12.5 Month old starting to bite kids in Daycare how can I stop it when he doesn't do it when I'm there?

Pearl - posted on 10/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm a first time mom and I need advice on my one year old son. He literally just turned 1 a week and a half ago. So just so you have an Idea he already has his 8 front teeth and 3 molars and 3 canine out. And I can see the rest is on it's way. My question his how can I manage his biting at daycare?

At 6 months he had his 2 bottom teeth already. He use to try and bite me but I was able to nip it in the butt before it got worse. I knew at that age it was because of teething. He never fussed or cried like I heard most children do. Just became cuddly and attached to me for just the days it was most painful I guess. He is super independent. He is a really mellow and calm happy kid so I really have to pay attention to other clues that shows if he's sick or teething. Because even sick he's happy..... Just so you can get an Idea of his personality.

So the first time all I had to do was use a stern voice after saying ouch. Saying No, No biting that hurts and with a serious face touch his teeth and repeat it. After maybe the 3rd time he had stopped. I'm sure he didn't understand but he didn't like the tone of voice that followed. At 7.5 months closer to 8 months he started biting again. But this time was when I would pick him up in areas that he wasn't allowed to wonder. Since he was just starting to walk. So depending the area I would stop him from touching or walking to an area. He would get so mad because I wouldn't allow him to go where he wanted that he would bite me. Well I wasn't having that. When Just doing the first thing I've done didn't stop the biting I added a time out in the crib no toys or anything. His punishments lasted for 1 to 3 minutes the most. It did do the job but not for long. He finally stopped when he bit me and drew blood so my first reaction to pain was a tap on his mouth and a stern voice and all of the above. I didn't hit him hard so before anyone starts judging me. It was like when you swap a mosquito on your own skin. I do believe in old FASHION PUNISHMENT but at this age It may be a little early. So I thought. He looked at me with surprise and a pouty face, after a moment after I said not to bit etc. etc. He finally started to cry before putting him in the crib for timeout. But he hasn't bit me since. Nor anyone else.

Until 2 weeks ago....
I've gotten reports after report that he's biting kids his age. And it's getting worse and worse by the day. The teachers are doing as I asked in time out in the crib and nothing is working now. He doesn't bite when I'm around or towards me. Nor any adults. So I had to sneak in and watch him without him knowing to actually catch him and watch a few videos they have in the daycare for safety reasons. Allowing parents to watch and check on their kid while at work or away. From what teachers tell me and what I've seen. He isn't aggressive and looking for a fight or starting problems. It's only when he is playing with a toy and another child is interested in his toy and tries taking it away or even touching it. He becomes over protective and tries to bite them. But if 2 or 3 kids in a row tries touching or takes interest in his toy that he's playing with at that time. For 3 minutes after he is on guard and tries biting any kid who comes near him even if they are just crawling by not even looking at him. Which surprises me because I try teaching him to share and he does with me and every other adult. And if I'm around and tell him to give a toy to another baby he does with smiles.

The only thing I can go back to find where this personality has started was when 2 kids that use to be in his infant class used to be little bullies. They actually would start looking for baby fights. They would take toys from all the other babies and pushed or would bite them. Including my son. They were moved up with the older infants because they were of that age. But I remember seeing on video that one of them came up to my son to take his toy and my son bit him stopping them from taking his toy or bulling him around. But now that they are out of his class he seems to accuse anyone that comes near him that are bullies and bites them. Unless I'm there then he just looks at me and throws himself on the ground and cries if they take it. But I can't always be there to stop this baby on baby crime. So how do I fix his biting before he gets kicked out and I have to lose my job? Which I'm a single mom so that can't be an option.Sorry so long.

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Pearl - posted on 10/10/2013

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I've been told by a few people to try that but I was thinking because he is barely 1 and may not understand about putting 2 things together that happens hours apart. If I caught him on the act it may work but not sure if he will put the two together hours apart and he is always happy and really good with me so how would I even know the perfect timing on punishing him when he never does it with me or around me anymore. I feel like he may hate me for punishing him for being good.

Kaitlyne - posted on 10/10/2013

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My 16 month old did that last week and even though its sounds mean i did what my mom suggested and i bit her. she cried maybe two minutes and her teacher said that she has been an angel ever sense.

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