Any way to teach a 3 yr old to go #2 on the potty when hes mastered #1?

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2011 ( 29 moms have responded )

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My 3yr old goes #1 all the time on the potty whenever he has to all on his own. However, he will not and has not gone #2 in the potty since training began and we started 6 mths ago. I know boys take long since my daughter had it down in 3 months. I just dont know what to do. I tried backing off and not getting upset when he went in his pull up but those darn things are expensive! If anyone has any advice about how to get him to take that final leap, I would sure appreciate it. Thanks

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Suzette - posted on 03/22/2011

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I'm sure I am not the first to say this but he will get it when he is ready. Putting too much emphasis on it will just make him anxious about it. My son just turned 4 and isn't ready to use the toilet for poop either. This is not uncommon and we are not pushing it. I am sure he will not be headed off to kindergarten with a diaper in his backpack. Good suggestion to put the poop in the potty. We have not been doing that so will start in the morning! :D

Hayley - posted on 03/18/2011

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I have 3 little boys 2 of which have been potty trained, they took to it within a matter of days I decided that the day they turned 2 it was time. Straight away I put them in underpants and only a pull up at bedtime or if we had to go out. Also I made a sticker chart and when they went to the toilet they recieved a sticker (for no 1's or no 2's and let him put the sticker on the chart) and when they got 5 stickers they recieved a treat a small lollie but you can use other things if you wish. Also alot of praise for going to the toilet builds up their confidence.



Through out the day just keep asking "where do we do poos?"



Good luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/17/2011

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I have 2 daughters and potty training the oldest was no small feat. It was a LONG process when it came to #2 which was further complicated by our 2 year old being born. She regressed from potty training completely even though #1 had been perfected months prior. Anyway..back to the point...try showing him when he poops in his pull up that you just take the pull up and dump it into the toilet because that is where poop belongs. Enforce what you are saying by showing him that his sister and mom and dad do the same. Also, ask everytime " where do we make pee pee? ....to which he will answer..in the potty ..and where do we make poop?...to which you want him to answer ..in the potty.


Good luck! Keep your cool and don't stress it will happen!! When was the last time you heard of a 10 year old askin for his pull up to poop lol

Shari - posted on 03/17/2011

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I was lucky that my son took to peeing and pooping in the potty at the same time... but to get him to sit longer and relax we would read books. That way it distracted him so he wasn't thinking about it. Sometimes it took a few books... but as most things with little guys and girls is patience. Good luck.

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Alice - posted on 03/25/2011

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Stop putting him in pull ups, those are for babies not bug boys. Have him throw them out n never let him wear them again. Then when he goes in his underware tell him we don't do that because we're big boys and girls and we go in The toilet. He will provost think it's gross andnot do it much more. Just keep at it and teach him how to be a big boy. Lots of praise too!!

Tara - posted on 03/25/2011

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With our 2 year old daughter we made a game out of where does that potty go? Where does the poopie go? When she got the answer right we tickled and praised her. Then when she was sitting on the potty we had her listening for the 'tinkle' sound and the 'splash' sound. She loved hearing the effects and would say "Yeah Ava" when she was successful. We clapped and partied after every success and we rewarded with potty and poopie treats (1 or 2 jelly beans, which she never got for any other reason beyond toilet training). It wasn't exactly easy, but persistence paid off. Good luck!

Pam - posted on 03/25/2011

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Pick his favorite candy and let him know that if he goes #2 in the potty that he will get some candy. I did that with my little girl who was having that issue and she now goes with no problems.

Diana - posted on 03/24/2011

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one of the biggest helps when training my daughter was #1 watch for cues...hers was that she would grab her butt before she went....once I figured that out, I knew to sit her on the potty immediately and #2 when you figure out the cue and go to sit him on the potty, be very matter of fact and calm...I realized that I would get excited and it would freak my daughter out, so when she'd grab her butt, I'd say, ok let's go sit on the potty, I think there's a poopy that needs to come out! when I'd do it that way, she'd just go right to the potty and sit, no fuss, no muss :) Good Luck!

Kristi - posted on 03/24/2011

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Warmer weather is on the way. Whenever you are home with your son, remove his pants and pullups. Don't allow him to wear them at the house. I can't imagine he will poop on the floor. I have heard of lots of kids, especially boys (not sure why) that are completely potty trained, but insist on putting on a pullup to go poop. I would just let him hang loose around the house without pants on until he has success with #2. Come to think of it, if he's doing well with #1, just get rid of the pullups altogether and have him wear undies. I haven't ever done pullups except at night when we go on vacation. My daughter just turned three and wears a cloth diaper or trainer at night, just in case. But other than that, I just bring a couple of changes of pants and undies in the backback and a bag for wet stuff. Most days she does great. When she is tired I really have to be careful or it's wet car seat - but no pullups! Good luck!

