23 month old boy who will not leave penis alone. Pulls it out the top of diaper? Help

NICOLE - posted on 05/26/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 23 month old boy plays with his penis every chance he gets. He will try to play with it at changing time. He also pulls it out of the top his diaper. I put overalls on him, this worked for a little while. Now he has discovered he can put his hands in the side of the bib and reach down to his diaper.

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Haley - posted on 12/16/2014

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Yeah, my son pulls his out the side... and pees all over everything in the middle of the night :( I finally said enough was enough and started doing some research to figure out how to stop him. I bought him a few pairs of sleep tight pj's from http://sleeptight.tictail.com and his winky has stayed in his diaper ever since lol

Michelle - posted on 05/27/2011

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It's completely normal. I have 2 boys and my 2nd son always managed to pull it out the top. Boys come with built in toys and when they play it changes. Every child goes through the stage of exploring their body and there is nothing wrong with it.
If he is doing it in public and you are embarrassed you could mention that it's only something done at home but I never had to say that to my boys. They do grow out of it.

User - posted on 08/05/2011

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My kid is nearly 22 months and doing exact same thing. No big deal during the day ( unless he takes his diaper fully off!') but im awake right now 428 AM because he pees out of his diaper in sleep and gets soaked, bed too. Third night in a row. First son played a bit but never like this. Im not worried, i just hope he loses interest sometime soon and fear he never will! Pls dont let him walk down the aisle w his hand in his pants!

Bevely - posted on 05/26/2011

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My nephew, who is 4, does that. But he has had several surgeries on his penis to correct hypospadius so we sometimes thought he did it because he was hurting or something. But now it is a comfort thing for him, he loves to watch tv and keep his hand down his pants. Since he is 4 and should know better he gets disciplined for it now. But I was concerned we were gonna give him a freudian psychosexual complex for fussing at him for it.

Amanda - posted on 05/28/2011

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Brandy, what was meant by 'sneaking behind your back' is that children will do things that are forbidden and will sneak around if you tell them not to do it. The difference for me is if you are doing something in private, it is an ok behavior, nothing to be ashamed of, where if you aren't supposed to do something and are doing it when mom says no, it can easily lead to feeling ashamed in the future. I apologize if it wasn't clear what I meant, growing up and in my family we've always had open lines of communication and there is a clear difference between doing things in private and sneaking around.

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Brandy - posted on 08/13/2011

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amanda i appologize that you misunderstood me i am suggesting that to a young two year old there may not necessarily be a clear difference between sneaking around and doing something in private because open lines of communication does not seem to be a problem in my family with the exception of the occasional comprehension of a toddler.

Brandy - posted on 05/27/2011

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i dont think this is behavior to encourage, you dont have to yell at them or make them ashamed for it but if you tell them not to and they sneak and do it behind your back isnt that doing it in private? i treat it the same as nose picking. i dont make a big deal out of it i just tell my daughter its yucky or ill say get your hands out of your pants, she doesnt care shes usually staring at the tv or something to begin with and not really paying attention, so when i remind her she stops. there was a time where it was a constant thing so, i put a onesie on her and she couldnt do it anymore once the habit was broken its not really an issue

Amanda - posted on 05/27/2011

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My little guy played with it for a long time. From 3 til 5 he liked tugging on his testicles in the bath too...all I could do was cringe and say "doesn't that hurt?" and he'd laugh and say no. If you are at home, ignore it the best you can, if out in public just say something like "if you want to touch yourself wait until we are home" ...and then make sure he is washing his hands...especially before meals. Now my 25 month old girl is going through the same phase. We keep it to home only.

If you tell him not to do it at all he will learn to sneak behind your back to do it, if you make a huge deal he will learn to do it to get a reaction out of you.

TerraCotta - posted on 05/27/2011

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I tell my daughter.. "We play with our privates in our room, or in the bath" You could gently take him to his room or bathroom (not as a punishment) and tell him "you can do that in here" be consistent he will get it.

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