thinks kids havin kids is crazy

Lisa - posted on 02/17/2010 ( 165 moms have responded )

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sorry but hearin bout all these young mums havin children is crazy

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Tabitha - posted on 02/20/2010

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IT QUITE AMUSES ME AT HOW SOCIETY THROWS AN APPROPRIATE AGE LIMIT ON REPRODUCING IN WHICH THEY ARE JUST STANDARD AND RESPONSIBILITIES WE HAVE PUT UPON OURSELF TO FUCNTION IN SOME SORT OF SOCIETY BUT DO YOU GUYS NOT KNOW YOUR HISTORY IN WHICH WOMEN WERE REPRODUCING AT THE AGE OF 9 YEARS OLD AND WERE ENCOURAGED TO CONTINUE. OUR LIFE'S SERVED PURPOSE IS TO HAVE CHILDREN. ARE YOU GONNA SHAME THE 12 YR OLD WHO WAS RAPPED AND FORCED TO HAVE A CHILD FROM SUCH AN INCIDENT AND FORCED TO BE A MOTHER SO YOUNG, YOU WILL BUT HOW DARE YOU...THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN JUDGEMENTS. I KNOW MANY 20-25 EVEN OLDER WHO HAVE NO SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY OR CARE INTHE WORLD FOR THEIR CHILDREN AND YET MANY THAT DO AT THE AGE OF 12 AND 13 DUE TO HAVING TO BE A PARENT AND CARRY A RESPONSIBILITY. CARRYING A CHILD FOR 9 MONTHS MATURES ANY WOMAN NO MATTER HOW SENSE LESS YOU ARE. BUT I TRULY BELIEVE FEW THINGS IN LIFE HELP SUCH IGNORANT AND NIEVE CHILDREN TO GROW UP. I WAS 17 AND CHILDLESS AND MOVED ON MY OWN TO A WHOLE OTHER STATE AND MATURED GREATLY BUT DIDNT MEAN IT PREPAREDME TO HAVE A CHILD. I HAD THEBABY THINK IT OVER IN WHICH HELP ME HIT REALITY TILL I COULD GET SOME SENSE TO FIND A CARING PARTNER. ANNNYYYWWWAAAYYY ENOUGH RAMBLING FACT OF THE MATTER IS WE ALL GO THROUGH OUR OWN MATURING TIMES. REALLY YOU ARE WHAT KEEPS THE WORLD SPINING ON JUDGMENTAL AND STEROTYPING BS. COULD YOU JUST TURN THE CHEEK AND CARE FOR YOUR OWN.

Brittany - posted on 02/19/2010

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I'm sorry but I just have to get this off my chest. I am BEYOND sick and tired of the way people talk about young mothers like we're all a stereotype. Not all of us got pregnant intentionally like so many young immature irresponsible girls are doing these days. My pregnancy was an accident but I don't regret it for anything in the world! It made me grow up a lot, I stopped doing all the irresponsible things I was doing before, and it motivated me to make something more of my life. I graduated high school on time (I wasn't like most who dropped out and went back later, and i didn't opt for my GED I wanted my full diploma) and now I'm a business management major in college. And I can guarantee you I'm a better mother at 19 than a lot of women could hope to be at 35. All of uf young mothers are very different. Unitl you've taken a step back and gotten to know each of our individual struggles, don't try to classify us all into one group, it only makes you seem ignorant. THANKS!!!!!

Brittany - posted on 02/18/2010

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Honestly, im sick of the stereotypes. as much as anyone else. You'd think we would have proved all of you people who think "its crazy" wrong by now. Go find something else to do instead of sitting here, reading all of our storys. and insulting us rather than giving us support.

