3yo + Severe siatic and hip pain in 3rd trimester...help!

Mary - posted on 01/25/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )




I wanted to start with a Hello. I have never joined any kind of goup on line and a little nervouse about it. I have been sent home from my job at two weeks to my due date due to severe siatic nerve and hip pain in my 3rd trimester. It makes it really hard with my 3 year old. Some nights I am in so much pain that I cringe and sometimes can`t help but let some screams out...I worry so much that I am scaring her half to death...she covers her eyes and ears and curls into a ball, I keep telling her that mommy is ok, that it`s just pain from being pregnant and that I`m ok. My boyfriend at this point is pretty useless, I am left alone each night to tend to her, bath her, put her to bed and deal with this unbearable pain alone. I think at times that I may as well just have a roomate, but she has grown up knowing that he`s her dad (although not biologically) and I feel quite helpless and alone....If anyone has gone through something like this I would love any advice or just to know I am not alone. thanks


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Jennifer - posted on 02/23/2011




I had similar pain in my 3rd trimester. It became so painful that I finally got over my fear of a chiropractor shortly after I had my son and went for help. 2 treatments and I felt a huge difference and with 5 treatments that crazy pain was done. That's when I found out he could have helped me, safely, while I was pregnant. Also you can get massage therapists that specialize in pregnancies.

As for the useless boyfriend, I have one of those too. I don't know if you've asked him for what you need, but, after three years, that's what helped me. He still needs to be asked and asked and asked, but he eventually does what I need done.

Julie - posted on 01/31/2011




i havent gone through the usless boyfriend bit but do know about the pain. i have suffered a bulging disc that had hold of my sciatic nerve and the pain that goes through your back and legs and the cramps it causes and the numb skin that you could stick apin in is no joke and your boyfriend needs to know that he has to help you tell him what to do when it needs doing dont sit suffering. i had cortisone steroid epidurals in my back not like the baby labour ones these ones lasted up to 16 months. ask your doctor if he could do anything like that because its no joke and obviously you couldnt take the cocktail of painkillers i took.hope all goes well for you

Mary - posted on 01/30/2011




I want to say Thank you to everyone who has offered their suggestions. Unfortunatly the Chiropractor is out of the question. After I spent a month training my replacement, I was going to start working from home after 2 months and go back to the office at 3 and I just found out my boss had terminated my contract...of course the last day on my due date....so spending a dime on a chiropractor is out of the question.

Aicha - posted on 01/30/2011




Sorry to hear you are in pain , I have the same type of pain and my daughter is 15 months old so she wants me to carry her a lot what I found helps me is use a heating pad for the pain take lots of hot baths and soak with a Epsom salt , you are almost done being pregnant hang in there I know its hard ......................I am waiting to deliver my baby due on the 3rd of next month but doctor said baby could come anytime now just depends on nature

Teri - posted on 01/29/2011




I worked with a chiropractor for both of my preganancies and it was so worth it. ask around for a rec locally,

Jade - posted on 01/29/2011




hey sorry to hear about your pain. i have a great suggestion for you, i dont know where your from but im in canada and there is this treatment here that has come from over seas it is a non invasive treatment thats fine for children, pregnant ladies ect... it is kind of like a message but its not. what it does is a technician will talk to you see what the problem is then he will start the therapy. what he does is stimulates your muscle and tissue and it brings waves to the brain and eventually after going only a few times you body remembers how to heal itself again. you wear loose fitting clothes

Christy - posted on 01/28/2011




This may sound bad, but are there any non addictive pain meds you can take? They are usually safer to take after the 2nd trimester, at least to alleviate SOME of the pain. No opiates or narcotics as the baby can become addicted. Maybe a double dose of tylenol? Esp at night?

Karen - posted on 01/28/2011




A chiropractor is a good idea too! My sister-in-law swears by the massage therapist!

Nicole - posted on 01/27/2011




I know everyone has different opinions on things but have you thought of going to a chiropractor? I started seeing mine during my 3rd trimester and she was able to aleviate some pain I was having or give me something that would help. Just a thought but good luck!

Karrie - posted on 01/26/2011




You are almost there not a whole lot you can do for sciatica pain I had it bad with my last pregnancy. One thing you could try is a "belly band" it gave me a little bit of relief because of the support and pressure. Just sit down with your daughter and let her know that its ok maybe you two can make up a story about it that will help her feel more comfortable.

Hannelore - posted on 01/26/2011




I am sorry to hear you are feeling so bad! I am due with my second child any day now, and I have been sick since the day I got pregnant, even if I wasn't as bad as you...I can understand. Just keep telling her you are ok and it's just a temporary situation and it's not her fault or the baby's fault by any means. Too bad "dad" is not helping much, as my husband did during hard times. Call your doctor and ask for some pain medication...the pain induces stress to you and your baby. My almost 3 year old son is frustrated with me because I can't play with him as much as I did before and I am always too tired for anything...but this should pass too!
If you are due in two weeks..it will all end soon, hopefully. Is she sleeping with you or next to you to be able to hear you?
My son has been used to be put to sleep by one of us (mostly me) but now that I am so uncomfortable to lay still for longer periods of time, his dad is sleeping or putting him to sleep whenever he's home...so my son doesn't have to hear me moaning and groaning while I lay there with him!
Just take it easy and hang in there! Good luck with the delivery and hope you'll feel better afterwards!

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