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Bryce - posted on 07/31/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




Okay so i have this problem trying to figure out who my babies father is. I know that may sound bad but really it's not. My current boyfriends name is Corey , and my ex's name is Chance. I am going to list some info.

So when i checked my ovulation chart it said that I was ovulating from December 25-30th. of 2009. I had sex with my ex on the 15th of December when me and him were still dating obviously , and I was still on my period. (We used protection)

My next expected period was supposed to be January 16th of 2010. ( on the 16th of January i went in for cramps which i thought were not normal , but we know that when you are pregnant and you cramp it's usually because your not getting your period on your expected day in the beginning of your pregnancy.. )14 days back from that day is the 2nd of January && as you may figure it out easily is when I had sex with Corey. We used protection as well but as you all may know it does not always work lol. My due date is September 20th... and when i went and checked the due date calendar i put in the 2nd of January and it said my due date would be the 25th of September meaning Corey being the father would be more likely? Because when i put in the 15th of December it said my due date would be the 9th of September and that's pretty far apart from the 20th making Chance unlikely?

We all know that most doctors strip your membranes at 38weeks usually. And if Corey was the father they would strip my membranes at 38 weeks and that date would be the 20th of September. Now in my opinion and by looking at the facts I believe Corey is her father biologically with no doubts. Please I would like to hear what you guys think as well.


Merry - posted on 08/03/2010




if your ex turns out to be the dad then make him pay child support and then you will have a good 'dad' for your baby and money from the bio dad too!

Elizabeth - posted on 08/04/2010




You can do home DNA tests that are cheaper but I dont recommend them. Due to human error they can be inaccurate.

If you are expecting any kind of state assistance (medicaid, food stamps, etc) you will have to have a child support case opened and then you will not have to pay for the DNA test.

Monica - posted on 08/03/2010




i dont know what your going threw but i do have a couple of friends that are kind of in the same situation the one decided that shes just going to wait till its born and hopfully it looks like the dad if not then shes going to do a home dna test... there simple from my understanding and you can do it in the comfort of your own home and its cheeper.... just and idea!

Sarah - posted on 08/02/2010




Either one can be the father. The predictions are made on a assumtion that you ovulated on day 14, but not everyone ovulates on day 14 each month. The only way to know is by a DNA test. The hospital or your doctor can give you information on how to go about getting one done. If you have it all set-up before baby us born all they have to do is take blood from the umbilical cord and then from both possible fathers. If you are wanting to get aid from DHS or child support then a DNA test will be required.

Tina - posted on 07/31/2010




either of them can be the biological father. best to get the DNA test to see who is. however if Corey wants to be this babies dad then he will be. (i have a father and a stepdad, my stepdad is my dad, the one who is there and loves me). my advice is to get the DNA and let the bio father choose whether he wants to be part of babies life. but if corey is not bio father, he can def still be dad


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Megan - posted on 08/04/2010




Alright i don't understand if you put in the due date for the 15th of December...It would not be the 9th of December....It would be September... And it is really unlikely that if you had sex on your period and used a condom that you would become pregnant. You can ovulate while your on your period but it is unlikely. But if you meant that it said your due date would be September 9th then its probably Corey.... But the due dates doctors give can be about 2 weeks off...Early or late. So it could really be either one...But its probably Corey cuz you had sex while you were on your period with chance...

Kori - posted on 08/02/2010




Yes DNA tests are expensive..
If you would like childsupport and do the DNA test with them.... The Dad would go in, and if the child comes back his, he would have to pay for the test... But if he isnt the father, you would have to pay for it.

Amanda - posted on 08/02/2010




I have a similar situation with my youngest. The one I don't think is the dad, calls himself uncle and is there on big days, but my husband now is called daddy and is there for everything. We talked about a DNA test but again they are expensive, so we made our own arrangements and it works great. I don't care who his sperm donor is, all i care about is the one who takes over when I can't handle anymore!!

Donna - posted on 08/02/2010




Yes, DNA will be the only correct answer for you, but you say that your ex wants nothing to do with this child and his family also are the same. Your current partner is more of a support to you and thats great :) at the end of the day, in my opinion, you need to do whats best for you and your child. I hope things work out for you. :)

Emma - posted on 07/31/2010




to be honest either of them could be the dad as your due date can change at any time due to growth of the baby. best to get a dna!

Bryce - posted on 07/31/2010




Well see i always thought from the start that my ex is the father , and my current boyfriend has a feeling that he is the dad and wants to be there for her. My ex wants nothing to do with her , and his family has been ignoring me the whole time. Yes paternity tests are very expensive and i will make sure that i get one.. but i still think Corey is the father. It just makes more sense.

Zoe - posted on 07/31/2010




does your current bf know he might not be the dad and your ex know he might be? i think the best thing you can do here is get a dna test done. i know it will be expensive but at least you will have a definate answer instead of guessing by using dates. ask your ex to help you out with some money if he is able to so you can find out if hes a dad or not. i think if you dont get a test done then it will just cause both guys to want to be there for the baby but both not bond as a father and child should do incase its not their child. i hope this helps you out and you can put your mind at rest :) good luck!

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