Emma - posted on 02/22/2010

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i would rather be a young mum coz atleast i no i can see my baby girl grow up i dont have to worry about passing away be4 she gets married... i wouldnt give up bein a young mum 4 anything and if i had a choice id do it all again

Stephanie - posted on 02/21/2010

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i tink degrading a woman for giving birth at a young age is so wrong, we were put on earth to mate and mulitply, thats life it shouldnt be cateroigised into specific age groups of wen to have children, we start our periods as young as ten and finish off late 40s when the so called biological clock stops working, if we werent intended to have children until we reached 30 or so well we wouldnt produce eggs till then



our bodies are designed to give birth regardless of any age, theres too much empasis on class, society and culture these days and i tink some people need to come out of the ignorant shell there in and focus on there own life and not on how old woman are having children,



giving birth is a beautiful experience and as a mom were all doing the same ting so to all thoes out there too stuck up in their own holes to admit it back off ye rear yer children and let the rest of us rear ours with out insults

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Emma - posted on 02/22/2010

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i think you have absolutly no right to judge all young mums like some kind of typical sterotype! i had my son at 15 he is now 5 and the best brought up child u would meet. i bought him up perfectly on my own while completing school and gettin all my grades. my son is incredible smart and the best behaved boy i know his age. i was in an awful place mentally when i feel pregnant with him but he was my angel in disguise. because of him i fixed up my life and proved to the world that i would be a fantastic mum n noone can tell me differently. i am now expecting my second child this friday and me and my family couldnt be happier. if it wasnt for having my son 5 years ago i wouldnt be experiences life and happiness like i am now. i think you need to open your eyes instead of making your own judgements on such a subject. uve just insulted a whole group of mums with ur ignorance all because of there age with out thinking about the whole picture yet there are thirty something year old woman popping out kids like its nothing and not carring for them and even treating them awfully, abuse and so on. so my point is that your age doesnt make you a gd or bad mum. and befor u make such a far fetched judgement u should get out there and meet REAL young mums such as my self

Emma - posted on 02/22/2010

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i think you have absolutly no right to judge all young mums like some kind of typical sterotype! i had my son at 15 he is now 5 and the best brought up child u would meet. i bought him up perfectly on my own while completing school and gettin all my grades. my son is incredible smart and the best behaved boy i know his age. i was in an awful place mentally when i feel pregnant with him but he was my angel in disguise. because of him i fixed up my life and proved to the world that i would be a fantastic mum n noone can tell me differently. i am now expecting my second child this friday and me and my family couldnt be happier. if it wasnt for having my son 5 years ago i wouldnt be experiences life and happiness like i am now. i think you need to open your eyes instead of making your own judgements on such a subject. uve just insulted a whole group of mums with ur ignorance all because of there age with out thinking about the whole picture yet there are thirty something year old woman popping out kids like its nothing and not carring for them and even treating them awfully, abuse and so on. so my point is that your age doesnt make you a gd or bad mum. and befor u make such a far fetched judgement u should get out there and meet REAL young mums such as my self

TeQuandria - posted on 02/22/2010

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that may be, but at least they are willing to talke on sucha a big responsibility rather tehn taking the easy way out. i my self was 18 when i had my daughter, and i wouldnt go back in time and change that if i could. Having an unplanned child helped me grow and mature in so many ways. she is the best thing that ever happend to me. i wouldnt have it any other way

Jerrida - posted on 02/22/2010

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Its really not crazy and its nothing new back in the days people used have whole families at the age of 16 and married to 30 year old man so i mean what r you living under a rock?! Its been going on for years and years, And for one its all about the minde frame young or old being 30 and up years old doesnt make you a great mom, doing what you have to do to take care of child, putting them first, and making sure they get all the love in the world and just doing your best i mean nobodies perfect so nobodies fit to judge anyone i am so sick of older ladies judging us younger wonderful mother but also mistaking us for bad mothers and also there are bad mothers out there but not because they're young but because they're bad and dont have the right guidance in life but thats them and not us. I got pregnant at 18 years old and had my son at 19 through my whole pregnancy i worked two jobs i also have my family and friends behind and i still work to jobs and will be starting collage soon and my free time is with my son and taking care of buisnees and sometimes i do hang out with friends and go out sometimes my son is with me and sometimes he's not it all depends where we're going and doing but my son has everything he needs and more he is my life and i put him b4 me and i know i am a great mother i and i am better mother then a lot of older ladies out there so agian its all about the minde frame!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tina - posted on 02/22/2010