Nicole - posted on 03/24/2011

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I did a potty box (box decorated w stickers) with prizes from the dollar tree or dollar spot at Target. Cheap little prizes. my son did great with this method. For each poo poo he'd get 1 prize (at first it was more than 1 prize...just to bribe!) and then once he mastered that for a few weeks we did a prize for no accidents all day, then all week, etc. Ethan was potty trained in less than a month once we did the potty box. I even took him to dollar tree to pick out prizes. Good luck!

Sheryl - posted on 03/24/2011

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Give him the big boy talk, tell him all his friends are doing it in the potty and would be surprised if the knew he was not.

Nicole - posted on 03/24/2011

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My son turned 3 in Sept. 2010. He has been peeing since last July 2010 w/no problems. He only has been pooping on the potty since January of this year. We were in the same boat. He just didn't want to do it not matter how much we bribed him. I started letting him go in his pull up BUT he HAD to go in the bathroom (no doing it behind the couch) & he could take some books. After a while of that one night I gave him a little tough love. My husband was at work. He had to go poop & asked for a pull up. I carried him into the bathroom & pulled his pants off & sat him on the potty (we have a Diago insert). I held him there & he was crying saying no, no, no. Then I ask if he wanted play dough & he said yes. I told him he had to sit there & try to go poop so he said ok & that was that. Eveyday he had to go poop I gave him play dough to squeeze & play with. I think it takes their mind off of what they have to do & relaxes them. Also I think the squeeze of the dough kinda imitates the whole squeezing to poop thing. Now he doesn't even ask for the dough, just some books once in a while & he's fast too. At first he'd sit there for about a half hour & I kept reminding him to poop not just play w/the dough. LOL Good luck!

Karin - posted on 03/24/2011

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I know you've gotten a lot of responses already, but I had to toss in my 2 cents, just to make you feel even less alone.
I got my son his potty @ 2, and we started him then. It wasn't until he was almost 4 that he finally got out of daytime pull-ups. He's been 4 since November, and he still wears pull-ups to sleep and wakes up wet most days.
It's important to remember that all kids develop differently. One thing that did help was m&ms. They were like gold to him. He got 1 if he at least tried to poop in the potty, and he got 5 when he actually did poop in the potty.
Since he's been daytime potty trained, he's had no accidents, so there is something to be said about letting them go at their own pace.
Good luck, and keep us posted! :)

Krissy - posted on 03/24/2011

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hi my son used to be alittle different and paint his room with poo i was told to put his potty in the bedroom wiht him yes yuck but it did work as it is a comfort zone , i would take him out of his pull ups and put character pants on him yes its going to be a b it gross but if he is doing poo in the big toilet then if you put his poo into the toilet and show him he may just think hey i can do that with out the pants it does take a while but you get there in the end i hope this helps :)

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Hi Jessica, First thing don't stress so much, he will go when he is ready. I know that 6 months seems a long time, but he will get the hang of it himself. I started my first daughter when she was just onver two years old and she had it down pat within 3 weeks. My second daughter who is just about to turn 4, was a totally different story. I started her too, when she was just over two, she didn't want a bar of it, I persisted for like two weeks, but no luck. I tried again 6 months later, and again it was just way too hard, she would pee everywhere, I would put her on the potty every 30 minutes and then just as i got her off she would wee in her undies. Finally when she was just over three she got the hang of #1's. #'2's a different story, it took us another 3 months on top of that. Positive encouragement is important, I did not use pull ups, and just got undies in her favourite character, my little pony and tinkerbell. In the end she was getting upset that she kept dirtying her undies and that I think made her try extra hard. I think #2's are always a big step. I hope it gets better for you soon. Good luck

Jahna - posted on 03/23/2011

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Hi Jessica, I had exactly the same problems with my daughter. She was toilet trained by 2 and a half and had it done pat but whenever she needed to do a poo she would come and ask me for a nappy, it was so frustrating. I used to get upset also, I guess I just couldnt understand why she wouldnt do it on the toilet. In the end my hubby and I had a big fight because I was being to pushy..once he said something I realised my error, the more I pushed the more she didnt want to do it. Anyhow like you I hated putting a Huggies on her just so she could do a number 2 in it so I just brought some cheap cheap ones. This probably lasted for 2 months, I always encouraged her to go to the toilet though. One day she came out and asked to go and that was it....just like that :)..good luck!

Karin - posted on 03/23/2011

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Have you kept a journal when he goes? I did that with my kids, and kept them on a pretty tight eating schedule while doing the potty training. I also limited the amount of juice they could have so it wouldn't be so messy.
From the journal, I was able to time it pretty well with all 4 of my kiddos. Hope this helps!

