2 year old talks constantly through meals

App+7mnejhu - posted on 02/10/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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How do I get my 2 year old to stop talking so much during meal time? He constantly calls my name during every single meal of the day to the point where it is annoying. I've tried making sure to answer him so that he doesn't feel ignored (thinking that it would quiet him down.) that didn't work. I've tried ignoring him (hoping that he would just forget about his request/demand) What else can I do, what am I missing here? I need less chatter during meals!

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Eron - posted on 02/11/2012

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sounds like he's trying to make sure he's the centre of mummys attention when everyone is together - my youngest is like this, when we are on our own he's so much fun to be with but as soon as his brothers and sister are there he is very loud, demanding and constantly talking and asking for things - even when they are right in front of him.



Having dinner together as a family and chatting as you eat should be fun, if he is using this time to seek your attention then give him the attention but involve everyone at the table so that he isnt winning mummys attention but sharing it.



eg he is asking for a napkin that is right in front of him, you could answer him and say "your napkins right here", then dad could say "didnt you see it? mummy got it ready for you" then ask him a question like "has your sister/brother got their napkin? " - i know its a daft example but the point is when hes trying to get your attention (this is why he has nothing to say - he doesnt need anything he just wants you) get him to engage in a conversation, get all the family talking in a way that he feels included - then instead of worrying about how to keep mum to himself when the family are eating together he can enjoy everyone being together and he'll eat - because everyone else is and he's enjoying the company

Katherine - posted on 02/11/2012

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Ahhh, so somehow you have to teach him he needs to be excused first and THEN he can leave. My almost 3 year old does the same thing. I taught her how to say this and now she does it. When she was 2 she would just leave the table like that. Then an hour later be hungry. I really and truly think it's the age.



You just need to teach him manners. Maybe try a rewards chart with him?

Medic - posted on 02/10/2012

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I just tell my kids to stop talking and eat....it gets changed up a bit, here is what we use. If your talking your not chewing, less talky talky more eaty eaty, the more you talk the less you eat the better your chances of being left at the table alone. We do have conversations while at the dinner table but we try to stay on topic. Every meal someone else gets to pick the topic. I also do not do anything during meal time, once everyone has their plates and drinks and I have sat down if they do not have it they do not need it. Hope it helps.

Kay - posted on 02/10/2012

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Try setting the oven timer. Just a few minutes at a time, and just say we are going to have some quiet time at the table until the buzzer goes off.



We do that for my five year old. Works somewhat, but honestly, he is just a chatterbox and always has been, lol. We have learned to live with it.



Good luck. :)

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App+7mnejhu - posted on 02/11/2012

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I think my issue here is he does this during breakfast,lunch, and dinner and he is only asking for things he already has for instance a napkin or he'll call my name continuously and when he's answered he doesn't say anything.....and in the process of him asking for these things he is only doing it so that he doesn't have to eat. Eventually we've all finished our meals and he wants to get down out of his highchair, then 30 minutes later he wants to finish his food..

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2012

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I'm with Sara, dinner time in our house is the one time that all of us sit down and talk about our day. There is no distractions with TV/computer/video games etc.



I have 3 kids and we each go around and talk about our day, even my 23 month old. We don't understand what she says but she has her turn like the rest of us.



We also have the rule that no one eaves until everyone has finished. My 10 yo is usually the last one because he has so much to say!!!!

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What does he ask for or talk about? Do you sit with him and eat too? I taught at a preschool ran by our university when I was in college and we *encouraged* talking at meal times. Teachers would sometimes start conversations talking about what we did that morning, etc. Meal times are generally times to gather around the table as a family, eat and visit with each other. If him calling your name over and over is bothering you maybe you could try sitting with him and talking while you eat. Dinner is one of my favorite times because we all sit at the table and my toddler sits still long enough to talk with us about what we did that day (she eats too :)).

Summer - posted on 02/10/2012

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I am a SAHM too... and thank you ..... I KNOW what the word terminate means.... I was reffering to TERMINATING his "chatty behavior during dinner"

App+7mnejhu - posted on 02/10/2012

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@Summer I am not looking to terminate him from completely speaking. "Less chatter" is what I'm looking for. To terminate something means to stop, so I'm not sure how you processed my question into thinking that. But, however to answer your question first and and foremost I am a s.a.h.m, and he is not my only child so we have plenty of dialogue throughout the day. Also with me having other children it is nearly impossible to cater to any one child's needs ever 1-2 mins especially when most of the time he doesn't want anything he only wants to call my name.

Summer - posted on 02/10/2012

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my question is why do you "need less chatter"???? he is at the age of learning to speak and ask questions.... why do you want to terminate that??

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