16mth old toddler masturbating, is this usual?

Nkaychi - posted on 04/15/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, my 16mth old daughter seems to be masturbating,I'm really not sure what to call it but that's what it looks like. If she's sitting on a pillow,she starts grinding back and forth, if I carry her while lying down ot sitting, with her legs apart, she does the same thing. She's still on diapers anyway. I have a female baby sitter who I leave her with cos I work. I began to suspect she may be using my kid as a masturbating tool causing the act to be in her memory, but I have never seen my daughter climb her and start grinding. I'm really concerned. Please has anyone experienced this? Please help!

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Daisy - posted on 04/19/2014

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Please do not freak out, I am 27 year old female and I was a pillow humper, heck id hump anything solid from the earliest time I could remember. I didn't grow out of it and when I was 4 I remember humping the couch arm and my mom yelled at me so I felt ashamed and embarrassed even though I didn't know why, all I knew was that it felt good. I was 4 I didn't know about sex. so from that point on I would go to my room or bathroom so as not to get yelled at. if she does not grow out of it don't make the mistake my mom did don't make her feel bad, just explain its private and done in private. The only concern I will tell you is that since I did not grow out of it and kept doing it for years when I finally got with my husband it took us a couple years to change my way of orgasming. it was like I had built a neurological pleasure pathway in my brain and had to retrain it to make new pathways if that makes since. I can still hump and orgasm quickly but intercourse takes a lot more concentration to get there and sometimes is still doesn't happen. Just try to distract her when she does it with singing, giggling, etc. no matter what though I can guarantee she will be fine either way later in life. oh and I wasn't sexually abused nor did I start being sexually active at an early age because of it. it pisses me off when I hear people say that, pure ignorance especially from someone who has never humped, don't knock till you try it! :) (sorry im an adult now and there is no shame can you tell?)

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Nkaychi - posted on 04/21/2014

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Thanks so much for the responses, unfortunately Tiana she's still learning to talk, so I can't sit her down and start talking about it, I simply sing her favorite song when she starts doing it, that makes her get up and start dancing. And Daisy, thanks as well.

Tiana - posted on 04/20/2014

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Your child is not mastutbating, she's way too young for that. Don't freak yourself out,just tell her it is inappropriate to do so,and please,do it in a way that will not suggest any negativity to her. She's an innocent kid.

Nkaychi - posted on 04/17/2014

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Ok, thanks Jess, I've also been reading about it for the past two days and I was surprised at how many people are experiencing this. I try to distract her or tell her to stop cos truly I need this act to stop. Some said it could lead the child engaging in sexual activity early. I'm truly worried though.

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2014

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Be at my point, trying to figure out what to say to them to handle the situation without making them feel uncomfortable or bad for doing it.

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2014

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I have never experienced this, but I have been reading all day about this"humping" "grinding" masturbating" stage and it seems normal what she's doing. My 4 yr old is starting this little stage and I'm trying to figure out how to talk to him about it, Ik what he's doing and understand why he's doing it I just don't know how to talk to him and ik you can't talk to your little girl, but all the articles I've read about today were mostly about little girls, and it's completely normal and she will eventually grow out of it, if she is still doing it when she's a little older then you'll

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