5 year old son

Tanya - posted on 05/28/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )

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well my husband believes that our son is gay because the way he walks and how he moves his head when he talks and he thinks he talks like a girl what do I do he calls him a fagget

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Jamila - posted on 06/03/2013

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sometimes "love" can cloud a persons judgment, even a great moms. He may have good qualities, he may not. im not sure of all the dynamics of your relationship and his with your son. talking from experience, you have to find the strength to "snap out of it". life is full of many possibilities and many many people. dont stay in a situation u know is crappy. u even reaching out is a sign that u know something is not right, whatever the reason u havent left yet, try to figure it out. look deep and ask the hard questions, dont be afraid of the answers. u know what to do, u just need to find the strength to do what u gotta do.

and this about ur son being gay. I do know a child who was legitly born gay. its your views on being gay that is going to make him a strong person or a weak person, gay or not. You can always stress you want grandchildren but at the same time as letting him know you value him as a person and that you are proud of him and love him no matter what he does. (theres plenty of gay parents in the world) your job as a mom is to make him feel valued, teach him morals, support him and give him all u can in life so that he is a well rounded person. remember no one is perfect and as his mom you are to love all of him. what would u rather a happy gay son who is well rounded or a son who is confusedm feels alone in the world and hasnt got ish together. personally i pick happy. any person ur with who cant love ur son the same or a bit more doesnt deserve to be in ur life and his. he needs to f*ck off and go s**k himself.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/31/2013

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Just get out of the situation, if he says mean things like that about your son, I'm sure he's mean to you sometimes. Doesn't sound good.

Cc - posted on 05/29/2013

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First, five year olds often sound girly. Tell ur husband to take a walk and come back when he hits puberty if he doesn't like it. Also, it's ignorant for someone to use that word especially in front of your child. But people sometimes just don't understand that it's wrong or why it's wrong. My bf uses the term but has gay friends and relatives that he really respects. He's West Indian and was raised with that mentality so I understand that actions speak louder than words. I judge him by how he treats the LGBT people he knows, not just the ignorant word he uses.
Is he otherwise verbally abusive? That should be your main priority. Keeping your son away from abuse.
Also, kids go through different stages as they try to figure out who they are. I've caught my three year old son attempting to twerk in front of the mirror because he sees it on tv and kids do it at his day care. I don't think they know their sexual orientation so early...don't let hubby damage his precious little mind by scaring him or pressuring him into anything. And I mean either scaring him into being straight or convincing him that he's gay. It needs to come naturally later.

Amy - posted on 05/29/2013

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I'm sorry that you don't have family but you have to get your son out of that situation! I don't care what you're telling your son it's going to have a huge impact on him as a person.

Tanya - posted on 05/29/2013

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I don't know to be honest I try to protect him in any way possible and let my son know just don't listen to him I have left once and just came back but with the problems I am going threw I don't have any family and I cant take care of myself so it is really hard

Amy - posted on 05/29/2013

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Why are you with him? Why would you let someone treat your son that way? You're supposed to protect him and he's being bullied in his own home by your husband/fiancé.

Amy - posted on 05/28/2013

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Is he your husband or soon to be husband? And is he the father, because in your other post it didn't sound like he was the boys father.

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