3 year that won't sleep

Kelly - posted on 08/24/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Our Son has always been an amazing sleeper - was having 3 hour naps - going to bed at 8 and getting up at 7. He never got out of bed - never fussed or cried and new that bed time was - bed time. We are expecting a baby in November and I am terrified that he won't be over what he is going through right now and I just don't know how to deal with him as the whole process makes me angry! Bed time starts at 8 with about 20 minutes of stories - then the nightlight is turned on, music box on and fan on - door closed. Then within 2 minutes - he sounds like he is panicking and runs for the door pounding and screaming. The last couple of nights - it has taken us until 10:30 to get him to sleep. I have asked him many times what is wrong and he can't tell me (the kid has a great vocab) At first i thought that he was scared but as my husband pointed out - he uses stall tactics not to go to sleep - Can I have water? Turn my song on? Change fan speed? Lay down etc......
We have tried giving him everything he 'wants', opening the door, one chance, etc.....but nothing is working. By the time we are in the second hour - we are exhausted and angry and that definitely comes through in our voices. I have also tried 'super nanny' tactics of just sitting outside his room and putting him back in bed - that lasts an hour or so and he is still screaming.......does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? I am so tired and this has to stop before our new arrival! thank you!

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Sarah - posted on 08/24/2013

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Make a bedtime routine and then stick with that. He is stalling as your husband has said. The more you play into that the later bedtime is going to be. In my house once light goes off then I say "good night and Love you." and door is shut no matter if they are still asking questions. If they get out of their room after then they are just brought right back into their room......1st time it is saying ONLY.....It is bedtime, good night love you. And then walk out. If he gets out again then it is just brought right back with NO WORDS said. Then you keep repeating WITH NO WORDS said each time. At first he is going to test it and see if he can break you. If you stay strong after a few nights it will be the first time you put him to bed that will be it.

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Sarah - posted on 08/24/2013

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Naw you did not break him. He is just testing the limits :) Mine like to do the same. Just when we think we have it all figured out they like to let us know we don't ;) It will get back to the way you had it before just will take a little time. In the end both the two of you will be a little wiser. Him in knowing where that limit is and you in knowing you survived through it :)

Kelly - posted on 08/24/2013

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thanks Sarah,

I will try this tactic tonight - should be fun ;)
I think that i am feeling discouraged even before i start as my house used to be just like yours - bed time was for bed and there was never any issues then all of a sudden out of no where this happens. I feel like somehow i broke him :( I'll let you know how it goes!!!

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