20 mo old sudden change in behavior

Adriane - posted on 01/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Please help! My 20 mo old daughter's personality has changed overnight!!! She used to be a very laid back, easy-going toddler , but now she's having tantrums, throwing things, hitting me, and screaming several times a day....all over NOTHING! The smallest thing will set her off for an hour! Last night the only way I could get her to stop was to hold her and start singing the abc song. She's not taking any medication, and does not having any signs of illness. I took her to the doctor a few days ago just to make sure I wasn't missing something and he said that "physically she was fine". Any ideas???? My husband is about to be deployed, and I have 2 other children to take care of. I need to get this situation under control before it controls me. Thanks.


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Tiffany - posted on 01/26/2009




Sounds like a combination of things.Probably a combo of trying to express her independence as well as insecurity that daddy is leaving even if you dont say anything little kids can sense when their world is about to change Id recommend giving her lots oflove and reassuring her that you are there and that everything will be ok.Id say she needs alot of attention from mommy good luck.Hope this helps.

Sonya - posted on 01/24/2009




does she get told her daddy is leaving for awhile, or has he before? if so she might not know how to handle that information at her age and this is her way of dealing with it. militaryonesource is a great website, you can also call them for advice.

Merinda - posted on 01/24/2009




welcome to the TERRIBLE TWOS, it will get worse before it gets better unfortunately.

mine did thae same thing at 18 months just turned three and starting to see the light and the end of the tunnell.

we had a timout system straight to her bedroom until she would apologise and if she didnt then straight back in the bedroom.

you have to be strong and ignore them cos any attention is good attention as far as they are concerned.

be strong it is very bloody hard though but you will win eventually

Jacquie - posted on 01/23/2009




Hi Adriane. We had a sudden change in our wee girl at about the same time and we had to use time out to establish what the ground rules were.

She cried and screamed and really acted out that first time and it was pretty hellish. But after about three lots of that on difference occasions and establishing that that behaviour was not ok (when she came back we asked her to kiss and say sorry) she improved a lot.

Now she knows if she hits etc...she will have some time by herself and have to kiss the person concerned. She's 2 yrs five months now and it's calmed down now. Hope that helps.

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