Advice on Disciplining My Toddler

Lidia - posted on 11/30/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a four and a half year old boy who is currently acting out a lot and not responding well to discipline.
He spends one week with his dad and one week with myself and my husband. The bad behaviour is usually noticeable during the first day when he's back at our house. The problem is that he refuses to listen to any explanations I give him and I try to be very gentle with him, until I lose my temper and have to raise my voice.

Typical examples include when he doesn't get his way. For instance, if he doesn't get to open the garage door or press the button on the TV remote control he immediately starts sulking for a while. I try to explain to him that he needs to learn to share and give others a turn, but I get a very negative indifferent response.

This is starting to make me feel like an incompetent mom as I generally feel very organised and like I can handle myself in this type of situation but with him pushing the boundaries so much, it’s starting to become a real problem where I almost dislike being around him. It sounds bad as it's not always like this. We have our good days too, but I feel like he's manipulating me. I would like him to respect my decisions more and cooperate but I just feel like I'm losing this battle right now.
Any advice on discipline techniques that might work better and earn me some respect?

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Cassandra - posted on 12/09/2013

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you bet. I am old school so spanking is a way of life but its important to remember that spanking is not abuse. and is compleatly legal so you can do it in public. If he trys to test you in public, show him that the same punishment applies. It will help establish that boundary of what is and isn't acceptable.

Cassandra - posted on 12/06/2013

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Spank him. He is a boy and boys are not going to listen to you "talk about your feelings" so to speak. Boys need a tougher hand if they don't respond to communication. After he is spanked stick his nose in a corner until he is calm enough to talk about it. If you start out with " Now hunny, thats not the right way to act" hes going to blow you off until you lose your temper and start screaming. If you go staight in strong and give him a good swat you telling him "thats not how to act and if you chose to act like that, you are going to get a spanking". It seems that he sees you as weak because you arent always the boss. If he has a more intimidating consequence for testing your position in the household, he is less likely to do it. After he has had some time to think this over in the corner, then have a talk with him and let him know that you don't enjoy that any more than he does but if he CHOOSES to act out, then he also has CHOSEN to be punished with a spanking. Make sure to make a big deal out of the fact that he chose it for himself. It really helps.

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