Another Baby, or too soon?

Ayla - posted on 05/31/2011 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My daughter is currently 23 months, she turns 2 on June 14th. I have been finding myself going through the stage of missing her as a infant. I am wondering if anyone thinks it's too early to try for a second child or not. I pretty much know what I am leaning towards, but I would love to have some other mother's weigh in on the subject! Thanks!! :)

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Danielle - posted on 06/06/2011

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My kids are 50 weeks apart. It was not as challenging as I thought it would be, but I am fortunate enough to be stay at home mom. I Wouldn't go back and change it if I could but we are definately waiting for a 3rd. Maybe when our older child starts school.

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Jade - posted on 01/12/2013

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Hi my daughter is 14 months old and I have had the feeling if wanting another baby my husband wants to wait for a while but I just can't get it out my head I really want my daughter to have a brother or sister at close ages is anyone else feeling like this thanks.

Jenny - posted on 06/14/2011

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I was already pregnant when my oldest was your daughter's age! I'm so glad I did because my boys are the best of friends (when they're not trying to kill each other!). Good luck with your decision!

Jacquelyn - posted on 06/14/2011

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My children are 21 months apart and I love it. There are rough days, but I love that they are so close. Pray with your husband about it!

Hailey - posted on 06/14/2011

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my daughter is 3 in sept and ive been with my partner for 2 years nw and isa a gd dad to my daughter but when my family found out i wanted another one they started going mad sayin she is still the bby but my daughter is looked after rly well ive been broody for months now so last week got my coil out and nw is tryin for 1 i think go for it :)

Katie - posted on 06/14/2011

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I completely understand where you are coming from. I have a 28 month old little girl and I have been having the same feelings. I want another baby and I would like my kids to be somewhat close in age so that they can play together. The reason why my husband and I are holding off is because of our financial situation. I really think that you should consider the financial situation that you are in before making a major decision like this one. It is not the best situation to bring a child into a world where you are not sure how you are going to pay for the labor and delivery, all the doctor bills, and then all the diapers, formula, and everything else that comes with having a new baby. You don't want to take away from your daughter or the new baby because the financial situation is just not right. Every parent wants what is best for their child and sometimes that means you need to hold off on what you want for what is best for your family. If you feel that your financial situation is right and you can fully support your daughter as well as a new born than I say go for it. Ultimately it really depends on what is best for your family.

Lisa - posted on 06/14/2011

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If it's right for you & your family, then no, it's not too early.

My Son & my Daughters are almost exactly 2 years apart. My son turned 2 on Feb 3, 08 and my girls arrived on March 21, 08. It was tough at first but as soon as all settled into a routine all was good.

Trisha-Ann - posted on 06/14/2011

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i have two babies. my oldest is 2 born 4/21/09 and my youngest is 2 months born 4/9/11. i love that they are so close. my oldest is so good with his little brother... you can really tell he loves him. i wouldnt trade my babies for the world!! with the boys so close i was still already in a baby routine so my second just feel into place!!!

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I have 2 children and a third on the way, and my son and daughter are less then a year apart. I however do recommend that you don't have kids too too close together as the body strains too much and can cause problems for you. If you are wondering what to do, should I or shouldn't I, I say follow your heart and do what's right for you and your family. Talk things over with the hubby and if you both feel the same way then go ahead and try for another baby. I do however have to say, never have a single child in a family as they dont learn to be kids. A child growing up with just the parents are not given the change to grow and use imagination and become spoilt. kids need a sibling, someone to rely on and reflect their imagination and dreams on, someone to share life with other thn adults...

Alison - posted on 06/07/2011

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Personally, I think ~3 years is a great age gap. Closer than that can be quite exhausting. It is a totally personal decision though. And every situation has its advantages and disadvantages.

