Anyone else having issues with family get togethers on Christmas Day to early?

Sue - posted on 12/23/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My husbands family is getting together on Christmas day at 10 am!! our little one is only 3, they did the same thing last year and we had to do Christmas on Christmas Eve, but fear doing that again as she is getting older and believing in the magic of santa and don't want to do anything that will take that away too soon. Plus personally I feel as if Christmas morning is for the immediate family, and get togethers should be later in the day or another day. She does not even wake up until 9-9:30 now that she doesn't take a nap in the daytime. And half the family is upset at us for standing our ground and claiming our Christmas morning for the three of us. We've tried talking to everyone individually (two in law families and parent in laws, one of the families understands and is upset with the early time as well, but the hosting family has other people coming over at 1pm and from what i hear pretty much staying the rest of the day, and that's why they want everyone over at 10. No one even told them they had to host it, but since they have the biggest house they want to host everything. I"m pissed, Christmas shouldn't be like this with family getting upset at each other, but i'm not dragging my little one away from her presents right after opening them. Should note everyone else has older kids who they allow to wake them up before 6am! Don't know how to keep the peace and still have our calm family Christmas morning with the little one :( when ever we've talked to the different families individually they have all said they understand, but then hear back that they are angry at us. i feel like they are trying to manipulate us to doing something they know we don't want to

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Sue - posted on 12/30/2012

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we got there around noon, no one really made a big deal out of it, other than a passive aggressive comment from one family member later in the day. we left the one brothers to go to my fil's house with all the family except the one bil's family for the rest of the day. much nice not being on a schedule of meal must start and end by this time, gifts at this time, then you have to be out the door by this time so we can get cooking for the next batch. was very surprised that my husbands other brother's family didn't show up until after 11am as well. i guess they had tried to talk them out of the time as well, but they wouldn't listen to them either. there's only 3 brothers, the one just needs to grow up and realize that jsut because he has the only blended family does not mean he gets to always call the shots. we always go around his schedule, and i've got no issue with that, i prefer to be able to see my nephews and his gf's kids as well. but literally every one else in the family was not happy with the time, one other extended family never even came. they had the longest drive and did not want to leave christmas morning for an over 2 hour drive to be there by 10am

Helen - posted on 12/30/2012

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I hope that things went ok for you and your little one.

I have 2 young children (almost 4 and 20 months) and wouldn't want to be anywhere for 10am! Christmas should be about family, but family is your immediate family as well as extended one, and they need to be a bit more understanding, You need to do what is right for you, tour husband and daughter, and if other people don't understand, tough!
I guess an alternative would have been to wake up early to do stockings, presents etc, and hope your LO would have a nap in the afternoon.

Sue - posted on 12/24/2012

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they completely ignore me and my husband telling them that 10 am this year was too early; when they originally said the time i actually laughed because i thought it was a joke. we are going to try to make it, but i am very upset that they didn't take our feelings and thoughts into consideration.

Cleaver - posted on 12/24/2012

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im worried about too late, my french family wants to celebrate the revaillon on christmas eve (midnight mass followed by a late buffet) i keep having to remind my mother in law that its too late for the kids, i dont mind attending midnight mass i am roman catholic but how to they expect the toddlers to stay awake that late and if i wake my son in the middle of the night hell he WAY too cranky

Gigi - posted on 12/24/2012

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Or you could make a compromise and get there at 11, that way you have extra hour for your Christmas morning, but you are not way too late for family gathering.
And then you have a year to plan the next Christmas with your extended family and hopefully that one can be organized to start a bit later in the day.

Sue - posted on 12/23/2012

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i don't have an issue with it because of the presents, but the time and enjoying ourselves without being rushed, especially with a toddler who is very cranky for the entire day when woken up by alarm. we don't have much, me and my husband weren't able to get her many toys, his family probably spent more on her than we could. we only got stocking stuffers for each other. but i want our christmas mornings to be a tradition of waking up together, having breakfast, then enjoying our time as our imediate family unit without rushing. making those memories that last a lifetime, like i have of christmas' as a child

Michelle - posted on 12/23/2012

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You have 2 options stand your ground and don't be there at 10 or adjust your schedule wake up around 7 then your little one can enjoy her presents for a little while before you go. We travel 5 hours to spend Christmas with my inlaws and yes it is a hassle but my kids love going to see everyone they open their gifts there in the morning and can open 1 to play with the rest get packed in the truck so that we can take everyone home in the early afternoon. We then do Christmas all over again with my family on boxing day. Christmas is about spending time with family and not about the toys.

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