Mindy - posted on 03/22/2011

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I had the same troubles. I bribed her with a trip to Dairy Queen for ice cream. It was soon after she was doing it regularly although we have had many many accidents since because she didn't want to stop playing.

Stacey - posted on 03/22/2011

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In my case, it took my daughter a full year to get potty trained! I think all kids are different and some take longer than others. But, to answer your question....I also have a 21/2 yr old boy that has just started getting familiar with the toiletfor the past few months, he doesn't talk yet so it is difficult in some ways to know "when" he needs to go. I have figured out without fail, that he usually goes #1 & #2 about 40 minutes after he eats dinner, so, We go to the bathroom and I squat infront of him while we wait for the delivery! At first, he did not want any part of it, he would feel the poo coming and want to dismount as quickly as possible and poo on the floor...it scared him and the only thing I could think of to do was to show him...not me..his sister! lol So, it took his older sibling (4 yrs old) to poo and let him watch a few times and he finally went and we danced and made a huge deal about it and that lasted 2 wks, he has been going ever since. He still has some accidents, usually due to playing and not paying attention to what his body is telling him "time to go potty" but we do a "happy dance whether he goes or not" atleast he is trying and understands the concept. I hope this works...My daughter thought it was gross at first, but I had to talk her into it as part of being a "big sister" and showing her little brother something new. She was very happy when he finally got it and did it himself. She takes full credit for this one! :)

Timna - posted on 03/22/2011

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My son and My sisters son had the same problem. We both used a book called "Everybody poops" ( I am sorry I don't remember the authers name). For both of our boys reading this book each time they had to poop made a big difference. It took maybe a day or two for them to get it. but that really help us both train them. good luck

Ashlee - posted on 03/22/2011

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It is often a longer process for #2 than number#1. A great method to help this is taking gradual steps. Allow him to go in the pull up, but have him do it in the bathroom, then put the poo in the potty and flush. After this becomes comfortable, have him sit on the potty, pull up and clothes still on, poo and put it in the potty. Once that becomes more comfortable, go to sitting with pull up and no pants, then no pull up. Offer a reward for every time he does what you are asking. Http://www.facebook.com/myfamilyandme is a great resource.

Ashlee - posted on 03/22/2011

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It is often a longer process for #2 than number#1. A great method to help this is taking gradual steps. Allow him to go in the pull up, but have him do it in the bathroom, then put the poo in the potty and flush. After this becomes comfortable, have him sit on the potty, pull up and clothes still on, poo and put it in the potty. Once that becomes more comfortable, go to sitting with pull up and no pants, then no pull up. Offer a reward for every time he does what you are asking. Http://www.facebook.com/myfamilyandme is a great resource.

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2011

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I think alot of the problem is # 2 takes longer. They get bored just sitting there. I say to atleast try and figure out when he needs to go #2, then put him on the potty with a book or something entertaining so hes not concentrating on how long hes stuck in one spot. Good luck!

Dora - posted on 03/18/2011

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Our son was the same way. We went straight to under wears because it seemed as if the pull ups weren't helping at all. Now our son doesn't get candy or juice so we decided to start bribing him with lollipops. Every time he sat on the potty I would get the bag of lollipops and tell him if he goes poopy on the potty he get to have a lollipop. It took a couple of weeks and then I guess he decided he wanted a lollipop really bad that he pooped in the potty. He still has accidents here and there but I make it a point not to yell or get mad at him. I just tell him that if he goes on the potty he gets a lollipop. He will be turning 3 in 5/2011. Now if you are worried about the sugar the lollipops I buy are organic and have vitamin C in them. They are slightly better than Dum Dums.

AManda - posted on 03/18/2011

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I use to give ribbons and other prizes for my son when I was potty training him. The hardest thing for him was #2 and it took forever to get him used to it. my husband actually got to where he would have my son clean up his mess and it broke him of accidents in his underwear. He began using the potty for #1 and 2. I also began using underwear all the time with him so he could see how it felt and that helped alot. I never used pull ups with my youngest son. I started him when he was 18 mths on potty training he accomplished it all before 3. It took forever but lots of prizes and praises helped alot

Andrea - posted on 03/17/2011

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Not really...when my daughter was being potty trained...she did the same thing...woul d not do #2 in the pot only #1...I just explain to her that she's a big girl and she has to do that(#2) in the potty as well as #1...it didn't take long to get it...hang in there

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2011

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Thank you so much. I wasnt putting the poop in the toilet when changing him, I was throwing the whole thing into the trash. So I will try that along with the questions and see where that goes. Thanks again.

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2011

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Thank you so much. I wasnt putting the poop in the toilet when changing him, I was throwing the whole thing into the trash. So I will try that along with the questions and see where that goes. Thanks again.

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