18-month old will not say mommy, any thoughts?

Tania - posted on 05/31/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My 18-month old daughter will not say the words: mom, mommy or momma. She's been saying daddy for many months and is constantly picking up new words, so I know she is developing as she should. But it is upsetting that she will not call me mommy. If we ask her where's mommy she points to me, but if we ask her to call me she says daddy for both my husband and I. Since she started speaking she may have said mommy 3 or 4 times and when she does it just melts my heart. Any suggestions on what to do to change this?

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Sheila - posted on 06/06/2011

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This is very normal If you are the most constant person in your daughters life. I had the same thing with my daughter, where she would run around saying daddy and auntie ally (my best mate) over and over again but would not say mommy. I talked to my child health advisor and she said that the reason for this is because she knows I am always there so has no need to say mommy. It is a good thing that she doesn't say mommy straight away as she is showing that she trusts you and knows that you will alawys be there. I know it's hard and upsetting but just give it time. She will say it.

Staci - posted on 09/28/2012

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I was a single woman working two jobs with no children, until I met the most perfect man in the world. He mentioned that his wife before me passed away and that they had a child together. We dated as time went by, and eventually things go really serious. Then, he introduced me to his toddler and it hit me. If I was going to one day marry this man, I would instantly become a new mom. After all this went down (yes, we did marry) one day I sat his toddler down and starred right into her eyes. I said Alexia, I am your mommie. You are Alexia, and I am Mommie. Then I pointed to her and said Alexia. I pointed to me and said Mommie. I did this a few times and guess what, my name instantly became Mommie. My husband was shocked.

Nicole - posted on 05/31/2011

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Don't stress over it. My daughter did the exact same thing. We knew she could say mommy or mom but would never say it at that age. She said dad a lot more but knew who I was. It broke my heart too but gave me a fun excuse when she would get up in the morning she would always call for daddy so I would get to kick him out of bed first! Anyway, my daughter is 2 now and just before Mother's Day she started calling for mom alot! Now it's pretty much even who she calls for but knows who I am and calls for me. Don't stress, it'll pass. It's hard at first but she's still young and still trying to figure out her words. It'll come.

Ginny - posted on 05/31/2011

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Just keep referring to yourself in the third person, she'll pick it up.

Andrea - posted on 06/03/2011

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all i can say is that both you and daddy keep saying 'momma' to her. or, try 'mom'. my 17 mo has been saying 'daddy' for 5 months and constantly. the other day, out of the blue, i had brought her home from her grandmother's house and she looked at me and said 'mom.' i said 'what did you say?' and she said it again. so i have been 'mom' for a week and a half now. don't give up. just be persistent with her. i thought she would never say it either, but now it is a part of her regular vocabulary!

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Angela - posted on 06/07/2011

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I would Worry about it and just give it time. My daughter is 17 months and she doesnt say it at all. She will say dad all the time. But not once have i heard her say mom , which is wiered because im the one home all day with her. I jsut believe its easyer to say dad. So with time it will come:)

Joslin - posted on 06/07/2011

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I wouldn't stress over it. I'm totally understand the affection you feel when she says mommy, but the "m" sound is a more complicated sound to make than the "d" sound. It's actually proven most kids say daddy first, likely because of this. I think she'll get it and say it more often the more comfortable she gets with that sound.

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2011

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It sounds to me like she is choosing not to say mommy. You've heard it, so you know she can. She points to you, so she knows you are mommy. My daughter did the same thing. She didn't say mommy at all until 15 months, and then by 18 months she was calling me by my first name. Now at 25 months she will still call me by my first name on occasion because she thinks it's funny :-/ The best advice I can give is that she will grow out of it. It is a stage. Just make sure everyone around you is calling you by "mommy" instead of your name. You can also try not responding to her unless she says momma or mommy... start out slow, if she is motioning for you then wait a few moments and then say "oh, do you want your momma?" After a few days you can tell her you won't pick her up unless she says mom or ma or whatever you want to be called. As long as she is trying and you stick with it she should grow out of it soon enough. Good luck!

Denise - posted on 06/06/2011

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Have you talked to her PCP? They might want to suggest speech therapy...I don't think that it's anything to worry about..for what I have seen and heard, UNFORTUNATELY daddy is usually the first strong words that come out of the lil one's mouth and we are the ones that is 100% involved....smiles...GO FIGURE RIGHT? smiles

Carly - posted on 06/03/2011

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and those posts about referring to yourself in the 3rd person is EXCELLENT!! I never thought of that, because you always say "me" so they either think thats your name or don't know what the heck to call you!

Carly - posted on 06/03/2011

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It's hard to form that "m" sound for babies, especially if they still get the bottle. Don't worry yourself, my son is 2.5 and has just started really talking and he calls me Mama and probably always will because my MIL (who watches him every day) calls me that (she's Greek and thats what they say there).

Try maa-maa instead of "mom-ee" which is harder to say. Stress the "ahhhhh" sound and say it a lot so she knows what you're talking about. Try not responding when she points or calls you daddy. She'll realize, hey, thats not her name! But right now, it's probably just harder to articulate mommy than daddy

Helen - posted on 06/03/2011

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my older son is 28 months now, and has only just started calling me mama - he's been saying it for a while, but on relation to other things for some reason, and has been saying 'hello daddy' for months. I was also getting frustrated by it, but then when I came down stairs the other morning and he turned round and said 'hello mama' it was wonderful!
Don't give up - it will come eventually, and it will be even more precious when it does!

Laurie - posted on 06/02/2011

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My son was about 18 months when he started saying Daddy and about 21 months before he started calling me Mummy. I think Mummy is just harder to say than Daddy so give it time - she will start calling you mommy or however you generally refer to yourself in the third person very soon.

Georgina - posted on 06/02/2011

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My four year old daughter did exactly the same and when she cries even now she calls her dad. My husband and I both work and we spend an equal amount of time with her but she still prefers her dad. One thing I know is she is going to be calling you mommy more in future than her dad.

Elfrieda - posted on 06/01/2011

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My 17 month old son is the same. He doesn't talk much, but he does say "Da" when he sees my husband. I think it might be because I talk about "Let's wave bye to Daddy out the window." and "Look! Do you see Daddy on the tractor? Daddy's on the tractor!" and when I talk about me I say "Give that to me." and "Do you have a kiss for me?"
I'm trying to remember to talk about myself in the 3rd person so he understands what my name is, too. Maybe your daughter has been hearing "Daddy" a lot more than "Momma".

I'm sure she's not doing it on purpose. I think that 'daddy' is just easier to say, and she has it in her mind that 'daddy' means 'person who takes care of me', so of course she calls both of you that. Maybe you could spend some time in front of the mirror pointing to each of you and saying your names, that might help.

Vicki - posted on 05/31/2011

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She'll get it. DS wasn't saying Mum or Dad at that age. Now he says Mum a lot (to the point of being annoying lol) and he calls his father 'Dee' (as in DadDY).

Tania - posted on 05/31/2011

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My mother-in-law watches her M-F while we're at work. But I'd say both my husband and I spend equal amount of time with her. Thank you moms for your help.

Cheryl - posted on 05/31/2011

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Who doese she spend most of her time with. My daughter is mostly with me n when she is around my husband some times he just gets called mommy too. When she really misses him though she will say dadda more.

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