Am I being stupid about this?

Kristina - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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So I have a 3 year old little boy. Who I would like any mother do anything for. So here is my problem. I have collected penguins for years. And I have any kind of penguin you could imagine. So as you can imagine my 3 year old loves my stuffed penguins. I didnt have a problem when out of all of my penguin collection he chose my 2 favorite stuffed ones to be his. He LOVES them. They are his "Happy Feet" he says. I dont have a problem with him taking my penguins in anyway. My thing is I have a stuffed bear that my grandpa had in the hospital with him when he had cancer. And when my grandpa went home on hospice he had the bear. When my grandpa passed away that bear was there. My grandpa used to play with us all the time with this stuffed bear we named Timber. So you can imagine I have a bunch of great memories of my grandpa with it. And it was there for me (as stupid as it sounds) when my grandpa passed away. I slept with him and cried with him. My problem is I dont want my son to have him because hes 3 and hes pretty much destroyed my penguins and I dont want Timber destroyed to. Is this horrible?

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Barbara - posted on 06/12/2012

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Put Timber on a high shelf, bring him down for a hug once in a while. Teach your son that he is special and that he is a "pretty" only. When he's older let him have some special time with him maybe, a movie night, stuff like that. But keep him up high for everyday. I have dolls from when I was growing up that were my aunts from when she was growing up, my daughter (26 months) knows they are pretties for now, and sometimes she asks for them to come down for a kiss and a hug, then they get put back. Maybe once a month about 20 different dolls and items get their turns at gentle hugs and kisses and then get put back up (she can never kiss just one). When she is older and can be careful with them, she'll be allowed to have them within reach. I actually use this approach with lots of things. I have a dala horse and a few other decorative things that she loves, and at Christmas time the manger scene.

I was actually told by my family that my house was too fussy for a toddler and I'd have to put everything away when she was born. Instead I've just taught her that some things are "pretties" and we have to be gentle with them. I use gentle whenever she needs to be careful, babies, animals and pretties. She's known the word gentle since she was about 1 (we have 2 pups).

It's not horrible, it's saving a precious treasure that he will one day be happy you didn't allow him to destroy in his toddlerhood.

Michelle - posted on 06/12/2012

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no put it away where he can't get at it, out sight out of mind. My daughter has many of my toys from when I was young but not my favorite doll that was made especially for me that is put away and when she is older and can take care of it as it is fragile then she have it but not before.

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Sharlene - posted on 06/12/2012

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No not at all, Well can you hide it from him for now and when he get older and understands to look after it then give it to him .I have seen this thread everywhere,good luck

Kristina - posted on 06/12/2012

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Thank you everyone! I did manage to snag Timber and put him somewhere safe. Im sure since he is out of sight my son will forget about him. I just thought I was being ridiculous by not wanting my son to have him. Thank you everyone!

S. - posted on 06/12/2012

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No not at all we give our kids enough we're aloud to keep the odd thing to our selves.

Kristina - posted on 06/12/2012

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Im glad to see Im not the only one. I was worried that I was being selfish and stupid because I didnt want him to have it. So I think its time Timber goes to my room and stays hidden for a little while.

S. - posted on 06/12/2012

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No your not being stupid but put it away or up high, tell him that Timber is special and not to be played with and then maybe when your son's older you could let him hug The ted whilst you tell him all the lovely memories attached to him.

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