3 year old on a pacifier

Corina - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 29 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 3 years old..and her dad just got her off the pacifier last year..but i still want to give it to her [she is the only child]..she has a very good vocabulary and speech for her age..i usually give it to her at bedtime and bedtime only.should i give it to her or keep her off?

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S. - posted on 08/08/2012

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Why do you want to give her it? Is she crying for it? Do you won't to give her it because you still see her has a baby? I'm just not that sure, if dad has done the hard work why are you going against him! I have nothing against them but I do like to get rid at a early age.I think the later you leave it the harder it is for everyone. I agree with cherish a dummy is better then a thumb.

Ginny - posted on 09/17/2012

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My oldest son used his pacifier until he was 3. By the time he was around 2 it was just for bedtime and naptime. He would wake up and put it right away in the basket on his dresser for the day. He is now 8 years old and perfectly healthy and normal. His permanent teeth are coming in fine. He's never been whiny, clingy or antisocial. He was speaking in full, clear sentences by the age of 2, well ahead of the curve for his age. In fact, my middle child, who wanted nothing to do with pacifiers, is the one who ended up in speech therapy. Pacifiers don't do any damage to a toddler if used for soothing at bedtime and naptime. They have also been linked to a lowered risk for SIDS, and that right there is a pretty big positive if you ask me.

All that being said, I wouldn't put her back on the pacifier if she is already weaned from it, because there is absolutely no point.

Ana - posted on 08/16/2012

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Keep her off..help her to develop ways of pacifiying herself without it..
I just got my daughter off (she's 26mths old) and to be honest, when she cried, I cried for her becasue I wanted to give it to her..

First I tried cold turkey and we both had a nervous breakdown...I don't recommend just taking it from her..

Then I tried, no paci all day, only at night..That went ok, most of the time...

Then finally when she was strong enough to chew through the plastic nipple on the paci, we showed her it was broken, and she accepted it...

She asked nightly for about 3 days, then nothing, then like 5 days later she asked again...every time she asked, we just comforted her and told her it was broken, and her face saddened, but she just huffed and stop asking for it...

Then we had to search the whole house, including in her toy box for all the long lost paci's so she didn't get back on. For about a month we found a new one every week, including in our cars and diaper bags, under the sofa....bananas...

Slow weaning...for us..

Susan - posted on 08/09/2012

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I agree with Tanya that a child that age should not use a pacifier anymore. I can't stand seeing older children with them in their mouths, especially when they are trying to speak. Why would you want her to go back to it? If her father got her off of it, I certainly wouldn't go back to it because you just have to go through that again, and really there's no need for it.

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Janet - posted on 09/21/2012

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My son has been using his dummy at nighttime only. He doesn't want to give it up, however now that he's about to turn three, I'm thinking of ways to break him from it as easily as possible. I had a dummy until I was 5 and a bottle until I was 7 and I hate my teeth! I also don't have the money to get them straightened...Luckily the father has broken her from that habit already, so if she is not fussing for it, I would keep her off it. My son is also the only child, and if it was up to me I'd keep him at this age for another year, but time flies and they get older. My nephew sucked his thumb and still does when he's asleep and he's 24! I am not saying she will or will not go to thumb sucking, but it is always a possiblilty. With each year that passes, there will be new things your girl will be able to do and that you will enjoy, just let fate take its place.



I hope I've helped :)

Bethany - posted on 09/21/2012

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@ cleaver im not pro pacifier but there are some who need to have one, like my son, im glad for you that your child got what he needed from nursing but my son didnt and did need one yes hes almost 3 and still has it but i believe he will give it up when hes ready atm its only for sleep or when he is really sick. but back to the post if she has given it up let her be and let her tell you if she needs it as there is no doubt in my mind that it is much harder when they are older!

RS - posted on 09/20/2012

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Hi Carina, I would suggest always to tae it off when she is 2 Y max as the pacifier might reflect her teeth structure and speech/ learning and development part.



