A New Bad Habit ?

Lee Ann - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 1/2, she will be 4 at the end of March, she has started a new bad habit and I'm really not sure how to go about stopping it, she has been chewing/ biting the inside of her bottom lip to the point shes taking chunks of skin out and she will have blood running down her face or a mouth full of blood, her bottom lip on the inside is absolutely raw from all the chewing and biting, we have asked her to stop she of course replies with no, and we have asked her why she dose it, she will tell us she dose not no and we have also asked dose that not hurt, she says yes, but that's about as far as we have got, I'm really not sure how to stop this because she will scream when she eats because her lip burns badly of course. Any advice is appreciated

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Katherine - posted on 01/30/2012

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I would definitely take her to the doctor. How long has she been doing this?

Tori - posted on 02/06/2012

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Wow, I thought I was the only kid that did this. I still do it sometimes, actually :/ Not as severely as she does (I did/do stop when I draw blood, but I still nibble at other places).



I can only tell you why I did it, since I don't know your child.

When I was young, I developed some weird kind of obsession with the inside of my mouth being "bumpy". I'd nibble on the bumps I felt with my tongue to try to "smooth it out". Then later on as a pre-teen, it became something I would do when I was nervous, anxious, or otherwise restless. There was a point in my teen years when I was severely depressed that I would do it simply to feel pain and taste blood (I know, it wasn't healthy). I'm over that now, but the chewing has stayed with my my entire life, like biting my nails. I don't know why I do it; no one ever really tried to make me stop, except to say that I'd give myself an infection someday (so far it has never happened).



Because no one ever tried to break *me* of the habit, I can't really say whether or not it can be broken. Since she's so young, it probably can, like thumb-sucking and other childhood habits. I don't really know how you'd go about doing it though, nor would I really know what to do if my daughter started doing it :/



Sorry I can't be of more help.

Amy - posted on 02/06/2012

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This may sound silly, but we bought the Berenstain Bears and the Bad Habit book. My 3.5 year old somehow really related to Sister bear, and whenever we catch her with her bad habit (thumb sucking), all we have to do is remind her of the book. I can't tell you why it has helped, but since we've been reading this book, I see her move her thumb toward her mouth, but stop herself. Not always, but at least she's started to recognize that her bad habit is something that she needs to try to control.

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2012

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Maybe she sees you doing it? and doesn't realize she is being too hard on her lips? I have to be really careful about showing my kids b/c my oldest son asks about it all the time :( I worry he will catch on. My husband gets upset when I do it too b/c he heard it can cause cancer which my dr told me isnt true but can cause infection. Anyway I hope she stops for her own sake and I know it is hard to do.

Katherine - posted on 01/30/2012

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Yeah, I would definitely take her in. That's out of control. And yes that's what a dummy is.

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Layne - posted on 01/04/2017

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So I know this thread is from years ago, but its about the most helpful one out there. I want to know if anything did help. I just noticed a huge sore on the inside of my 3 1/2 yr olds lip from sucking or biting. I cant believe I'm now noticing it. It made my stomach turn. Poor guy. I have an appt to our clinic tomorrow. Its got to be nervous energy plus we are all sick with some crud. No trama or anything. I have a picking problem that I still have to remind myself not to do. So anyhow, did anything work? Did she ever stop?

Bethany - posted on 03/30/2012

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as a habitutal chewer and now seeing it in my 2 yr old asked the naturopath if there was anything i could use and they said clove oil, apparently my mum used it when i started at abouth the same age ( mine was teething of my last 4 molars as is my son) but it worked the taste is so replusive that just the sight of the bottle os enough for my son to not do it until a trigger sets it off, pain or stress usually.... all i did was wet my finger and tip the bottle on my finger wipe the excess off n brave the bite that ensues good luck

Lisa - posted on 03/30/2012

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My son is waking up with blood on his sheets and binky and his mouth is torn up. This is a recent habit and I'm not sure what to do. It turns my stomach to see his cheeks. I don't understand why it has started up all of a sudden. He's not even two yet. I'm thinking he's getting his molars? Agh! So frustrating, these kids! You never know what to do!