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i had my son at 16 and i will admitt i was scared like hell but he helped me turn into a better person and now i have a daughter aswell and im only 18 it may drive you crazy but you try being in our shoes when we are ready we are ready! its just life and tbh people that critisize young mums like us drive me crazy we raise our children no diffrent than you raise yours so maybe concertrate on your life than critizing us

Amber - posted on 02/22/2010

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i was 18 when i got pregnant, and 19 when i gave birth, and he wasnt planned... a young mom, yes, but not a child... kids help you grow up in soo many different ways! after my son came into this world, i realized i had more patience, among many other things... i will never regret having him young... hes the best thing to ever happen to me!! and i couldnt ask for anything else! ♥

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2010

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when i was younger we didnt have many kids having babys parents now adays need to be more into what their kids are doing and try to stop the kids having babies

Kimberly - posted on 02/22/2010

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I found out I was pregnant the week I was graduating high school Yes she was unexpected, but the best thing that has ever happened to me and she is my greatest accomplishment. Because of her I went back to school and have tried so much harder in my life to set a better example for her. So being a young mom is not always bad. My life was going no where and I was out of control the best thing that ever happened to me was getting pregnant with her and not once in my life have I wished I waited.

Emma - posted on 02/22/2010

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i reckon it has its pros and cons... as ashli wrote age doesnt define a good parent, and sure there might be heaps of young mums out there (i being one of them) but as least we taking responsibitly for havin a baby plus because we young we still have the patience and energy to be around kids where as an older person might not be so patient or energetic.. and when our kids r adults we're still yuong enough to continue on wit our lives and even maybe get to be a grand parent by or around 50.. the only bad thing is that ppl do judge us coz we r young but they should get ova it coz its our life not theirs and most young mums dont go out and intentially get pregnant it just happens so give us a break

Gemma - posted on 02/22/2010

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At the end of the day we are not "young mums" how would you liked to be classed "old mums?" As long as you do your best and make the most of your opportunities in life. At least our children are not going to grow up being judgemental. WELL DONE TO ALL OF YOU THAT HAVE DONE THE BEST FOR YOUR CHILD!!!

Caysie-Jade - posted on 02/22/2010

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I Fell Pregnant At 14 A Few Weeks Before My 15th & I Enjoy Being A Young Mum & What Has Age Got To Do With Being A Parent Before I Fell Pregnant I Was In With A Bad Crowd But As Soon As I Fouht Out I Was Pregnant I Stopped Everything That I Was Doing & Looked After Myself Through Pregnancy. Young Mum's Are As Good As Mum's In Their 30's, Young Mum's Should Get Respect For Acutally Taking Responisbility For Their Child. Im Proud Of Being A Young Mum & I Wouldn't Change It For No One.

Leanne - posted on 02/21/2010

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hmmmm it is so funny because what do you think happend years ago and the mums where younger and i say this because i had my first at 17 and she was an accident and we where yousing protection x2 i then had my second at 20 married at 21 6months after my second and i am 4 months pregnant with my 3rd and i will be 23 5months after 3rd is born my husband is 24 he finished high school year12 is doing his myob cert as well as a buisness one and is now the working dad i had already let school at 15 togo and work i then tryed for my year 10 a year later and still worked but i got board so i traveled after my first i got my cert2 in music and then worked again and then after my second i went back to work full time and even though i am not at work at the moment i am still finishing my aged care cert which will be finished by the time this baby is born

so please befor you judge anyone stop and think about what you dont know about a young mum or dad because 9 times out of ten there is more to a story than you know oh and just to let you know we get $75 a fortnight for the goverment and that is it we work and we live happerly