I don’t see you need to re introduce her since you have already minimize the use, you may need to take it off at night ..



All the best .

Lee Ann - posted on 09/20/2012

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I vote to keep her off of it, keep in mind when she starts school she cant take it with her & a lot of Dr.s say it can ruin their teeth, if shes fine without it I dont see pushing it on her, esp since her dad worked so hard to break her from it

Sarah - posted on 09/14/2012

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hi pls dont give it back to her itll wreck all the good work shes done in coping without it if she needs comfort give her a teddy or something of yours so she knows your still around at bed time. We put a light on and a dvd my little boy is nearly 4 and we only just got the dummy off him in may it took a week now when he sees his baby sister with one he just says holly got dummy and walks away if they dont want it they dont miss it

Cleaver - posted on 09/13/2012

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i am not trying to insult anyone who is pro pacifier its just my opinion sorry if i come off as offensive

Cleaver - posted on 09/13/2012

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i still think they are the worse things ever and i had a premature baby who needed to learn how to suck with the pacifier it didnt help him atal the only thing that did help was nursing, as soon as he was out of the NICU he didnt use it atall anymore and i am soo happy i see a big difference between his social skills and other toddlers, hes alot less whinney. his cousin is 2 days younger then him she cries all the time barely talks most of the differences are in her favor she has an older brother, shes in daycare, mine was born a month early the only differences that arent is that they are francophone and i am anglophone and the pacifier

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2012

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My question to you is if she is off the pacifire then why do you want to start it back up? If she is doing well without it then don't give it back. You put that she is the only child.....from putting that it sounds like you don't want to loose out on keeping her little for as long as you can. Which I can totally understand and feel the same with my kids at times. They are only little for such a short time and it goes by SO fast. But in saying that we as parents also have to encourage them to grow too. For me if she has already accomplished letting go of her pacifire she has done a wonderful thing in growing up and becoming a "big girl" why would I want to take that accomplishment from her and make it harder on her when I decided that I no longer wanted her to have it? If she is having a hard time without the pacifire then I would try to work through that. I think both parents should be on the same page for parenting....so if one says "no" then the other says "no" also. They learn early who they can manipulate and get things from and it only gets worse as they grow.....my oldest is 14 yrs old.....it is no longer about pacifires instead it becomes about cars, friends, parties, ect. So I would try to work out a compromise. Maybe it is just having the pacifire at bedtime, or maybe it is trying to find a new soother that can work.

But again.....if she is doing well without the pacifire then it is more of what you want then what is best for her and that is not fair to her.

Bethany - posted on 08/31/2012

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i have to disagree with cleaver as if it want for my son being given a dummy at 3 days then he would never have opened his mouth to latch on to my breast and been fed.... against all midwife advice i gave him a dummy and and hour later he was suckaling like a pro there are always pros and cons but its your choice!

Bethany - posted on 08/31/2012

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i have to disagree with cleaver as if it want for my son being given a dummy at 3 days then he would never have opened his mouth to latch on to my breast and been fed.... against all midwife advice i gave him a dummy and and hour later he was suckaling like a pro there are always pros and cons but its your choice!

Cleaver - posted on 08/30/2012

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i am personally strongly against pacifiers there are no benefits to them they become strongly addicted to them, they make teeth grow crooked, fungus to form in the mouth the list goes on. the only time when my son had one was when he was in the hospital at 3 months but i try not to but in with people who are for it... except once i mean the baby was sitting there happy, smiling, babbling and the father forced it onto his son until he was upset and crying...

Leah - posted on 08/30/2012

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i would keep her off for many reasons such as her teeth, if she gets so used to having it will she still want it when she is in school? What will her friends think of that? A pacifier i believe is a good soother for children. If this is what you are trying to do find a blanki or a teddy bear that could keep her happy. if anything talk with her doctor about this pacifier problem, most doctors will tell you that a pacifier will cause your childs teeth to be crooked.

