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4 year old wetting pants all day long ! HELP

Christina - posted on 10/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My step-daughter is 4 years old, she is potty trained she goes potty a few times but then 3 or 4 times a day she's wetting her pants. I tried pull ups but then she never goes to the potty and I have to change her all day. I don't know what to do ! I need some suggestions here PLEASE !!


Tracy - posted on 10/16/2009




I agree with Sarah, a 4 year old wetting her pants could be because of a change in her surroundings, or like my daughter she would do it cuz she was too lazy to go. or she was too busy!!! sometimes they do not take the time to put down a toy or stop doing whatever they are doing to go potty. I would definitley not put her back in a pull up!! she's too big and she is potty trained that's just letting her know it is okay to pee in her pants. def would try taking her in every hour to try and go, and also watch how much fluid she takes in during the day. how is she at nioght??? mine do not get anything to drink after a certain time at night. otherwise they are up during the night going to the bathroom. good luck!

Sarah - posted on 10/12/2009




I obviously have no idea of your personal situation, but I noticed that during times of high stress in my daughters life around the same age, she too would wet herself all day long unless I asked her every hour to go to the bathroom. I sterted to realise that it was her reaction to the things going on at home and was almost her way of not only drawing attention to herself but it seemed to be one of the only things she could control.....her eating habbits changed somewhat too......she would either not eat at all or she would gorge that things have calmed down dramatically and we finally have some balance again she is doing just fine. Like I said, I don't know if there are stressful factors in your case, but a move, parents arguing, new school, a breakup and even a new child all seem to be reasons for this bad habbit to rear it's ugly head! Children react to stress in the strangest ways....I know when i was pregnant with my son this behaviour all repeated itself again, but there was more attitude with it that time! Other than that, if she doesn't have urinary problems, i'm not sure what else would cause a 4 year old wetting her pants other than lack of attention if there are other children......even if you pay a ton of attention to a child, as soon as you pay another child attention, they almost feel as if they are being left out, whether it me moment or hours! Good luck either way!

Sherry - posted on 03/17/2012




Potty Watch, you can set it at intervals it reminds them to go, my son didn't want to stop playing to go potty.

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