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2010

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I am a teenage mother, with a one year old. I understand why people are thinking this, just because so many teens out there are having children. Not that its a bad thing because believe me, its the best thing that has ever happened to me! A lot of teen mothers with children aren't stepping up and being the mother they should be. That's why it is a cause for concern and I do understand that. But, why are we all focusing on the teenagers getting pregnant? There are plenty of older women who don't step up as a parent also, let alone men who don't even have anything to do with there children. Why don't we talk about that then? There are SOOO many single mothers out there who struggle daily because of men leaving them with the child. Isn't that worse? Or men who don't pay child support, but yet in the state of Minnesota they no longer have to serve time for it? So there off scotch free? What kind of bullshit is that! If you think teen pregnancy is ridiculous, don't you think this is a bigger issue? I think all of you people who like to judge out there are ridiculous. You have never been in this situation and have no room to talk and point fingers! I used all the precautions and wasn't suppose to be able to have children.. and I now have a beautiful baby girl. So go ahead and think whatever you want, its your loss to judge every single teenage mother out there.. when you don't know what its like to be in there shoes. I bet you couldn't handle it for a day...

Larissa - posted on 02/21/2010

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I have a job at my daughters daycare centre she does swimming lesson we go 2 baby play gym classes we always at the park or pool she is very spoilt and has more then a child needs she's extremely healthy and always happy we have our own 3 bedroom house and a car and im very very happy and proud of myself and what i've done with it and it was all 4 my daughter she made me a way better happier person before her i was always upset and doing the usual teen stuff like drinking and probz by now i'd be doing drugs like all my other friends but i've never tried drugs i don't like drinking i think i've drunk bout 2 3 in nearly 2 years since i was pregnant and 2 me and a lot of other people having a baby is alot healthier and better then doing drugs and drinking. EVERYTHING happens 4 a reason whether or not we know why... There is a REASON.

Larissa - posted on 02/21/2010

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Age has NOTHING 2 do with being a mum i was pregnant at 15 i had her at 16 im 17 now and she is 14 months old and she is the happiest best perfect baby girl and i've never been happier i love every second of being a mum and wouldn't change anything bout my life im young and single and im very proud of the job i do... I know ALOT of 23 and over year old mums and they're not good mums at all... There's just some stupid stereotype which people think young people r bad mums just coz they're young... Yound people can have the same amount of patients responsibility and care 4 a child just as good as older women can alot of young people can't but not alot of older people can either... Age has nothing 2 do with having a baby.

Jessie - posted on 02/21/2010

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some people wish to have alot of baby's, if you start too late there can be complications with the more children you have, so the earlier you start having kids the less complications you have, i had my son when i had just turned 17, i wish to have alot more children, if i started having kids at the late age of 28 i wouldn't of been able to have any more children at the late age of 39 more risks of down syndrome and the more problems my own body could have.. we are all on this world for a purpose i was born to be a mummy!! :D

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2010

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yeah, ans who are you to judge.! We all have to work even harder at being a mom, a great mom, more than you. its hard for us. we are just like you only a lil younger and some young mothers are even better mothers than older women

Bekki - posted on 02/21/2010

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the creator of this post obviously agrees with murdering babies left right and centre then, you tell me who the responsible people are.... people that abort... or young mums who go through pregnancy, give birth and care and love their babies. Im thinking the creator of this post should be ashamed of herself. young mums should be celebrated! Well done girls! x

Branda - posted on 02/21/2010

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Females have been having children in their teen years as far back as history can be searched. It is something that we all think we can prevent be it happens. I had my daughter when I was 16. I was a junior in high school, was working full time, and got married. The only thing I regret out of all that is getting married. I am now a loving mother of two beautiful preteen daughters. I worked my way through nursing school, and have a good paying stable career. so for all the nay Sayer's out there. It is not always the "worst thing " that can happen to a teenage girl!

Mary - posted on 02/21/2010

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Crazy..Yes! A blessing! Yes! Some people are given an amazing gift at an early age. It's how each one of us deal with our gifts..I love my son.

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2010

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Does NOT matter how old you are. What matters is that you will do everything in your power to take care of your child and give it love. I am 18 years old. NO social life... but I dont care because I love my son with all my life... and he's not even born yet... some young moms get it and change... some young moms dont. But please dont lump us into one particular stereotype. Its not fair!!!

Mell - posted on 02/21/2010

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Id like to know why it is crazy?, i Got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17 hes 2 1/2 now and hes a happy healthy little boy, I finished my college courses and even done another a year after i had him so i could provide for him and get a decent job. Theres nothing wrong with having kids at a young age if your going to support them and love them, and theres no difference between an older mum and a younger one we all love our children the same.