Jamie - posted on 08/24/2012

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Ugh. Those are a pain to get rid of. It took us almost a year to get rid of our sons binky. Lots of tears...

Ellen - posted on 08/19/2012

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Would you like for your child to have an oral fixation as she grows into a teenager? Do you want her chewing on pens and smoking cigarettes? Or how about the really expensive retainers you will need to buy to fix her teeth after she quits sucking on her thumb (that part is coming next)? If yes, then please, keep giving her paci's !

Bethany - posted on 08/17/2012

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my son is 2 n a half, hes been off the bottle for about a month and a half, but still has his dummy, and i dont really have a plan for weaning him off it anytime soon, but there are restrictions as to when hes allowed it at bed and nap time, if hes really sick or almost inconsolable for what ever reason, but he is not allowed to talk with it in, no chewing it if we see him chewing it it goes away and if we are in public it goes in my bag unless he starts causing a sceen... i was allowed to have my dummy until i was 7 not that fantastic as on school camps i got teased so much but i survived and compared to my brother it was alot easier to ween me my bro (4yrs older than me) wasnt allowed a dummy after he was 1 and he took to sucking his thumb, it lasted until he was 21. so what was better? talk to ur hubby about how u feel but you both need to be on the same page otherwise the child will get way to confused good luck with what ever the outcome :)
ps i turned out fine and i didnt need braces unlike my brother!

Torri - posted on 08/16/2012

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Drs say pacifiers should be taken away at 1 year old but my mother who is a dental hygienist said personally she says it's fine until 2. I took my daughter's pacifier away at 2

Kristin - posted on 08/13/2012

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I had my son off his Binky a little after his first birthday. My nephew is still on his Binky at almost 4 years old. There is no need for it at your daughters age. If he got her off of it, apparently she was doing fine without it. Keep her off of it. Even if it just is at nigh. She might start to regress and start wanting it more and more.

Deanna - posted on 08/12/2012

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If she is off the pacifier, keep her off. The longer you keep her on it, the harder it is later. I would keep her off it.
Since she has been off it for a year, leave her off.

Ashley - posted on 08/10/2012

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keep her off of it, it will for one cause a authority problem with her being told she couldn't have it and then being given it. Also it is the structure of her teeth and the formation of the plate in the roof of her mouth that you need to worry about, they are still forming. Just because she has good vocab and speech patterns now doesn't mean that the pacifier won't change that. Also she need to learn to self sooth without the aid of a "security blanket".

Janessa - posted on 08/09/2012

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Its up to you, but I say if she's off keep her off. There is no reason to go back to a habit that has been broken. She's got to be done with it eventually anyways, it gets harder the older they get. Around 3 is when I usually do it.

Lori - posted on 08/09/2012

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I will say that once a habit is broken neither parent should start it up again. We just finally got our daughter off of her sippy cup and needing it to go to sleep at night. My husband and his parents got her back on her sippy each time after I broke her habit. This happened 3 or 4 times. A pacifier is not as bad as a sippy at bedtime but still a habit is a habit and it is better to break them early.

Tanya - posted on 08/09/2012

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I, myself, don't think a child over the age of 3 should have a dummy, they are old enough to get off to sleep without it and seeing them in public with a dummy in their mouths just looks wrong in my eyes. I weaned both of my children at the age of 2 and replaced it with a teddy or blanket for bedtimes and neither of them took up thumb sucking. I agree that if your husband spent the time and energy weaning her off of it, why would you want to give it back to her?

Amy - posted on 08/08/2012

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I agree with Stacey if her father "got her off the pacifier" why would you keep giving it to her? What is your reasoning for wanting to give it to her?

Cherish - posted on 08/08/2012

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Personally I do not see anything wrong with them,Pacifiers are better than the thumb,esp if it is only at night.My friends daughter sucked her thumb until she was 7,and it caused MAJOR issues.

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