2 1/2 with seperated parents emtions running wild

Lisa - posted on 02/28/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I made the choice I was with a verbally abusive parent who would make fun or and mock me, put me down and call me names all infront of our child.. I tried therapy for the father and I and everything... We split in June of 2012, and currently are fighting through the courts for custody. He want 50/50 but never took an active roll in her life...Current scheduale is 50/50, and my 2 1/2 year old is being tossed back and forth from his house to mine.
I disapline, give boundaries, say no and provide unconditional love and support.
I am considered the evil of the two. He spoils her and gives her everything and she is the boss with him. I dont allow her to behave that way with me.
She has always been a strong willed indepndant child.
I need to know if anyone has gone through a split and experienced extreme outburts, and emotions from their child.
She punches me or her self, shakes her hands uncontrolably. Screams until she is horse, and crys for long periods of time. I try to get her to calm down, and I even walk away which makes her even more upset. I try to speak to her cally, hug her ..get her to take deep breaths she cant tell me what is wrong.
I understand they can be emotional but this seems so extreme. The moment I deny her of anything its like apocolypse... Any moms out there have similar behaviors?

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Anita - posted on 03/02/2013

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I am a teacher and I see behavors like this a lot. Many children have to go through this kind of thing. And there is not much you can do but make sure the child understands that at your home you have rules and things like that in which need to be followed. Whenever he is with dad you have no power over what the father does and does not do so therefore DO NOT STRESS on that because it can not be controlled. I am deeply sorry that you have to go through this and deeply sorry for the little boy but sooner or later things will be ok once the court is over and things like that it will be ok and much better. You just got to remember that no matter what DO NOT ever fight in front of the child EVER. Its not his fault

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