Advice on helping my finace as my 2 year olds new dad.

Meg - posted on 03/26/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have never been strict with my son, but never needed to be. We are now into toddler behaviors...not listening, running away, fighting being dressed, helping himself to things he shouldn't, meltdowns, wanting to be carried and with mommy 24/7... and I'm doing my best to keep patient. My finace feels my sons runs me and manipulates more than I see. He has a tendacny to be harsh, correcting him coldly, or giving him a time out for crying too much, counting down to punishments (which never works) etc. Any time i try and point out that I feel he is being unfair or too harsh, my finace becomes incredibly upset and self conscious about his ability to parent. He was raised as a single child with a single mother, so I understand its all new territory. (Not to mention he has taken on living together, sharing my sons expenses, getting used to us etc for the past 6 months) How can I help him integrate into our family without correcting him in a way that gets his back up? He says he is tired of feeling like my parenting project, but I'm just trying to help him and my son bond more easily. Maybe I'm expecting too much? I just dont want to see my little guy or my big guy hurt. Ideas?

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Amy - posted on 03/26/2013

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And you don't have to be strict to raise well behaved children, you just have to be consistent and learn to pick your battles.

Amy - posted on 03/26/2013

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Your son is 2 years old and what you described is typical 2 year old behavior, your fiance needs to have a lot more patience with his behavior. I don't know how much you let him get away with things but I don't get a good feeling with the way you are describing your fiance. At this point in your relationship since you are not married he should be putting his best foot forward and the phrasing "tired of feeling like my parenting project", and putting a 2 year old in time out for crying just doesn't seem like he's doing that.

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