Lizzie - posted on 02/21/2010

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i was 16 when i had my son, but why does it matter what age you are when you have a baby, doesn't it matter if the baby is getting treat correctly and getting the attention it needs. surely aslong as the baby is clothed, fed and is in a warm , loving home age shouldnt concern anyone.

Esther - posted on 02/21/2010

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Right. What really annoys me is when people say that teenagers should not be having sex because thats the only way to be sure thhat they won't get pregnant. At the end of the day yeah sex is pleaaasurable and I don't see why we shouldnt be allowed to do it. Come on peeople do it anyway like =) Just get an impplant or somethingg LOL then have sex like bunny rabbits....



And to all the young mums out there....I BET YOU'RE DOING AN AMAZING JOB =) DON'T LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY'RE BETTER THAN YOU AND JUDGE YOU AND CALL YOU CRAZY. Helloo....it is the 21st century we live in. Nuff said.

Eryckah - posted on 02/21/2010

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im a young mom...i was 15 when i got pregnant with my daughter and had her at 16...she is now goin on two in april....shes very smart...healthy and is well taken care of....her father is involved in her life 100%....i finish high school and is taking classes a a college i have my own apartment and a decent job....soooooo?????? where in that do you see crazy?....i can say yes some teenagers that are mothers can be crazy because some are not ready...but then its some who take care of there kids the right way wether shes young or not.....and its the same for older women that have kids...cant really see a difference there

Ashley - posted on 02/21/2010

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Yeah, it is a little crazy, but as a teen mom I have to saw....Making the choice to keep my son was that best thing ever. My son is my world, nothing more, nothing less...

Stacey - posted on 02/21/2010

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i am 17 and my son is 2 and halfd months old

yeah it was a mistake bt one that i would NEVER change

so call it "crazy" all you want bt i think its the best thing that ever happened to me and am thankful everyday.

Shane Chloe - posted on 02/21/2010

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I almost take offense to this comment, I had my first son when i was sixteen, he was not planned. My partner and i now have a well mannered, smart, beautiful and happy five year old, he began kindergarten this year and is making me and his father very proud. His father and i have been married for four years and together for seven.

Although my story is different to many younger mums it is also different from many older mums, i think if we looked into it well enough we would find just as many older mums not coping as the younger ones, young mums are admirable, they take responsibility for something that is almost beyond them, they're are hard times that nobody can judge us for, we make it through things that we are not ready for, relationships, kids, tantrums, money, bills, teething, all these things can be extremely hard, testing on our emotions but behind closed doors we make it through it and there are some older mums whom find it just as difficult.

I know you said it was crazy and not that we are bad mothers but that is the impression i got of your statement.

Thank you for reding this and i hope i have helped you have a litte understadning or even compassion for younger mums, because yes its a little crazy but the last thing we need is to be judged in a negative way all the time because just the same as older mums being a parent is hard and the last thing we need is everyone judging us just because of our age.

Kassie - posted on 02/21/2010

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And just for the record Lisa my dad is almost 60 years old and he hasn't stepped up to the plate. My baby's daddy is 27 and in jail for selling drugs, and here I am 18 years old with a 5 month old baby raising him the best I can! I can guarantee that me making the decision to keep my baby was the best decision I've ever fucking made! Then there are people like you who I'm sure raised their children thinking that having sex is ok, but if you get pregnant it's also ok to have an abortion because in that case you wont be a child having a child, right? You seriously have some fucked up ways of thinking lady, I'll tell you that much

Annie - posted on 02/21/2010

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i completly DISAGREE with your statement, what is so crazy about someone bringing a child into the world that they will love and care for untill the day they die?? it doesnt sound so crazy does it? but then u suggest that the person having a baby is 'too' young, young mums shouldnt be judged. i know many that are amazing parents but i also know of some that arent.. but it is the same with adults. I hat ebeing judged by others just because of my age, it happens to me on a daily basis and it just isnt fair im only 19 and a mum of 2.. that doesnt make me a bad person and my age certainly doesnt make me incapable.