Nicola - posted on 06/07/2011

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I have 4 children the first two are 15 months apart then 19 months later my 3rd came along then just under 2 years later our 4th arrived. The first 2 were planned close together and it wasn't hard at all. Mac wasn't jealous and they play together and keep each other company. The second 2 weren't planned but all of the children get on well and look after ech other. its quite hard work but well worth it. Go for it !!!

Sherron - posted on 06/07/2011

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I think that is perfectly fine. My son was 22 months and my husband and I had decided that we wanted a second child. I wanted my children to be close in age so that they could grow together and enjoy each others company. Be blessed.

Deana - posted on 06/07/2011

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If you're ready to have another one, go for it! I have two sons, 21 months apart and they are best friends as well as being brothers. I wanted to wait longer, but my husband talked me into having the babies close together. It's a ton of work having two little ones close in age, but I wouldn't go back in time and change it. They really have fun together and since they are close in age, their experience levels are similar.

Kelly - posted on 06/06/2011

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There is 14 months between my children and its brilliant. quite tough to start with but now they are like best friends. they are 3 & 2 now and they adore each other. if you feel ready i say go for it. :-)

Denise - posted on 06/05/2011

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You have to go with your heart...I would love to have a sibling for my daughter but because of my age, I have pretty much decided that it wouldn't be a good idea unless God has it in the plans...I miss my daughter being that lil age also, but no matter what others think or feel, you need to follow your heart! It won't lead you wrong!

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my kids are 17 months apart, even though the older one picks on the baby I love having them both. They will grow up together and I love that they have each other

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2011

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Hey! My son is 16 months and we're trying for another baby! :D i saw my nephew help my sister when she'd given birth to his sister (he was then 2and a half) he loved it! getting the nappies, bathing her. i feel there is a certain gap for kids between siblings before they get jealous!

Bernadette - posted on 06/05/2011

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of course it's not too soon. My daughter turned two in april, and six days later her baby brother arrived. He was actually due 2 days before her birthday! It is entirely up to the individual how much of a gap they want between their children, so if you feel ready for another one and your partner agrees, then why not just go for it? Especially as you don't know how long it'll take you to be successful anyway.

Cheyenne - posted on 06/03/2011

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im pregnant with my second and this one will be born dec 30th making my son and this new baby exactly 23 months apart. we werent planning on even trying until my son was 2 but we got an early surprise.

Katie - posted on 06/03/2011

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My boys are 2.5 yrs apart. As everyone has said it's not too soon and the 1st year is challenging but it always will be. But it is a blast!

Danielle - posted on 06/03/2011

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I definitely believe it's not anyone's decision - but I would agree it is not too soon. My two oldest are 19 months apart and I actually really like having them that close, although it wasn't planned that way. I think once you have more than two, though, it's harder having them all really young. But they are good friends when they are close in age like that. Follow your heart and you'll be happiest.

Ann Marie - posted on 06/03/2011

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I think it's fine. My daughters are 26 months apart. The first year or so was challenging, but now that they both usually sleep through the night, it's great to have them close together in age. They can play together, and they're interested in a lot of the same things.

Ayla - posted on 06/01/2011

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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate all of your opinions! :) I think we are going to try sooner than later! :)

Nicole - posted on 06/01/2011

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My daughter just turned 2 May 15th and my husband and I are going to start trying asap. I wanted to start earlier but my body had to get back to normal after b.c. If you think you are ready I would go for it! Good luck.

Mimi - posted on 06/01/2011

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I have heard the best time to get pregnant with the next child is when the first is 18-36 months old. I cant really tell you how hard it would be with them so close together mine are 6 years apart. If you want another then go for it.

Jemma - posted on 06/01/2011

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Hey Ayla, My son is 22 months and will turn 2 on the 31st july and we are trying for another as we speak, i don't think it's too soon, if its what you want go for it =) and goodluck

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My kids are 18 months apart. It was tough at first and still is sometimes having two toddler, but they usually play really well together now (at 3 1/2 and nearly 2). I think if you're getting baby hungry, go for it.

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