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Katelyn - posted on 01/27/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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i am 14 with a baby boy, im just trying to find someone my age that i can talk to about motherhood

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Brandi - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hey.  I had my first daughter only 2 months after i turned 14, also in grade 8! So i know exactly what your going through. And then i had my son at the age of 16 and now i'm 17. It SO hard to find friends that know exactly what your going through because truth is, none of them do. And MOST of them will judge, but just keep your head held high! Because you know what, in highschool and junior high there are SO many pregnancies that happen but lots of people have no clue.Girls will go and have abortions, to cover it all up and make it seem like it was never there. Kudos to you for stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility! If you ever need somone to talk to about anything, trust me i've been there and can help you through whatever it is you need support with :)

Ann - posted on 02/01/2009

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I understand how you feel. I was 15 when I was prego with my oldest son Joey and I felt like I was in a daze. I was taken out of public school and put into a teen mother program where I made friends with other young Moms. My best friends were 14 and 15 years of age and we all had our kids within days of eachother. Please feel free to e-mail me or yahoo IM @ stinkytink266@yahoo.com........... no matter what you may feel or think, you are NOT alone!

Katie - posted on 01/28/2009

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Well, I'm not 14 and haven't been for awhile but I was 17 when I had my first child (daughter).  Let me know if I can help.  That daughter is now 13.

Ally - posted on 01/28/2009

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wow! What an enormous responsibility at your age...i don't know many girls in your boat who would continue to be as mature and responsible by finishing school and breast feeding! What a great mommy! I am not ur age but my daughter was also a surprise and i get cabin fever daily since she screams in the car we mostly stay home trying to play in the living room but you can only play/read books soo many times b4 going crazy. I try and take r real long shower while she naps. Feel free to send me a message if you ever wanna talk or have questions. Keep up the good work!

Megan - posted on 01/28/2009

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I want to give you a high five for first keeping the baby, but also breastfeeding! Alot of mom's my age wont breastfeed, let alone mom's closer to your age. So give yourself a pat on the back! Breastfeeding is so great! It will get easier.

Larsene - posted on 01/27/2009

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i'm not ur age but i can tell you it will get better, it doesnt matter how young u are when u got pregnant...the friend thing, u find out who ur true friends are when u get prego and that is the truth i got prego at 19 and i invited 15 of my "closes" friends to my baby shower and well 3 showed up! i kinda get were u are coming from cuz my lil sis was a freshman/9th grade when she got pregnant and i seen how hard everything was for her. she did the whole home school thing and graduated early now she is 19 and her daughter is 2 1/2 n they are doing great. alone time doesnt always mean going some where i take hot bubble baths and it relaxes me u can even lite candles and just try to think of nothing! it helps trust me i dont get out that much either cuz im a 20 year old mom of twins and there dad works nites soo he sleeps durin the days

Katelyn - posted on 01/27/2009

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it is really hard to get out because i live in a small comunity with only one small store within a half an hour drive... and my sons dad lives in this area, i try to avoid him as much as possible... so on the days that i do get to myself it is like a whole day thing which is hard for me because i am breast feeding.

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I was 18 when i had my daughter, but im here if you wanna talk!!  and like claire said its important to get time for yourself..  ask your parents or the daddy *if hes in the picture* to watch him for a couple hours, so you can grab a coffee or something.  you find out who your true friends are when you have  a baby young, alot of mine just kinda up and left when i told them i was prego. i only got a few close friends.... you need alot of support when your a teenage mother. thank god my mom is around or i dont know how i could do it.  good luck, and like i said im here if you needa or want to talk.

Claire - posted on 01/27/2009

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i have a 4 1/2 month old little girl... i am also not your age but i know the feeling of being cooped up. i was 18 when i had my daughter.... the one thing that i found that helped alot was finding a reliable babysitter.... ie: either of her grandparents. and going out for an hour or two... i would go for a coffee... or to run errands without the hassle of draging the carseat around... sometimes if you are lucky and can go for a few more hours a movie is nice... making time for yourself is always a good thing... otherwise we would go insane!

Katelyn - posted on 01/27/2009

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thank you, its just a totally different situation... i am in grade 8.... i have to stay home and do home schooling every day and so i am trying to find a way that i can still get out.. i live in a very small community so there is not really anywhere to walk to and visit, and all my friends are totally parinoid to be arond me becaue i have to feed my son or change him

Megan - posted on 01/27/2009

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I'm not your age, but I had my first child at the age of 18. I here for you if you wanna talk!

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