Kia - posted on 02/21/2010

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crazy? crazy if we all just went about our lifes & made people like our moms take care of our children. there are teen moms out there giving everything to make sure their child has the best life possible. & i was 16 when i had my daughter & im as proud as could be. age deffinently doesn't define the type of parent you are. only someone that must have problems of their own being a mother would say something like that.

Mei-Li - posted on 02/21/2010

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Age doesn't make any parent better than another..... it's the love and care that makes them a good parent.

Katie - posted on 02/21/2010

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people who judge us young mothers and call us sluts and bad mothers.. are small minded people .. i think they need to take a good look at themselfs!

Kassie - posted on 02/21/2010

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I'm a young mom and I think that if adults weren't such shitty role models by going around fucking everyone and pretending it was ok to do....then their kids wouldn't be following in their foot steps

Kristina - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was 15 when i got pregnant with my first children && 17 when i got pregnant with my 3rd child..YES IM 19 && I HAVE 3 KIDS..to those who see a problem wit tht think about yourself and how your kids are before you start judging on OTHER YOUNG MOTHERS..&& TO ALL MY YOUNG MOTHERS OUT THERE BLESS YOU AND GOOD LUCK..

Tabitha - posted on 02/21/2010

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Im a young mother. and Ashli you are right. age doesnt define a good mom. I may only be 16 turning 17 but im a really good mom and it has made me grow up faster but it is a wonderful gift to be blessed with a handsome son. I am gratful everyday for my son and it wasnt planed. im finishing school. and i think that the only thing that should matter is that we are all healthy and we are amazing moms.

Kayla - posted on 02/21/2010

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well everyone has thier opinions me im 18 and expecting baby number 3. and wouldnt change it for the world...heres the most shocking thing ever...all 3 of my kids have the SAME FATHER!!! Unlike most teen moms with more than one

Abby - posted on 02/21/2010

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look sometimes it could really change people and make them see a lot more than what they were focused on in the first place...themselves...having my lil boy is the best thing that has happened for me and my husband..ur right it is crazy but u know some good can really come out of the situation...thats what happened with me

Marisol - posted on 02/21/2010

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It's your opinion but Ive seen mothers who are in there 30s and can't even get food for there baby...they would rather buy cigerattes instead...I just became a teen mom and I do believe I'm a good mother...and so are many other teen moons...so the age has nothing to do with it.

Roxy - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was 17 when I fell pregnant and I wouln't change it for the world, I love being a mother and I'm doing a good job at it too. Yes there are some young mums out there who can't raise there kids but don't judge us all that way because we ain't all like that.

Charlotte - posted on 02/21/2010

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it was 3 weeks after my 16th when i got pregnant i must admit i didnt want a baby but me and my partner had been together a year and our relationship is stable so i dont see a problem with it if you know you have to look after the baby yourself and all young mothers that have dealt with it themselves should be proud of themselves for doing so well

just because we are young doesnt mean our kids arent clean and well fed i always get people coming up to me and saying that there isnt often they see a young mum with a baby in clean clothes and they say that i have done well to say im only 17 now!!!!!

Jenna - posted on 02/21/2010

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i had my daughter right before i turned 19, i dont think its crazy when "kids" have kids unless the person isnt responsible. if they dont have a job to take care of the kid (or the father) and their parents end up taking care of it then i believe they shouldnt have had one, i love my daughter more then life itself and me & her father are the ones who take care of her, we dont push her off onto our families when we want to go out. i also worked almost full time up until 5 days before i had her & if i hadnt went to the Dr i wouldve kept working until i did have her. i was working at 3cm for about 3 weeks and then i went to the dr and was 5cm & got admitted. so there are teens out there who really do care & want to take care of their kids & theyre just as good as older parents. age has nothing to do with it unless you dont allow yourself to grow up when you take on the responsibility of raising a child.

Tara - posted on 02/21/2010

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Who is to say what age is too young? Not too long ago, there were children not even 13 years old having children in this country, and that was the norm. It still happens in many countries to this day. There is not a qualified person to tell everyone what age is appropriate for every female to give birth. We all live different lives and experience different things, therefore we mature differently. In the end, there are some females that are having babies before they are mature enough to have children, but that is their choice that they have to live with. No one has the right to judge them.