Tanya - posted on 02/13/2012

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that's what i would say she nervous about som thing or maybe she gets scream at alot which not good at all ask her doctor about thatand see she what he or she can tell you what to do or help in anyway with that before it'S BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE

Lee Ann - posted on 02/06/2012

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@Amy-no that's not silly at all, and if it works it works....im up for trying anything, thanks for the suggestion



@Tori-I don't think shes depressed, but you never know, she has been very jealous of her baby brother, so i don't know if this is something for attention or what, I just don't want her to cause damage, she has been biting her lips so bad there will be blood running down her face & in the floor and sores are in her mouth where she chews them all the time....I would just like for it to stop, i don't want her to cause any damage of any sort and its a really bad habit to say the least, i understand the whole nibbling on your lip for nervous habits ect. but drawing blood to the point its running every where is crazy to me, i just want to figure out how to stop this.....thanks for your story, i appreciate you sharing it with me

Katherine - posted on 01/31/2012

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Hey, I'm a chewer too! Not enough to draw blood or anything though. My dentist always asks me if I just had braces, ummm I've been seeing you for 32 years duh!

Lee Ann - posted on 01/30/2012

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@ Ashley- thank you, I tend to do the same thing, but i never draw blood or anything, im def. going to see her dr. about it....i dont want her to cause herself any perm. damage plus it just dose not seem normal, and the only time it bothers her is when she eats......i even went as far as taking a pic of her with blood all over her mouth to show her what she was doing to herself and she goes oh, thats blood......and i was like yes Ki your hurting yourself, and she goes ok .....thats about the sum of our conversation about it

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2012

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i was going to say that I too am a lip/inside cheek chewer, but I never drew blood like that before. I tend to do it when I am bored or anxious or stressed. It doesnt hurt me anymore but it did... nothing tramatic happened that made me start more just nervous energy. if I have gum or something else to chew on I use it.

I would go see the dr though if she is that bad about the chewing my dentist gets mad at me b/c it can leave sores that can become infected... though I have never chewed enough to leave a sore.

Lee Ann - posted on 01/30/2012

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@Katherine- for about 2 to 3 weeks now, but it wasnt this bad at first, now shes drawing blood like i said i had it all over the floor, her face and clothes last night, it was horrible



@Natasha- a dummy ? dose that mean Pacifier, im not trying to be funny, Ive just never heard it called that before, and no she actually has never had one, she used it about a month after birth but was from there on out not interested in them, so it was a habit i never had to break her from

Lee Ann - posted on 01/29/2012

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Yes its been pretty bad, Im not sure whats causing it or whats going through her mind, i really wish i knew but if she dose not quit i may have to speak to her dr about it

Lee Ann - posted on 01/29/2012

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Def. anything is better than what she is doing, i just got done cleaning up blood in our hallway and all over her face and clothes, it looks like she got in a fight

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2012

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Yeah well if she's chewing her mouth off, then I would go with the gum ;)

Lee Ann - posted on 01/29/2012

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@Kelina- agreed there's not much you can do and or put on the inside of her mouth



@Katherine- thanks, im usually against her having bubble gum b/c it always ends up lord knows where lol but ill try it



thanks ladies

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2012

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Try to get her to do something else with her mouth. Does she swallow gum? Can she blow bubbles? Make faces? Try to do whatever you can to get her mind off of it.

Kelina - posted on 01/29/2012

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unfortunately it's the inside of her mouth so it's not like you can put soemthing bitter on it to remind her.

Lee Ann - posted on 01/29/2012

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I have tried something similar to that but ill try a star chart, heck I'll try anything at this point, its such an odd habit shes picked up all of a sudden and i just want it to stop, mainly because shes causing harm to herself

Kelina - posted on 01/29/2012

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Have you tried a reward system? if she can get through a whole day without chewing the inside of her mouth she'll get a candy? Or a star? And if she gets so many stars then she gets a prize like a toy or something? sometimes praise is the way to go.

Lee Ann - posted on 01/28/2012

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Not that I know of, its like it just started over night, its so odd....her poor mouth looks horrible on the inside

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