better. You deserve a husband who loves YOU and YOU only and comes home to you and ect....I would tell him to leave, I would of course let him have regular visits with your son and daughter and of course the twins as well. I would tell him that as far as the relationship goes with you and him is just strictly for the kids but that of course he can still have the same relationship with his children. I would file for divorce and if your worried about finacial support, file child support. I would hate to hear you being stuck in a relationship for the soul purpose of your children because in most cases it only hurts the children more. I wish you the best of luck with everything!!!! You have your children to be thankful for and you can hold on to that!

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Kesha - posted on 07/13/2016

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What would you do if you found out that your boyfriend for 5 years is cheated on you with newborn baby he's supposed to be working but he was rubbing on ass taking somebody home and who knows what could you find it in your heart to forgive and forget or would you give up

Lisa L - posted on 09/03/2012

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Melanie,

The cheating never stops, it only continues. I been there I knew only of 3 women thought I could get past it. I couldnt. I found out after I left there were over 8 women and I use that term loosely that he had been with since he loved to hang out in the bars constantly. My children saw me cry, they saw me sad and no child deserves to see a parent that way. Even when I went into my room at night when I thought my kids were asleep my 8 yr old said he would wake when he heard me crying. Your spouse needs to go, if he wants to be a bachelor let him just dont let him use you like a doormat to come and go as he pleases it isnt fair to you and it isnt fair to your kids.

Linda - posted on 08/28/2012

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get out while u can i know how hard it is and how much support u need right know but u can get it from ur parnets and friends

Tina - posted on 08/27/2012

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Normally I'd say kick his ass out too. I can't tell you what to do. Clearly your relationship is going to suffer but I guess it would be important to to be civil right now. My suggestion would be find a close friends or relative that you can talk to, vent to and have a shoulder to lean on. I can only say if it was me I probably would say as far as a couple it's over because the last thing you need to be worrying about is whether or not you can trust him. But for the sake of your children ask to keep it civil and still do stuff together as a family.



I think you really need to have a heart to heart and discuss where the relationship is going although it'll be hard.



I'm sorry to hear what you're going through.

Laura - posted on 08/25/2012

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Wow your situation is so hard, I wish I could tell you I know how you feel but I don't I wanna start with congrats on the twins. as for the cheating if he is still cheating I am sorry but he has to go don't just keep him around because life would be easier for you because your only cheating yourself than, you deserve better and what he did was wrong and he needs to be held accountable for that. I know your son has Leukemia which is hard enough on its own dealing with that and being pregnant with twins so thats why you don't need the added stress of keeping him around and always wondering if hes out cheating on you, if it were me I would kick him out, divorce him. if you have family near by maybe move in with your mom and dad or another relative until you get back on your feet but don't feel like you have to stay with him because things would be easier a cheater is a cheater and no one deserves to go through that.

Rachel - posted on 08/24/2012

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I'm so sorry for your children and you ... And I will keep your family in my prayers ..

Jolene - posted on 09/29/2010

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kick his arse to the curb and find a man that u deserve. u need to b treated like a priness and the kids need a better role model

Deeanna - posted on 09/28/2010

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Soo sorry to hear this. I'm sure you will be able to keep yourself together for your little ones, just try to remember that you'll be better off. I'll be thinking of your family, especially your son. Good luck to you.

Shanna - posted on 09/26/2010

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Easy to say listen to your family...Jules...but at the end of the day no one is trudging in your shoes except for the one in the mirror...maybe its time to follow your head and say screw the heart...your fam seems supportive...turn to them if needed.

Rebecca - posted on 09/26/2010

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I'm so sorry to hear of your husband and your son :( If he's done this more than once, then I think it's time to let him go. Your children need to have a father that's supportive of not only them, but of their mother as well. I can see him only causing stress for you during your pregnancy and that's no good, especially with twins! How selfish of him, to leave all because you wanted this to be your last pregnancy. If only he knew! Too bad the men can't bear the children for once... If he's upsetting you in anyway, your children will pick up on it. It's better to raise them while separated from your husband than to live in a home where there is tension and heartbreak. I hope everything works out for you, and I will keep you and your children in my prayers :)

SHANIDA - posted on 09/25/2010

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IF I WERE YOU I WOULD CONSIDER LEAVING HIM JUST BECAUSE ITS THE SECONG TIME AND WHAT KIND RELATIONSHIP WOULD YOU ALL HAVE IF THERE'S NO TRUST...YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY AND YOU WANT THE BEST FOR YOUR BABIES SO LEAVING AND FILING FOR CHILDSUPPORT WILL HELP YOU AND YOU WOULDNT HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT.....SORRY TO HEAR THAT BUT MEN R LAME SOMETIMES...

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I would say leave him, but thats always easier said than done. On this issue, its really based on how YOU feel, not by what other people are telling you to feel or do. Stay strong for you babies, and talk with your husband on why he's REALLY cheating. You may be able to fix the situation... if not, make a plan on somewhere you can go... if only for a while.

Kathryn - posted on 09/25/2010

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i think you'll be better off with out him! he's cheated twice and he'll do it again! i know it'll be hard times ahead expecaly with twins! your already going to be stressing and the last thing you need to be worrying about is a cheating husband! you already have 4 kids you don't need another one! if he doesn't have the respect for you not to cheat than he doesn't desurve you! i'm gonna pray for you and your family expecaly your son! God blessyou!

Shiloh - posted on 09/24/2010

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if it were me, id throw him out. tell him if he wants it that way thats how he has it. i could not deal with someone cheating on me once little own twice. and throwing him out might show him what hes lost. i know its hard, ive been cheated on before and its absolutely horrible!! i hope you find whats best for all of you.

Jessica - posted on 09/24/2010

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hunny i know i have never been in this type of turms but he will keep cheating on u i know u want him there for the kids but hunny u can fine someone that can be there and treat u better

Melanie - posted on 09/24/2010

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My husband does not want to work it out so i told him to pack his bags and he left an hour ago. I just had to explain to my kids why their daddy has moved out again. He left me when i first found out i was pregnant with the twins all because i didn't want anymore kids after this pregnancy. I took him back after a few days because he said he would be more then happy with 4 kids. He reckons that is when he started the affair. I feel so rotten because now it is my kids who are hurting. How can he treat me and my kids like this.

Adrian - posted on 09/23/2010

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leave him, and file for mega child support moneys. that way he's not there, but his money is. Don't keep him around if he's just making you miserable, which will make your kids miserable. and it's better to do it now then when you have twin babies.
Sorry to hear he's a man. Good luck.
I can't even imaging what it would be like to have a child with cancer, stay strong girl

Jules - posted on 09/23/2010

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I am sorry Mel but i have suspected James of cheating a few times. He isn't the little golden boy mum thinks he is. You deserve to be treated better and if i was you i would throw him out on his arse. I know it would be hard for you especailly being pregnant and noah being sick as well. But no matter what you should be happy. It is not good to have so much stress and tension in the house and i am sure the kids would have picked up on it. Do what you feel is right and if you need to talk just message me on here okay.

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