Emma - posted on 02/21/2010

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yes it is crazy the ammount of young mums that is out there now, but myself being one of them, cant help but be offended by that comment! there are many different reasons why we do! some is out of lack of teaching (precausions etc), some is an 'accident' or the contraception didnt work, some is because they want one and some is as a result of rape! but what i have to say to each and everyone of these mum is WELL DONE!! well done for not murdering your unborn child! well done for standing up for a little child who is still being formed! well done for not taking 'the easy way out'! well done for not trying to hide the mistakes you have made and pretending nothing ever happened! it take alot of guts to admit and face the conciquences of the result of having sex too young! we all make mistakes and some mistakes show more than others! i for one am PROUD that i have children and didnt get them aborted or give them away! there are so many people out there who have made mistakes and covered them up and hidden them away from the world! why is it us who gets judged for being brave and NOT hide it away from the world?! people who judge us young/teenage mums should take a long hard look at themselves before they look at us and judge!

i have two children, one who is 5 and one who is 2, my first child i got pregnant at 14 the other i got pregnant at 17! the first time was an 'accident' through lack of understanding and knowledge, the second was as a result of rape! i have been judged by so many people in so many ways! a close friends mum refused to talk to me because i got pregnant a second time and she didnt know the circumstances in which it happened! no one has a right to judge anyone! a friend of mine has younger brother and sisters who she looks after regurly, she was walking through town with them and got called a slag!!! shes 14 herself! with her youngest sister being 5!! another friend of mine used to nanny the same children, she also got called a slag!!! people just dont know the cercumstances that people may be in!!!!

Allyssa - posted on 02/21/2010

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Crazy!? I am 18years old and my daughter is now 13months.. I got pregnant at the age of 16 and she was born when i was 17. And i am doing just fine. Dont judge just because we're young. Some of us are responsible and mature, and actually take care of our children. I am probably about as mature as you. And just because you might be older, you think us young mothers can't take care of our children or love our children the same? Well i think you are crazy for judging us! And just think yes there might be young moms out there not ready to be a parent but there are some who step up and be the mother they have to be. And i wouldnt change me getting pregnant for the world!

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2010

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I'm a bit on the fence with this one. I am 19 and have a 13 month old son. I have been with my partner for 4 years and we plan on buying a house in the next 6 months and getting married some time after that. I was 17 when I fell pregnant. Unlike some people I used protection but their is not much you can do if the condom breaks and you take the emergency contraceptive pill which has a very high success rate and you still fall pregnant. My son was just meant to be and I couldn't have asked for a better little boy. I did the right thing and stayed at school and did my exams when I was about 32 weeks pregnant. I am now a full time uni student here in Australia and when I am finished I will be a regestered Division 1 nurse. I didn't come from a rich family but my upbringing hasn't been terribly hard either. I feel that I am a great mum. I have set up my life better than some people who are in their 30's and having children. My son hasn't had it hard and I hope he never will. He has money put away towards his education, so I feel I have done everything a mother twice my age would do and maybe more.

On the other hand their are some younger mothers that are just not capable of raising children. You can just give them to someone everytime you want to go out or do something without them which I see happen alot. You need to set a good example for your children and partying hard is not one of them. This is not to say that only young mums are like this. There are many children with older drugo parents or ones that can't keep a stable lifestyle and really couldn't afford to have kids but did.

It's a very shakey subject. All I have to say is that I do not and will not be put in the same category as the stupid teens you are talking about. Nothing anyone can say to me will bring me down!!!

Abbie - posted on 02/21/2010

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its sounds crazy but in realitly every1 is different i was 15 years old obviously not planned but the best thing i have ever done my son nearly 7 now has made me grow into the person i am today, he does me proud so i know ive done a good job. now 22 i have a 4 mnth old daughter also i love being a young mum and wouldnt change a thing. but on another note i would never advise young people to have a baby but its a personal choice and we arent all immature idiots like u see on jeremy kyle

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